Can I ask you, please, to anyone who left home to live alone:
What age where you when you left home?
What country was that in (a European or African country etc- so I have an idea of how safe it would have been)?
How many hours did you move away from your family (roughly)?
Was it a good move, were you okay, did it all go alright?
@yo-its-me
I separated from my partner 1987 after living with him for 12 years. It was the right thing to do as life as single is easier for me, and more natural. It all depends how you are as a person. Is this what you asked, Yo? 🙂
@torunn said@torunn
@yo-its-me
I separated from my partner 1987 after living with him for 12 years. It was the right thing to do as life as single is easier for me, and more natural. It all depends how you are as a person. Is this what you asked, Yo? 🙂
Thank you for answering my post.
I meant more, when you left your parents.
My son is young, he's still a child, but he wants to live some distance away from me.
While he's away we get on better and he's very responsible, so I'm leaning towards allowing this.
But I am anxious (a consistent running theme in my parenthood) that it could be the wrong decision and something awful could happen.
So I guess, I am after re-assurance that other people left home at a young age and they were just fine 🙂
I left home when I was 18 which is older than my son is. I was fine, but I was living in an institution to study and my son won't be so it's different. But my uncle left home when he was younger than my son and he was fine.
@ponderable saidThank you, that's helpful.
I was 18 in germany it was okay. There wasn't family life anyway (divorced parents, and my father, with whom I lived basically lived at his girlfriend at that time).
@yo-its-me
17-1/2. About 2 hours away, to go to college, in California. It was great. Never looked back. My step-mother gave me emergency lessons in how to operate a washing machine 😆
After I finished college, I moved about five hours away, still in California. Two years later, to the UK; now permanently in Europe. Travel broadens the mind; learning to cope in foreign cultures is enormously empowering.
@moonbus saidThank you, that's really helpful.
@yo-its-me
17-1/2. About 2 hours away, to go to college, in California. It was great. Never looked back. My step-mother gave me emergency lessons in how to operate a washing machine 😆
If it hadn't been college, if you'd been living alone in a studio flat but seeing some people most days in the week- would that have changed anything for you?
What I mean is, was there someone looking out for you and if not would you have been safe, looking back.
@yo-its-me
Thank you, Yo. I realize your concern and you are right thinking he might be a bit young. If you can solve practical matters such as economy it might be worth a try as you say you get on well. His reasons for moving are another thing - why is he anxious to live on his own?
@torunn saidIt's a long story!
@yo-its-me
Thank you, Yo. I realize your concern and you are right thinking he might be a bit young. If you can solve practical matters such as economy it might be worth a try as you say you get on well. His reasons for moving is another thing - why is he anxious to live on his own?
Can I send you a game Torunn?
@yo-its-me saiddear momma bear,
I am anxious that it could be the wrong decision and something awful could happen.
something awful WILL happen and there is nothing you can do to prevent it from happening
this is the human path
there is no refuge from the pain of life
love is our only respite
may peace wash over yer consciousness and provide you with strength
@rookie54 saidYou're very sweet Rookie 🙂
dear momma bear,
something awful WILL happen and there is nothing you can do to prevent it from happening
this is the human path
there is no refuge from the pain of life
love is our only respite
may peace wash over yer consciousness and provide you with strength
@yo-its-me saidLeft home at 18. Would have been a year earlier but was injured in an accident which put my job move back. Life at home had become intolerable despite my parents caring deeply for me we rowed a lot and I wouldn’t comply with their expectations.
Can I ask you, please, to anyone who left home to live alone:
What age where you when you left home?
What country was that in (a European or African country etc- so I have an idea of how safe it would have been)?
How many hours did you move away from your family (roughly)?
Was it a good move, were you okay, did it all go alright?
Moved 200 miles away and didn’t speak to them for a year, didn’t tell them where I was living, they tracked me down, called me up and we argued again and didn’t speak again for a while. Eventually I learned better ways of how to manage family conflict.
We gradually grew closer over the next decade.
@divegeester saidI feel your parents pain when you were 18 and they didn't know where you were. Terrifying. This is something I am scared of, loosing touch with my son. I want him to let me track him (iphone find my) but he says that's an invasion of his privacy.
Left home at 18. Would have been a year earlier but was injured in an accident which put my job move back. Life at home had become intolerable despite my parents caring deeply for me we rowed a lot and I wouldn’t comply with their expectations.
Moved 200 miles away and didn’t speak to them for a year, didn’t tell them where I was living, they tracked me down, called m ...[text shortened]... ned better ways of how to manage family conflict.
We gradually grew closer over the next decade.
@rookie54 saidWise words.
dear momma bear,
something awful WILL happen and there is nothing you can do to prevent it from happening
this is the human path
there is no refuge from the pain of life
love is our only respite
may peace wash over yer consciousness and provide you with strength