why didn't you tell me this before i clicked the link???
if you have never seen the movie "there's something about mary",
you seriously need to get yer tush down to the local blockbuster and rent the tape...
@hand-of-hecatesaid Henry Rollins once said that pain is “probably the only thing that is your own.” I see myself as a block of stone standing resolute in the chaotic river of life that swirls around me. I’ve used pain, loss and anger to chisel out a form from the uncarved block I started with. I’m left with a sturdy structure, but, one with sharp edges and just as likely to roll over and ...[text shortened]... shonest and fragile inventions. Better to be carved out of stone with a chisel honed sharp by pain.
You and Rollins are neglecting one other thing which is truly yours: how you judge what pains you.
"Come what will upon such parts of me as can be affected by its incidence; they may complain of it if they will. As for myself, if I do not view the thing as an evil, I take no hurt. And nothing compels me to view it so."