Originally posted by KJCavalierI don't know you, but happy to hear your good news!
So the case was heard and, I won! I have custody of my daughters! It was almost comical to watch.
The official ruling is The injunction placed against their step-dad has been dismissed. The evidence used was misstated and old. This was when I said that my daughter had received 2 black eyes and blamed my oldest for it. This is fine, since I just didn't ...[text shortened]... y for her. She hasn't got a clue.
If you believe, pray for her. She needs it badly.
I will remember all of you in my prayers.
Originally posted by KJCavalierCongrats KJ!! Glad things worked out for the best.
So the case was heard and, I won! I have custody of my daughters! It was almost comical to watch.
The official ruling is The injunction placed against their step-dad has been dismissed. The evidence used was misstated and old. This was when I said that my daughter had received 2 black eyes and blamed my oldest for it. This is fine, since I just didn't ...[text shortened]... y for her. She hasn't got a clue.
If you believe, pray for her. She needs it badly.
Thank you all for your support and advice. It hasn't gone on deaf ears. There seems to be plenty of us who realize that real life still happens even while we play here.
I wish this routine on no one. I am glad I have my girls, and any parent worth being called a parent would be happy for my girls as well. Nevermind myself. It is and has always been about them and their well being.
I've even received a few PM's as well on this. Some quite interesting, all in favor of helping my girls. Again Thank you.
I did know I would get support from RHP members even though I wouldn't ask for it. It does help, although none truly know who I am either. Just my persona online and my clan involvements. But even past that. Short Circuit and I are in feuding clans and we have gotten past that for this. Great Community Russ & Co. even if you don't read this one.
Thank you again for allowing me to use this as a sounding board.
Originally posted by KJCavalierWonderful news! I'm very happy for you and your daughters.
So the case was heard and, I won! I have custody of my daughters! It was almost comical to watch.
The official ruling is The injunction placed against their step-dad has been dismissed. The evidence used was misstated and old. This was when I said that my daughter had received 2 black eyes and blamed my oldest for it. This is fine, since I just didn't ...[text shortened]... y for her. She hasn't got a clue.
If you believe, pray for her. She needs it badly.
Well this case hasn't ended the way I would have wanted it to. April 6th was her arraignment hearing. It seems that instead of their mother pleading guilty to the charge of Domestic violence against my oldest, she has plead not guilty. So the saga continues. The courts have scheduled a disposition hearing for April 30th. From what I am to understand, this is where the attorney's get together and hash out the facts of the case to determine what course of action is needed to resolve the case. Now if there any attorney's out there that can further explain this, then be my guest. I just can't figure out why she pleaded not guilty! I guess she really wants to drag this thing out further and further.
Why can't she just let this end..........
On a completely different note, My mother's house just caught on fire. Just to add to this mess. Thankfully it's not a total loss and can be rebuilt in a reasonable time frame (3 weeks), but it has caused even more burden on the entire family.
Originally posted by KJCavalierArgh. I am very sorry to hear this. In a way she's just continuing the violence by non-physical means. Stay strong.
Well this case hasn't ended the way I would have wanted it to. April 6th was her arraignment hearing. It seems that instead of their mother pleading guilty to the charge of Domestic violence against my oldest, she has plead not guilty. So the saga continues. The courts have scheduled a disposition hearing for April 30th. From what I am to understand, this ...[text shortened]... reasonable time frame (3 weeks), but it has caused even more burden on the entire family.
Originally posted by NordlysTrust me, I am staying the course on this one.
Argh. I am very sorry to hear this. In a way she's just continuing the violence by non-physical means. Stay strong.
Interesting note though. I have allowed her to talk to her daughters via a supervised phone call everyday from 4:30pm until 7pm The time frame is mainly sue to work and school schedules. She has called my youngest 3 times and not even once to my oldest 2. Seems tome like she doesn't really want them anymore.
So here it is, 2 months later since this whole crazy mess started and, We still won't know the outcome of my ex's trail for another week, my older 2 girls have determined I'm not worth the time of day to them, and counseling starts on Tuesday.
Asking my girls to at least say hi, is worse than pulling teeth. I ask them to visit this weekend and the response I got from my middle child was a quite literal F$%K NO! She has no definitive reason for saying this, just that she doesn't know to trust me yet. The damage is very very deep.
This was my cuddle-bug when she was younger, Always happy and content to just lay there on my lap and cuddle with her daddy. Now she thinks I am the villain as well. Although I have done nothing to her but love her.
My heart sinks some more. I hope the counseling sessions will do us all some good.
It is also getting close to my youngest 15th birthday, and the ex is wanting to spend some time with her. I just don't know. My daughter won't mind spending some time with her, but there is a major trust factor that has been broken. I really don't know.
My wife hurts because I hurt. She sees I have and will continue to do whatever it takes to help my daughters out. Show them love compassion and caring, and yet I am treated like garbage by them. I will only account part of this being older teens, but not all of it.
Originally posted by KJCavalierYou are taking all the right steps. Counseling will be incredibly painful, for you, as well as for them, but as long as you go with an open heart and try hard to listen, you will all make progress. This will not happen quickly, so take it like you would any other challenge. Just one day at a time, sometimes even an afternoon, or a minute at a time. Things will improve, and several of us here are watching for your updates and care for you and your family. Please continue to keep us posted.
So here it is, 2 months later since this whole crazy mess started and, We still won't know the outcome of my ex's trail for another week, my older 2 girls have determined I'm not worth the time of day to them, and counseling starts on Tuesday.
Asking my girls to at least say hi, is worse than pulling teeth. I ask them to visit this weekend and the res ...[text shortened]... e garbage by them. I will only account part of this being older teens, but not all of it.
Well here it is, June 12th. It's 4:30 in the morning here and, I have another court date looming later this morning.
Mom has decided that now is the time to get her chance to get her kids back. now mind you, she has domestic violence courses to still go through. our local child protective services is happy whee the kids are, and the oldest 2 still want nothing at all to do with her, but she still thinks it is time.
There is always the 1 percent chance that she will win this, I don't see how, but there is a chance. Even after allowing her the time to talk with her kids, get a little time with her kids, and encouraged her to do what she needs to do to make it right with her kids, she pulls this stunt.
Of course I received a copy of the motion filed to have the injunction lifted, in her statements she makes that I am playing God with her life. Letting her know what she can and can't do with my girls. Funny, I would have thought she lost those rights all together. I told her I would help her mend the relationship with her kids, but she had to do the right thing. She hasn't.
I don't know, I just don't know.
Originally posted by KJCavalierI lost
Well here it is, June 12th. It's 4:30 in the morning here and, I have another court date looming later this morning.
Mom has decided that now is the time to get her chance to get her kids back. now mind you, she has domestic violence courses to still go through. our local child protective services is happy whee the kids are, and the oldest 2 still wan ...[text shortened]... r kids, but she had to do the right thing. She hasn't.
I don't know, I just don't know.
My 2 oldest have now ran away and are on the streets.
Pray for them.
Originally posted by KJCavalier🙁 That's just cruel, and very hard to understand from what you have told us. Even taking into account that I only know your side of the story, your children's reaction is a very clear sign to me that the court's decision was fatally wrong. It's sad that those most affected by such decisions - the children - all too often don't have any say in what's going to happen to them. My best wishes are with you and your children.
I lost
My 2 oldest have now ran away and are on the streets.
Pray for them.