Originally posted by arrakisThat doesn't sound like a very healthy attitude. Yes, you need to protect yourself to a degree, but if you try to protect yourself completely, you are actually controlled by your need for control. It's not easy to balance this. I am usually more on the safe side, but I try not to shut myself totally to the outer world, and my life is much better for it, even if it can hurt.
It only hurts because you let it hurt. Truth of the matter is NOBODY CAN TOUCH YOU! NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD OR BAD!!!
Only you can do that.
Take control of your life AND your feelings.
For example, I don't give a hoot what she does in her life... and neither should you. NEVER, EVER let a person have control over your life. 😠
"NOBODY CAN TOUCH YOU" reminded me of Donna Williams (for the second time today):
"In a world under glass, you can watch the world pass, and nobody can touch you, you think you're safe. But the wind can blow cold in the depths of your soul, where you think nothing can hurt you, till it's too late." (from "Nobody Nowhere" )
Originally posted by CoconutSo, how much cash did you waste on her over the years?
The relationship had a bad history. For a while I was the flakey one and couldn't keep her happy. Then it was her, and it was her that took more steps wrong than she should have.
I guess it wasn't right. But I had so much in it. Thanks for being here guys.
Originally posted by CoconutI recommend drinking until you kill that part of your brain that cares about this trollop. Remember, Jack Daniel's will always be there for you.
The relationship had a bad history. For a while I was the flakey one and couldn't keep her happy. Then it was her, and it was her that took more steps wrong than she should have.
I guess it wasn't right. But I had so much in it. Thanks for being here guys.
Originally posted by bbarrThat's "Jack Daniels" and "Rosey palm and her five sisters meets the Vaseline brothers"....and not necessarily in that order.....😉
I recommend drinking until you kill that part of your brain that cares about this trollop. Remember, Jack Daniel's will always be there for you.
I'm sorry coconut, i'm sorry that your faith in women will be affected, that your confidence may be dented and that right now you are really hurting. I hate to think of people being upset, but hopefully in the near future you will grow strong again and with time you will find the right lady for you.
Give it time, get out and enjoy yourself, have a few drinks if it helps but don't let the act of one selfish, selfcentred, cheap human being ruin any hope of future happiness, don't tar everyone with the same brush.
Take care of yourself.