21 Feb 07
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I got this date from some girl on a dating site (the devil makes work for light hands), and it's the first time i've been on a date like this except for this blind date a mate set up.
What are the dos and don'ts ?
She asked me if i wanted to meet for drinks, and i said yes, i've just asked if she wants to go for a meal instead (my invite). We've only messaged each other twice each, so she's a meet up kinda person, might mean she does this a lot....i'm not sure.
The best advice gets a cookie, the lamest get's a thwack on the head with a cookie, and anyone who wants to put me down for going on the date in the first place can suck the back of my dangly bits.
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21 Feb 07
Originally posted by huckleberryhoundI think the best thing you can do initially is just get to know her and what kind of person she is, you know, there are a lot a freaks out there...
I got this date from some girl on a dating site (the devil makes work for light hands), and it's the first time i've been on a date like this except for this blind date a mate set up.
What are the dos and don'ts ?
She asked me if i wanted to meet for drinks, and i said yes, i've just asked if she wants to go for a meal instead (my invite). We' ...[text shortened]... ut me down for going on the date in the first place can suck the back of my dangly bits.
21 Feb 07
Originally posted by huckleberryhoundIs the cookie for the best advice the same as the one used for the thwacking?
I got this date from some girl on a dating site (the devil makes work for light hands), and it's the first time i've been on a date like this except for this blind date a mate set up.
What are the dos and don'ts ?
She asked me if i wanted to meet for drinks, and i said yes, i've just asked if she wants to go for a meal instead (my invite). We' ...[text shortened]... ut me down for going on the date in the first place can suck the back of my dangly bits.
Be that as it may, I think you are probably better off without my advice, as dating isn't exactly my field of experience. Good luck!
21 Feb 07
Originally posted by huckleberryhoundBring a laptop with you, during log on to RHP and post to the forums. When she speaks nod and agree. When she says you havn't been listening mention something about office politics.
I got this date from some girl on a dating site (the devil makes work for light hands), and it's the first time i've been on a date like this except for this blind date a mate set up.
What are the dos and don'ts ?
She asked me if i wanted to meet for drinks, and i said yes, i've just asked if she wants to go for a meal instead (my invite). We' ...[text shortened]... ut me down for going on the date in the first place can suck the back of my dangly bits.
21 Feb 07
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Originally posted by huckleberryhoundHuck,
I got this date from some girl on a dating site (the devil makes work for light hands), and it's the first time i've been on a date like this except for this blind date a mate set up.
What are the dos and don'ts ?
She asked me if i wanted to meet for drinks, and i said yes, i've just asked if she wants to go for a meal instead (my invite). We' ut me down for going on the date in the first place can suck the back of my dangly bits.
You're going to get a lot of people making fun of you. Ignore them.
When I was first divorced I spent a few years going on lots of dates, including many from personal ads. This was mid 90s, so personal ads at the time were those in the newspaper with voicemail boxes. So no pictures, no online chat. If the person liked the message you left they would call you back and talk. I met probably 20-30 women, maybe 8-10 resulted in a followup date. Here's my advice:
1) Delay evaluation. That is, it is very tempting to quickly evaluate the person, are they attractive (usually no), are they crazy (usually yes). It is tempting to act like this is a job interview for an open "girlfriend" position. Avoid this.
2) Limit your expectations. You might meet someone who you aren't attracted to at all, and don't connect with. If that happens and you feel it was a "total waste of time" then you expected too much. Instead go into this with the expectation that you will spend an hour getting to know a new person - anything on top of that is a bonus.
3) Try not to ask interview-like questions. One woman right off the bat started in "if you were my boyfriend would you call me every morning at work?", "if you were my boyfriend blah blah blah?".
4) Try to be funny. It is crucial to be funny and not overly serious on almost any first date, but particularly on a blind/personal ad date.
5) People a f***in insane. I mean it. Expect totally insanity. At worst you will be amused.
6) If you meet for drinks and she is a smokin' hot redhead, and then you go get drunk playing pool, and she wants to walk downtown and make out in a fountain in broad daylight, go for it, but first take your wallet out of your pocket (a soggy wallet and money takes days to dry, I discovered).
edit: 7) If she is a smokin' hot brunette lawyer and she points out that she carries a gun, always know where the gun is.
21 Feb 07
Originally posted by huckleberryhoundYou saw Taxi Driver, right? Don't do that.
I got this date from some girl on a dating site (the devil makes work for light hands), and it's the first time i've been on a date like this except for this blind date a mate set up.
What are the dos and don'ts ?
She asked me if i wanted to meet for drinks, and i said yes, i've just asked if she wants to go for a meal instead (my invite). We' ...[text shortened]... ut me down for going on the date in the first place can suck the back of my dangly bits.
21 Feb 07
Originally posted by huckleberryhoundJust go and have a good time! 🙂😉
I got this date from some girl on a dating site (the devil makes work for light hands), and it's the first time i've been on a date like this except for this blind date a mate set up.
What are the dos and don'ts ?
She asked me if i wanted to meet for drinks, and i said yes, i've just asked if she wants to go for a meal instead (my invite). We' ...[text shortened]... ut me down for going on the date in the first place can suck the back of my dangly bits.
21 Feb 07
Originally posted by huckleberryhoundIf you fancy her, mirror her movements over dinner, if she does the same to yours it is a sure sign that there's an attraction there. Sub-conscious body language is very telling if you know what to look for.
I got this date from some girl on a dating site (the devil makes work for light hands), and it's the first time i've been on a date like this except for this blind date a mate set up.
What are the dos and don'ts ?
She asked me if i wanted to meet for drinks, and i said yes, i've just asked if she wants to go for a meal instead (my invite). We' ...[text shortened]... ut me down for going on the date in the first place can suck the back of my dangly bits.
21 Feb 07
Originally posted by huckleberryhoundas i live closer to you than RookRAK, i'll just copy his post and you can send me the cookie instead
I got this date from some girl on a dating site (the devil makes work for light hands), and it's the first time i've been on a date like this except for this blind date a mate set up.
What are the dos and don'ts ?
She asked me if i wanted to meet for drinks, and i said yes, i've just asked if she wants to go for a meal instead (my invite). We' ...[text shortened]... ut me down for going on the date in the first place can suck the back of my dangly bits.
Huck,
You're going to get a lot of people making fun of you. Ignore them.
When I was first divorced I spent a few years going on lots of dates, including many from personal ads. This was mid 90s, so personal ads at the time were those in the newspaper with voicemail boxes. So no pictures, no online chat. If the person liked the message you left they would call you back and talk. I met probably 20-30 women, maybe 8-10 resulted in a followup date. Here's my advice:
1) Delay evaluation. That is, it is very tempting to quickly evaluate the person, are they attractive (usually no), are they crazy (usually yes). It is tempting to act like this is a job interview for an open "girlfriend" position. Avoid this.
2) Limit your expectations. You might meet someone who you aren't attracted to at all, and don't connect with. If that happens and you feel it was a "total waste of time" then you expected too much. Instead go into this with the expectation that you will spend an hour getting to know a new person - anything on top of that is a bonus.
3) Try not to ask interview-like questions. One woman right off the bat started in "if you were my boyfriend would you call me every morning at work?", "if you were my boyfriend blah blah blah?".
4) Try to be funny. It is crucial to be funny and not overly serious on almost any first date, but particularly on a blind/personal ad date.
5) People a f***in insane. I mean it. Expect totally insanity. At worst you will be amused.
6) If you meet for drinks and she is a smokin' hot redhead, and then you go get drunk playing pool, and she wants to walk downtown and make out in a fountain in broad daylight, go for it, but first take your wallet out of your pocket (a soggy wallet and money takes days to dry, I discovered).
edit: 7) If she is a smokin' hot brunette lawyer and she points out that she carries a gun, always know where the gun is.
you can also send some apple pie. thanks. good luck with *wait - she's irish? you're golden whatever you do or say just feed her with alcohol and chocolate all night.
21 Feb 07
Originally posted by StarrmanWould be interesting to see what happens if Huck puts his pack of condoms on the table.
If you fancy her, mirror her movements over dinner, if she does the same to yours it is a sure sign that there's an attraction there. Sub-conscious body language is very telling if you know what to look for.
21 Feb 07
Originally posted by huckleberryhoundstay home and play conquerquest. I'm waiting on you in 3 games today.
The best advice gets a cookie, the lamest get's a thwack on the head with a cookie, and anyone who wants to put me down for going on the date in the first place can suck the back of my dangly bits.