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What are your thoughts on this? Are you unerved by women who pay their way or do you find this attractive? Maybe you insist on paying for everything but deep down inside you resent it and wish she'd offer sometimes but feel too embarrassed to mention it? What if she earns lots more than you yet still expects you to pay?
Originally posted by drewnogalMarriage obliterated all these questions for me.
What are your thoughts on this? Are you unerved by women who pay their way or do you find this attractive? Maybe you insist on paying for everything but deep down inside you resent it and wish she'd offer sometimes but feel too embarrassed to mention it? What if she earns lots more than you yet still expects you to pay?
Originally posted by drewnogalIt is attractive unless she INSISTS every time. Then it gets obnoxious.
What are your thoughts on this? Are you unerved by women who pay their way or do you find this attractive? Maybe you insist on paying for everything but deep down inside you resent it and wish she'd offer sometimes but feel too embarrassed to mention it? What if she earns lots more than you yet still expects you to pay?
If a woman with more money always insisted I always pay for dates she better be either damn good in bed - maybe even submissively so like I tell her what to do and she does it - or the mother of my children or both.
Otherwise I'd feel like she was just using me because she thought I was weak and would let her. She'd probably cheat on me anyway the selfish b* after I bought her dinner with one of her paid gigolos.
I'd rather be the gigolo than the sucker who wastes on his money on a woman for nothing.
20 Feb 17
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Originally posted by drewnogalI am from the old school. I think that the man should always pay. Probably gives away my age but at this point it really doesn't matter to me. Even if I am out with a group, I usually pay for the group. ( Talking about a meal here)
What are your thoughts on this? Are you unerved by women who pay their way or do you find this attractive? Maybe you insist on paying for everything but deep down inside you resent it and wish she'd offer sometimes but feel too embarrassed to mention it? What if she earns lots more than you yet still expects you to pay?
I am pleasantly surprised when someone else in the group offer to pay the tab, I must admit.
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20 Feb 17
Originally posted by drewnogalThis should not be an issue. Reverse the genders to see your question in a new light.
What are your thoughts on this? Are you unerved by women who pay their way or do you find this attractive? Maybe you insist on paying for everything but deep down inside you resent it and wish she'd offer sometimes but feel too embarrassed to mention it? What if she earns lots more than you yet still expects you to pay?
20 Feb 17
Originally posted by AThousandYoungDude! Issues, much?
It is attractive unless she INSISTS every time. Then it gets obnoxious.
If a woman with more money always insisted I always pay for dates she better be either damn good in bed - maybe even submissively so like I tell her what to do and she does it - or the mother of my children or both.
Otherwise I'd feel like she was just using me because she t ...[text shortened]... gigolos.
I'd rather be the gigolo than the sucker who wastes on his money on a woman for nothing.
20 Feb 17
Originally posted by drewnogalYou have a dinner date with a new bloke and you want to know if he'll find it awkward for you to split the tab or pay in full.
What are your thoughts on this? Are you unerved by women who pay their way or do you find this attractive? Maybe you insist on paying for everything but deep down inside you resent it and wish she'd offer sometimes but feel too embarrassed to mention it? What if she earns lots more than you yet still expects you to pay?
My advice: When in doubt, don't. Next time, if there is a next time, set the ground rules in advance.
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20 Feb 17
Originally posted by drewnogalNever crosses my mind, but then I've had one joint bank account with my wife for nearly 27 years so it's not an issue. If I was "out there again" I'd like to be treated to a meal occasionally, and reciprocate, otherwise it's 50/50 I guess.
What are your thoughts on this? Are you unerved by women who pay their way or do you find this attractive? Maybe you insist on paying for everything but deep down inside you resent it and wish she'd offer sometimes but feel too embarrassed to mention it? What if she earns lots more than you yet still expects you to pay?
20 Feb 17
Originally posted by drewnogal50/50 please. True equality is not judging who pays on gender.
What are your thoughts on this? Are you unerved by women who pay their way or do you find this attractive? Maybe you insist on paying for everything but deep down inside you resent it and wish she'd offer sometimes but feel too embarrassed to mention it? What if she earns lots more than you yet still expects you to pay?
20 Feb 17
Originally posted by apathistOriginally posted by drewnogal
This should not be an issue. Reverse the genders to see your question in a new light.
What are your thoughts on this? Are you unerved by men who pay their way or do you find this attractive? Maybe you insist on paying for everything but deep down inside you resent it and wish he'd offer sometimes but feel too embarrassed to mention it? What if he earns lots more than you yet still expects you to pay?
It looks weird!
One justification I read for the man paying was that women fork out a lot of money to look good for a man on a date such as hair appointments, make-up, clothes etc.
20 Feb 17
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Originally posted by drewnogalUnless there is a huge difference in financial circumstances, if taken out to dinner I would prefer that he takes the cost the first time, then we take turns or split 50/50. I would feel uncomfortable if he insisted on paying every time.
What are your thoughts on this? Are you unerved by women who pay their way or do you find this attractive? Maybe you insist on paying for everything but deep down inside you resent it and wish she'd offer sometimes but feel too embarrassed to mention it? What if she earns lots more than you yet still expects you to pay?
