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Who, among you, has had someone close to them die? I'm sure many of you. What was your experience? Do you believe in life after death?

Thx,

Evey

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Originally posted by Evey Hammond
Who, among you, has had someone close to them die? I'm sure many of you. What was your experience? Do you believe in life after death?

Thx,

Evey
I have had some good friends and one of my parents pass on. To me , it was just such a painful shock, instant and numbing. I'm sure that would be like being stabbed felt like. Sorry for the dumb analogies, its the only way i can express it.
Stay strong as these feelings do pass, life does return to a type of normalcy.
I was raised religious, but i personally believe there is no life after death, we only get one shot at this life, so strap in, hang on and do your best.

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Originally posted by Evey Hammond
Who, among you, has had someone close to them die? I'm sure many of you. What was your experience? Do you believe in life after death?

Thx,

Evey
My deepest sympathies. The last time someone close to me died, it was someone close to many people, and so our grief was shared. What touched me the most, though, was the support of people who weren't that close to the deceased but came to the wake and funeral mass anyway to help me through it.

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Dead is dead.

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I've never had anyone close to me but my current wife, so death is easy for me.

Although I must warn you all.

When she dies I will go "hunting"....

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Originally posted by Evey Hammond
Who, among you, has had someone close to them die? I'm sure many of you. What was your experience? Do you believe in life after death?

Thx,

Evey
I have an idea of whom you speak of Evey, and I'm truly sorry for your loss. My Father and youngest Brother both died in 2005.. I'd like to say the hurt gets easier with time, but so far, not.

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Evey, I think there could be life after death...I'm not sure anyone knows for sure. Everyone has their own beliefs. Some have no belief at all. But if believing helps you to deal with the pain from the loss, then believe with all your heart. It certainly can't hurt. I have lost several loved ones in my life. It's never easy, but you are strong and you will survive. Part of your loved one still lives inside of you. I believe that. Hold on to that.

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Originally posted by Evey Hammond
Who, among you, has had someone close to them die? I'm sure many of you. What was your experience? Do you believe in life after death?

Thx,

Evey
Very Sorry to hear about your loss. It certainly is always a difficult time. I don't know about life after death, and I guess none of us really do. What I always do is think of all the good times, that I shared with that person, and it always brings a smile to my face.

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People dying is easy when you never had anyone care about you.

So if you are sad for them being gone....be happy.

Atleast they cared.

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Originally posted by chessiswar
Dead is dead.
There's no such thing as no thing.

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I'd guess your grief could depend on how sudden / expected the bereavement is - if you knew they were on the way out then you've likely had chance to say goodbye, make peace etc. If they went quickly, you may not have had that closure, so you'll have strong emotions about that side or things.

Either way, life goes on and i'm sure the deceased would prefer you get on with your life and make the most of the opportunities rather than become frozen in time mourning their loss - something which is now fixed in history.

So, celebrate their life, remember the good times, look to the future good times and live every moment to the max.

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Originally posted by pawnhandler
What touched me the most, though, was the support of people who weren't that close to the deceased but came to the wake and funeral mass anyway to help me through it.
Does the word "will" come to mind here at all? ๐Ÿ˜ž๐Ÿ˜• sorreee.. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Actually, just reading through again it seems the concept is totally lost.
In Buddhism, if you're bothered that is, in practising truly you are considered to have death and re-birth many times in what is considered in the West to be a normal lifetime. You may be re-born many times in a day if events warrant it - and you think carefully enough to be able to pactise that.
As for life after death... it is yet again another re-birth, same as you can experience in this 'perceived' lifetime. ๐Ÿ™‚

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Within an eight year period I lost both parents, both parents-in-law, 14 year old son, and first husband. After a while you get numb. But my belief in the continuing life of the soul made it bearable.

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Originally posted by ale1552
Within an eight year period I lost both parents, both parents-in-law, 14 year old son, and first husband. After a while you get numb. But my belief in the continuing life of the soul made it bearable.
No parent wants to outlive their child. That's the worst. Almost happened to me and I dealt with a lot of traumatic anxiety for a while. I would have flash backs and have to pull the car over to the side of the road and wait til I got myself back together. It's the worst.

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My best friends have almost all died.

My bassist went off the deepend back in 1995. He kidnapped 2 women and had a stand off with the Denver SWAT Team. He shot himself when he felt a rubber bullet strike him.

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