Originally posted by yo its meThere's a cost associated with any temporal relationship. Long courtships (to get to know the person and to get comfortable with
Men. One man. oh life I guess, how it goes. I spent so long making things good and now it's out of my hands and he's s stupid poo for throwing it all away, only it's me how hurts and not him. That's not how it should be when I tried so hard.
what he or she is from the inside out) usually result in long, fulfilled marriges. Short courtships keep the pipers in business.
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Originally posted by Grampy Bobby13 years, 13 eventful years giving us four children.
There's a cost associated with any temporal relationship. Long courtships (to get to know the person and to get comfortable with
what he or she is from the inside out) usually result in long, fulfilled marriges. Short courtships keep the pipers in business.
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We've watched eachother almost die.
Had debts, over came them.
You're way off mark there Gramps.
He simply made a bad decision about 3 months ago that I can't let go, and he makes that decision everyday.
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Originally posted by yo its meAnd I expect posting in a general forum, even if I have been chatting to you guys for a long time is going to be a bad idea. I was just so angry last night. Time for a long swim!!
He's depressed and making stupid choices and fing up 6 lives in the process. I'm not crazy and I won't put up with it. I'm just so very angry becasue I've known he was depressed and I tried so imposiably hard to make this work for years and years and it was all for nothing.
More than a few people including myself have done the same, it's an outlet... sometimes it helps to talk about things to people you don't really know.
Depression is a difficult one, all mental diseases are. I don't think you can expect rational decisions from someone suffering mentally. I hope it all works out in the end somehow.
Originally posted by Trev33Thank you
[b]And I expect posting in a general forum, even if I have been chatting to you guys for a long time is going to be a bad idea. I was just so angry last night. Time for a long swim!!
More than a few people including myself have done the same, it's an outlet... sometimes it helps to talk about things to people you don't really know.
Depression is a ...[text shortened]... tional decisions from someone suffering mentally. I hope it all works out in the end somehow.[/b]
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Originally posted by yo its meMy post to your thread chose to respect your privacy, by mentioning the desirability of long courtships in the interest of future prevention in a general way (rather than presume to delve into the details of your present heartaches which are nobody's business except your own). You conclude... "You're way off mark there Gramps. He simply made a bad decision about 3 months ago that I can't let go, and he makes that decision everyday."
13 years, 13 eventful years giving us four children.
We've watched eachother almost die.
Had debts, over came them.
You're way off mark there Gramps.
He simply made a bad decision about 3 months ago that I can't let go, and he makes that decision everyday.
YIM, I've been off the mark many times before. This time, however, I found your gradual account of what was causing you to "Scream" to be heart rending. Seen husbands and wives get blindsided by unthinkable decisions and actions of their spouses (unfaithfulness, physical abuse, random rape, pedophile activities within and outside of their own families, excessive alcohol use to the point of non-stop intoxication, drug addiction, etc) many times before. It's always sad and usually without remedy or relief. Divorce is generally justified by these hurtful, illegal activities for the sake of the victim and any children involved.
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Originally posted by yo its meForget it, I forgot my poor taste rule.
13 years, 13 eventful years giving us four children.
We've watched eachother almost die.
Had debts, over came them.
You're way off mark there Gramps.
He simply made a bad decision about 3 months ago that I can't let go, and he makes that decision everyday.
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Originally posted by Grampy Bobby[/b]I appreasiate your interest GB. Reading your list I'm thinking I'm lucky! But still it's something I can't let go of after all these years of trying to make things work.
My post to your thread chose to respect your privacy, by mentioning the desirability of long courtships in the interest of future prevention in a general way (rather than presume to delve into the details of your present heartaches which are nobody's business except your own). You conclude... [b]"You're way off mark there Gramps. He simply made a bad de hurtful, illegal activities for the sake of the victim and any children involved.
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Originally posted by yo its meHard choices are never easy but there comes a time when you can't "take it" anymore and have to do what YOU feel is the right thing. Never second guess that choice once you've made it. Good luck Yo...good luck.
I appreasiate your interest GB. Reading your list I'm thinking I'm lucky! But still it's something I can't let go of after all these years of trying to make things work.[/b]
Originally posted by yo its meThere's one other simple yet devastating thing I didn't mention but will do so by personal message in the morning. Okay. -gb
I appreasiate your interest GB. Reading your list I'm thinking I'm lucky! But still it's something I can't let go of after all these years of trying to make things work.[/b]
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Originally posted by yo its meHey, yo. For what it's worth:
But since the kids are all asleep, I guess I'll hold it in.
You having a grand old day?
My lot is similar to yours, in that the anticipated perfection simply forgot to show up. Ask my wife of 17 years and she'll say the same thing from her perspective. The problem (always) is the other; it's never my unrealistic expectations, nor could it be my skewed version of reality. It's not a matter of different tastes, since my tastes are dictum whereas hers are even less binding/weighted. Ditto, her to me.
She does deal-breakers nearly daily, throwing nuclear weapons around like wads of paper and then acts as though anything more than a second old nearly never happened. She says the same thing about me.
She is literally bat-stuff crazy with her various stubborn neurosis-induced triggers and can't see the forest for the trees if the trees were ablaze and scorching her eyelashes when her mind is set. She hates that about me.
Hers is the last face I want to see as I exit this plane, is the last breath I want to feel on my cheek. She'd rather get licked by the family dog.
I'll make sure he's in the room.