Originally posted by yo its meYou're a single mum?
Good grief, yep that sucks!
here I think the amblance crew have to take you in and have you checked out once they've made the journey. My day was a stressful, in a presure all on me kind of way. That's being a single mum, that's how it is going to be some days I guess.
I'm a single dad!
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Originally posted by yo its meYes and no. (I dont know if you agree with this) but I see that some people have inbuilt virtues whereas others have to work on them real hard
There's no such thing as socail leagues imo.
I didn't know your a single parent. Hard work isn't it!
. Looking after children seems to be one of the things I have been blessed with- even through those tough teenage years,(I also have a 16 yr old daughter who has been an amazing kid throughout her whole life. I would like to think I had something to do with that. Did you handwash nappies? I did. Now thats hard 🙂 ). I have sole custody of my boy because of the testemonials of my neighbours when I broke up with my partner.
My old neighbours (I've moved since) may not like me (they dont for the most part). I am loud for one thing, which people dont seem to like and which seems to be a lesson that I have been learning my entire life. But when it comes to children, even other people's children, I have been given glowing,generous references by the same 'little old ladies ' that generally dislike me otherwise. 🙂 hehe.
Thanks for the response. I didn't know you were a female despite having read many of your posts - which is a strong compliment.
I have messaged one or two other females on here only to be "shut out" .
After all, I live in Australia, we are hardly likely to ever meet each other in person.
And if it's one thing I've learnt being single again is that I really like it.
It would have to be one genuine miracle for me to get to get together with another woman , despite him needing some female influence in his life - which is fulfilled by my mother sometimes and me the rest of the time.
Breast feeding was the only thing I failed at 😉
Originally posted by karoly aczelI don't know how that's a compliment, but if that's how you ment it, thanks.
Yes and no. (I dont know if you agree with this) but I see that some people have inbuilt virtues whereas others have to work on them real hard
. Looking after children seems to be one of the things I have been blessed with- even through those tough teenage years,(I also have a 16 yr old daughter who has been an amazing kid throughout her whole life. I ...[text shortened]... metimes and me the rest of the time.
Breast feeding was the only thing I failed at 😉
Yeah about being natural, I agree and I htink everyone is natural at somehtings. I have a natural tallent for understanding people or maybe its true that there are 7 types of intelegence and for me I have interpersonal- I don't know for sure about all that. But I do know I have found parenthood hard work. It wasn't in my life plans to be a mum. I had plans, big plans- that included being a designer and travelling the world. Don't get me wrong, I love being a mum and I try my best at it and bieng able to understand people really helps but if I didn't have work to go to I would have gone crazy by now.
Nappies! i soaked them in napisan and put them through the boil wash on the machine, touched them as little as possiable they were horrible! As soon as I got hte kids on to bottles I changed to disposiable ones becasue, as you know I'm sure, the nappies start to smell horrid when they stop breast feeding!
As for dating, I agree with you that it's nice to be single. I've dated a little, met 15 people but to be honest if a man isn't crazy about me then it's not worth my time and if I'm not sitting there on the first date wondering how he kisses it's not worth me seeing him twice.
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Originally posted by yo its meDating is a very american thing. Some people work like that here in australia but I dont think most do.
I don't know how that's a compliment, but if that's how you ment it, thanks.
Yeah about being natural, I agree and I htink everyone is natural at somehtings. I have a natural tallent for understanding people or maybe its true that there are 7 types of intelegence and for me I have interpersonal- I don't know for sure about all that. But I do know I have here on the first date wondering how he kisses it's not worth me seeing him twice.
Your either with someone or your not. "Dating" seems to be some sort of intermediate thing that you do while getting to know the person.
But then you get guys who have a coffee with a girl and then say they had a date , and imply they are dating , and all sorts of other rubbish like that.
Anyway, I like flirting, but in between my 2 serious r'ships I had a 7 year gap where I didn't so much as touch a woman.
It's just so rare to meet women who aren't scared to flirt and throw some words around without it meaning too much other than finding where you fit in (or not) with that person.
Body language and other things give guys intentions away most of the time. I'm not into dating despite knowing a few attractive females, I can see that the emotional side is just not worth it unless there is a strong connection from the begining.
in fact, that's how I treat all my r'ships - male or female. It's usually the first encounter that decides whether it's going to be worth pursuing.
I have been described as a 'beautiful carwreck' by a very beautiful friend (girl). Most guys would want to "date" her just to be seen with such an attractive woman, and possibly get laid. I'm not like that.
At 37 I can see myself going another 7 or 17 years, or possibly my whole life without a girlie (thats my fave term. i hate "partner", "girlfriend" and just about anything else).
I also hate co-dependency. But if 2 people can truly add something to each others lives (ie both have more pros than cons then it could be worthwhile) .
Nearly 50% of marriages end in divorce and the majority that stay together do so for the sake of one or more of a few basic factors
lonliness
financial dependency
sake of the children
lack of imagination or creativity
Then there are that small percentile of couples that have a genuinely meaningful and happy r'ship.
Marriage is a piece of paper.
Despite this dismal outlook i believe I know 2 male members on this site that have genuinely happy r'ships with their girlies/wives. Wow!
Thats a high percentage considering how many people I know on here.
I only responded like this because of your response, after all, I keep all my options open , with women and otherwise.
Most of them bear no fruit but hey, I really dont care how you or anyone else perceives me - I am at peace with myself and have been for a long time and I value all human contact very highly - wherever it may or may not lead .