Originally posted by eatmybishopDo you love her?
but i dont want to.... we've been together a few years so maybe now is the right time, but i just don't like the idea of marriage...
should i stay or should i go...
If the answer is yes, then marry her.
If the answer is no, then go.
50% chance you take the right decision 😉.
Originally posted by eatmybishopI'm married.
but i dont want to.... we've been together a few years so maybe now is the right time, but i just don't like the idea of marriage...
should i stay or should i go...
Don't do it yo.
I beg you not do it. You'll regret everyday.
Rest of your life.
I have no idea whether you should marry this woman or not, only you can know. But, I will give you something to think about that is dead on accurate. The way she is right now, all of her mannerisms, all of her habits, all of her peeves....this is the best you can expect from her. The same is true of you. If either of you thinks the other will change once you get married, you are both dead wrong. If one or both of you go in thinking you can change the other, there will be bitterness, frustration, disappointment and ultimately hatred of the other. If you both are perfectly content with the other right now, and can accept that it will get a little bit worse once you get off the stage and are bound together, then you will probably be fine. Otherwise, you are not made for each other. Neither of you is perfect....period. The second thing to consider is faithfulness. Are both of you ready to be absolutely committed only to each other. If not....don't get married. The third thing to look at is financial status. You need to know what each other's position will be in the financial aspects of the marriage. Both work, only one work and one stay at home and what are the responsibilities of each to the union. The fourth thing to consider is children. Whether you want kids or not. If you do both want them, how many and who is going to take the lead in the child raising effort. Both of you have to agree on this or both of you will end up pissed at the other.
Those are the primary considerations that you need to make and be PERFECTLY clear on BEFORE you decide to get married. They make up 98% of the reasons that couples get divorced. Divorce can be extremely bitter and expensive (depending on the laws that govern divorce where you live). Marriage is not something to jump into quickly nor is it something you should take lightly.
Good luck to you in whatever you decide. It will be one of the toughest decisions you will ever have to make and you should weigh all of your options and feelings carefully. Be honest with yourself and trust your instincts. That is the best advice I can give to you.
Originally posted by eatmybishopIt depends on who she wants to marry. If she has someone other than you in mind, I'd say you should go.
but i dont want to.... we've been together a few years so maybe now is the right time, but i just don't like the idea of marriage...
should i stay or should i go...