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Originally posted by Sicilian SausageThere is a game called "Why Don't You - Yes But" that you could play. In fact you've already started.
Golf - Tried it (never again)
Sailing - Never appealed to me.
Birdwatching - Again never appealed to me
Mountain biking - I have a mountain bike but prefer to ride it on the flat. Hopefully I can get out more when the 'good weather comes'.
http://www.ericberne.com/games-people-play/why-dont-you-yes-but/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transactional_analysis#Why_Don.27t_You.2FYes_But
Why Don't You/Yes But
The first such game theorized was Why don't you/Yes, but in which one player (White) would pose a problem as if seeking help, and the other player(s) (Black) would offer solutions (the "Why don't you?" suggestion). This game was noticed as many patients played it in therapy and psychiatry sessions, and inspired Berne to identify other interpersonal "games".
White would point out a flaw in every Black player's solution (the "Yes, but" response), until they all gave up in frustration. For example, if someone's life script was "to be hurt many times, and suffer and make others feel bad when I die" a game of "Why Don't You, Yes But" might proceed as follows:
White: I wish I could lose some weight.
Black: Why don't you join a gym?
White: Yes but, I can't afford the payments for a gym.
Black: Why don't you speed walk around your block after you get home from work?
White: Yes but, I don't dare walk alone in my neighborhood after dark.
Black: Why don't you take the stairs at work instead of the elevator?
The secondary gain for White was that he could claim to have justified his problem as insoluble and thus avoid the hard work of internal change; and for Black, to either feel the frustrated martyr ("I was only trying to help" ) or a superior being, disrespected ("the patient was uncooperative" ).
Superficially, this game can resemble Adult to Adult interaction (people seeking information or advice), but more often, according to Berne, the game is played by White's helpless Child, and Black's lecturing Parent ego states.
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Originally posted by JS357"Art, Antiques, Astronomy, Amateur Dramatics, Answering Questions, Airplane Spotting, Airbrushing, Airsofting, Air Sports, Acting, Aeromodeling, Astrology, Animals, Archery, American Football, Association Football, Asking Questions, Answerthons, Accordion playing." (19 more from wiki.answers) 20. Accepting Change; 21. Anger management; 22. ____ (lol)
Anumismatism.
It's one of my many hobbies that start with "a".