Originally posted by darvlayYes... ...well perhaps "generally" is a little too strong a word. Let's say "often" I find that first impressions are wrong.
Do you really believe that?
IRL, I gauge a lot on first impressions. Usually they are quite accurate.
Sometimes you catch somebody on a bad day, the first time you meet them. Sometimes a person who is basically a total dick, does a good job of hiding it when they want to. Sometimes a person who's actually pretty decent carries around enough armor to hide that fact. And if you trust that first impression too much, rather than trusting further observations, you might be led astray.
Originally posted by leisurelyslothDon't judge a book by it's cover then.
Yes... ...well perhaps "generally" is a little too strong a word. Let's say "often" I find that first impressions are wrong.
Sometimes you catch somebody on a bad day, the first time you meet them. Sometimes a person who is basically a total dick, does a good job of hiding it when they want to. Sometimes a person who's actually pretty decent ...[text shortened]... t impression too much, rather than trusting further observations, you might be led astray.
I find my first impressions are often spot on I have to say 😏
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyPersonally, I give everyone a chance. Some are stupid from the start, some become more obvious the more they write.
Some RHP Members...
Some RHP Members seem to dislike newcomers and outsiders and resent their vocal presence on the RHP General Forum. New members
are the lifeblood of the site. What business do any of us have in turning a cold shoulder if Russ & Chris have already welcomed them?
-gb
Some start out on the wrong foot, and eventually get better. Depends.
Originally posted by leisurelyslothI agree that sometimes this is the case. Wouldn't say "often" or "generally" though, in my humble opinion, unless you are someone in a position who people strive to impress upon meeting.
Yes... ...well perhaps "generally" is a little too strong a word. Let's say "often" I find that first impressions are wrong.
Sometimes you catch somebody on a bad day, the first time you meet them. Sometimes a person who is basically a total dick, does a good job of hiding it when they want to. Sometimes a person who's actually pretty decent ...[text shortened]... t impression too much, rather than trusting further observations, you might be led astray.
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Originally posted by darvlayMy first impression instinct is usually on target.
I agree that sometimes this is the case. Wouldn't say "often" or "generally" though, in my humble opinion, unless you are someone in a position who people strive to impress upon meeting.
I tend to be wrong if I am drinking alcohol, though, that's the only glitch in the system.
Most if these 'first impressions' arguements probably rely on the fact that contact is severed with the person after you have made your mind up. This way nothing is able to pierce the bubble of ignorance you have constructed.
How many people go into an internet chatroom with no defence mechanism in place? Not many in this day and age, because they know there are always going to be the 'cool' types who will abuse them the moment they let the guard down.
Originally posted by TyrannosauruschexIts true*sobs* I let my gaurd down and ...and ....and then sietse...he ...he *sobs louder* abused me....from behind:'(:'(:'(:'(
Most if these 'first impressions' arguements probably rely on the fact that contact is severed with the person after you have made your mind up. This way nothing is able to pierce the bubble of ignorance you have constructed.
How many people go into an internet chatroom with no defence mechanism in place? Not many in this day and age, because th ...[text shortened]... always going to be the 'cool' types who will abuse them the moment they let the guard down.
Originally posted by darvlayI do a lot of job interviews, and as people want to give a good impression it's not trivial to get to the bottom of their personality. but you learn to pick up on little things, and complete disasters seldom get even past the application. but some asshats get through no matter what, and you'll have to deal with people who never turn up in time, stir up continuous relation trouble etc.
I agree that sometimes this is the case. Wouldn't say "often" or "generally" though, in my humble opinion, unless you are someone in a position who people strive to impress upon meeting.
but in personal life I hardly ever err on first impression. I suppose the difference is that people are not trying to impress me then.
Originally posted by TyrannosauruschexOr perhaps the contact continues, but further consideration is what gets severed. It can be tough to admit to yourself that what you believed was wrong. We lie to ourselves the most.
Most if these 'first impressions' arguements probably rely on the fact that contact is severed with the person after you have made your mind up. This way nothing is able to pierce the bubble of ignorance you have constructed.