Originally posted by Jay PeateaNah. It is like fly that keeps on annoying you. You wanted to swat it but they just don't let go. They keep on coming back.
It is perfectly natural to think about previous loves & potiential new lovers. Maybe these thoughts (i.e. the grass is greener on the otherside of the fence) have surfaced because of problems with your current partner?.
Even in my dream sometimes my first love will just show up and they were vivid ones. Not so often though. Maybe I just to much love to share (to good to be true). Remember the giant rubber band?😀
Originally posted by queen1721I think this is perfectly natural. I often think back wistfully of a very special lady I knew in high school. She made an impact on my life, and I look back at the time I spent with her fondly. I myself have been married for several years and have kids, but I think my wistfulness is only natural. One of my favorite sayings: "God gave us memories so that we might enjoy roses in December." 🙂
Nah. It is like fly that keeps on annoying you. You wanted to swat it but they just don't let go. They keep on coming back.
Even in my dream sometimes my first love will just show up and they were vivid ones. Not so often though. Maybe I just to much love to share (to good to be true). Remember the giant rubber band?😀
Originally posted by OmnislashHave you asked yourself what could have been ? And what could have not been?Typical questions I think.😀
I think this is perfectly natural. I often think back wistfully of a very special lady I knew in high school. She made an impact on my life, and I look back at the time I spent with her fondly. I myself have been married for several years and have kids, but I think my wistfulness is only natural. One of my favorite sayings: "God gave us memories so that we might enjoy roses in December." 🙂
Originally posted by queen1721I have asked myself those questions more times than I can count. Most of all though, I too have thought about contacting them. I know there is no easy answer, because I myself struggle with this question.
Have you asked yourself what could have been ? And what could have not been?Typical questions I think.😀
Originally posted by OmnislashWhen it occurs I just deal with it positively. Maybe it was destined to be the way it has been. The problem is I am skeptical about destiny. I just reason out that maybe things turn out for the better to all parties concern and that love is constant but it has variations and can be derived perpetually.As a consolation, letting go is the ultimate expression of love.
I have asked myself those questions more times than I can count. Most of all though, I too have thought about contacting them. I know there is no easy answer, because I myself struggle with this question.
Originally posted by queen1721I agree with you on all points. Perhaps it is sometimes better to love someone pure and chaste from afar. Perhaps the only thing that matters is that there is love, and not so much how it is shared. In the same fashion, I find it a warm thought to think perhaps there is someone I have touched so and they think back of me in this way. I should hope so, and it is in that hope that I feel that the love I give is much more important that what I receive. 🙂
When it occurs I just deal with it positively. Maybe it was destined to be the way it has been. The problem is I am skeptical about destiny. I just reason out that maybe things turn out for the better to all parties concern and that love is constant but it has variations and can be derived perpetually.As a consolation, letting go is the ultimate expression of love.
Originally posted by OmnislashFor all those we have loved I guess it is just fitting that I or we thank them for giving us a chance to share a piece of our life . I always believe that the chance given is worth the reciprocate.😲
I agree with you on all points. Perhaps it is sometimes better to love someone pure and chaste from afar. Perhaps the only thing that matters is that there is love, and not so much how it is shared. In the same fashion, I find it a warm thought to think perhaps there is someone I have touched so and they think back of me in this way. I should hope so, and ...[text shortened]... is in that hope that I feel that the love I give is much more important that what I receive. 🙂
Originally posted by Coach PreNah! It is not reallly affecting my marriage.Wella as in not the whole aspect of my married life.I still function as spouse ought to be although a little mediocre compared to some.I guess it affects me more as person. I don't cheat. I mean I am faithful and loyal. That is the way I am.I don't just jump from one relation to another.For me loyalty is sacred.That is the reason why I feel guilty.In as much as I want to forget It just won't go. It keeps on haunting me.I entertain it maybe because memories good or bad for me they are treasures for keeps. Because it has somethig to do with someone you used to love or still does.You don't have to be physically present to love someone. I guess by being the best you can be is one sure way to prove it. And I am sure it will bring positive results.But when it is not then that is the time that I am quite bothered.When it affects my functions as a parent,spouse and as a christian.
You know what?My first love brings out the best in me.I am always at my best behaviour.Now my spouse brings out the worst and best in me.It makes me feel human.Despite the fact of seeing the worst of me we are still in the thick of the fight for survival.That is one hell of a thing to be thankful for.I count my blessings! I count my children and better half and multiply them to the Nth power!😉
Originally posted by queen1721It's not my style to tell others how they should think, feel or behave with the exception of coaching duties etc. (Athletes excluded!) And I am not trying to "be the know it all", but it seems to me that you have set your first love up on some kind of pedistal. Maybe you need to dwell on some of the bad times you had. Obviously, it was not God's will for you to be with your first love and I would try to change your thinking, and realize that maybe your husband is your best friend and your true First Real love. I think he as well as your kids deserve that.
Nah! It is not reallly affecting my marriage.Wella as in not the whole aspect of my married life.I still function as spouse ought to be although a little mediocre compared to some.I guess it affects me more as person. I don't cheat. I mean I am faithful and loyal. That is the way I am.I don't just jump from one relation to another.For me loyalty is sacre ...[text shortened]... .I count my blessings! I count my children and better half and multiply them to the Nth power!😉