Originally posted by darvlayThat's the thing darv, she has a thing where she thinks nothing can be fixed. I'd try anything for her, but until 2 days ago, I thought it was all good. I'm all for making things more exciting, but I didn't know the situation was that grave.
Yeesh, at least she was honest. 😕
EDIT - Have you tried toys?
If she'd just say SOMETHING before going outside the relationship to get that attention, I could at least try. But instead she lets it bother her until she can't take it anymore. So she lies, when the truth is what would bring about the best.
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Originally posted by CoconutShe sounds like the dead-fish variety to me - laying back and letting you do all the work, right? I can't remember what the picture you posted of her looked like, but I'm sure she was hot, and I'm equally sure she thought this gave her license to demand attention without giving any in return.
That's the thing darv, she has a thing where she thinks nothing can be fixed. I'd try anything for her, but until 2 days ago, I thought it was all good. I'm all for making things more exciting, but I didn't know the situation was that g ...[text shortened]... e. So she lies, when the truth is what would bring about the best.
How was it for you? Did she always complain about giving you a bj? Did she ever give you one without you mentioning it? Probably not. From your earlier posts I'm sure you would have no qualms about doing anything she wanted. See the difference?
There's no doubt that not everyone will do everything, and some sexual boundaries will never be crossed, but if both parties are communicating and sensitive to their partner's needs, there's no reason sex can't be great. She's feeding you a line to make herself feel better - don't listend to her!! She wouldn't know how to pleasure you if you smacked her in the face hard with the Kama Sutra. Despite your feelings for her, she's being a bitch to you.
EDIT - Don't forget to smack her hard in the face with it, it can be a feathery-soft tome.
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Originally posted by PBE6Sorry, but this is the first post on this thread that has been an incorrect assumption. She loved me, and did give oral sex when I'd ask, or often when she just wanted to in foreplay or whatever. So you are incorrect to say that she didn't pleasure me, and didn't work for it.
She sounds like the dead-fish variety to me - laying back and letting you do all the work, right? I can't remember what the picture you posted of her looked like, but I'm sure she was hot, and I'm equally sure she thought this gave her lic ...[text shortened]... ve no qualms about doing anything she wanted. See the difference?
She even TOLD me, and these were her words "We have a great sex life." Now, I had nothing to compare it to. He was her first, and she went back to him again (even though he lacks love for her, only lust). She was (is) my one and only, to this point. But I tell you, even if sex was the worst ever. Even if it hurt me, I would never go outside this relationship to find it, because that wasn't the main focus. But for her, unable to control herself, she wanted everything perfect, and ruined it all for that.
Her body is not amazing. Her face is less than average, but she's beautiful to me. You want pics? I'll give you pics but she isn't something to jerk over if you just met her. Me, falling in love, naturally found her whole being beautiful.
Originally posted by CoconutTMI
Sorry, but this is the first post on this thread that has been an incorrect assumption. She loved me, and did give oral sex when I'd ask, or often when she just wanted to in foreplay or whatever. So you are incorrect to say that she didn't pleasure me, and didn't work for it.
She even TOLD me, and these were her words "We have a great sex life." Now, ...[text shortened]... o jerk over if you just met her. Me, falling in love, naturally found her whole being beautiful.
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Originally posted by CoconutDang! Missed again. All my rhetoric flowed from my assumption that she was hot, but when you put it like that, then no I don't want to see any pics of her.
Sorry, but this is the first post on this thread that has been an incorrect assumption. She loved me, and did give oral sex when I'd ask, or often when she just wanted to in foreplay or whatever. So you are incorrect to say that she didn't pleasure me, and didn't work for it.
She even TOLD me, and these were her words "We have a great sex life." Now, ...[text shortened]... o jerk over if you just met her. Me, falling in love, naturally found her whole being beautiful.
So let me get this straight: she had a previous boyfriend, they broke up, you two started dating, you made the beast with two backs, all the while she told you "our sex life is great!", she cheated on you with that other guy, then she told you she didn't think you were hot enough and that the sex with you was bad? That sucks. Maybe she was telling the truth at the end, but I still say communciation "during" as opposed to "after" is the key.
Falling in love is the best thing in the world, until you find out it's unrequited. Then it's like being tied to the electric chair with the switch just out of reach. I feel for ya, Coconut.
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Originally posted by PBE6I mean, she loves me, I don't doubt it. We've been together some 1.2 years and been through a lot. She just wants things besides me, and doesn't have the brains to stay with me, make SOME sacrifices (like, umm, sex with other people behind my back. And I'm also not liking her wanting snakebite piercings (one ring on each side of the bottom lip)), and still having a life she enjoys.
Dang! Missed again. All my rhetoric flowed from my assumption that she was hot, but when you put it like that, then no I don't want to see any pics of her.
So let me get this straight: she had a previous boyfriend, they broke up, you two ...[text shortened]... chair with the switch just out of reach. I feel for ya, Coconut.
She wanted ME first. And I didn't, because of the lack of her looks again. I decided that she didn't deserve that sort of rejection though, and we dated, and fell in love. Which makes me feel all the worse for not being as hot as this other guy, because I gave up so much for her. I gave, and continue to give, more than she deserves. And I don't deserve this hurt.
PS. Me too wucky...
Originally posted by Coconutnot to worry coconut...forget her, move on...whats for you won't pass you by. she wasn't the one for you..simple as!
I mean, she loves me, I don't doubt it. We've been together some 1.2 years and been through a lot. She just wants things besides me, and doesn't have the brains to stay with me, make SOME sacrifices (like, umm, sex with other people behind my back. And I'm also not liking her wanting snakebite piercings (one ring on each side of the bottom lip)), and sti ...[text shortened]... ontinue to give, more than she deserves. And I don't deserve this hurt.
PS. Me too wucky...
Originally posted by wucky3It's true, Coconut. Right now you can't stop thinking about her. Soon enough, you'll only think about her a dozen times a day, then a few times, then rarely, then not at all. Time heals all wounds.
not to worry coconut...forget her, move on...whats for you won't pass you by. she wasn't the one for you..simple as!
In the mean time, get yourself a hot chick. Don't think about what your last girl said, just remember that the new girl will think you're a stud until you give her a reason not to. Enjoy!