Originally posted by pawnhandlerThank you very much.
My deepest sympathies. The last time someone close to me died, it was someone close to many people, and so our grief was shared. What touched me the most, though, was the support of people who weren't that close to the deceased but came to the wake and funeral mass anyway to help me through it.
Originally posted by SmookiePThank you, Smookie. I appreciate it. Yes, the hurt feels even worse now...
I have an idea of whom you speak of Evey, and I'm truly sorry for your loss. My Father and youngest Brother both died in 2005.. I'd like to say the hurt gets easier with time, but so far, not.
Originally posted by Ice ColdThank you. It was my Mother who died. She was my mentor and confidant...and her loss has been quite difficult to bear. Not to mention, in her Trust, she left me w/80% of her estate, while she left my brother and sister each with 10%, and I'm the sole Trustee, so you can imagine that doesn't make it any easier.
Best wishes to you. It is hard to lose a loved one or a friend.
The thing that keeps my hopes up is someday we will all be back together.
I hope you're right and that we will all be reunited someday. 🙂
Originally posted by Evey HammondThat may seem like a burden but your mother had faith enough in you to put that trust in your hands. Good luck and my condolences. 🙂
Thank you. It was my Mother who died. She was my mentor and confidant...and her loss has been quite difficult to bear. Not to mention, in her Trust, she left me w/80% of her estate, while she left my brother and sister each with 10%, and I'm the sole Trustee, so you can imagine that doesn't make it any easier.
I hope you're right and that we will all be reunited someday. 🙂
My younger brother died in his thirties of HIV complications. My wife's father and two brothers died either to drugs, alchohol or the rough life in New York City.
We are both Christians then and now. We believe in the resurrection of the dead through Jesus Christ and life eternal to those who are saved in Christ.
My closest was this past October.
Was out with a friend. We weren't close close, but had a history and we (at least I) was hoping to start seeing her more often.
Left her house 11pm. 5 hours later her mom calls to ask if I know where she is. 2 hours later they find her in the garage in a self-administered fatal position.
So I spent the rest of the weekend doing whatever I could to not be alone. If it meant sitting in a chair downtown in the pouring rain, it was better than being alone with my thoughts.
You'll always wish you could have the people back, but the best you can do is learn from the past, and use it to serve the people we still have.
When you get to be my age (57) you will find a quite a few
friends and relations have slipped away.
Some peacefully some tragically.
Time heals in most cases but I've had two people I was
very close to comitted suicide.
That is the one that takes the longest to get over,
if ever you can.
Years later you still ask yourself why?
An accident, an illness or even a murder you can handle.
I've experienced all three.
(a friend I often played chess with was murdered in a mugging).
But a suicide.
I once read that someone who commits suicide often kills
more than just one person. This is true.
Evey and also GP, I'm very sorry for your losses.
Evey,
I do believe that there is something after death. I believe that the soul lives on. One book that led me to believe this is Forever Ours: Real Stories of Immortality and Living from a Forensic Pathologist by Janis Amatuzio.
Time will help you more than anything. Keep moving on. Peace will come eventually, perhaps slowly, but it will come.
Originally posted by MrHandTo all of those who have lost someone, you have my condolences. I lost my mother 5 years ago as of the 25th of this month.
Evey and also GP, I'm very sorry for your losses.
Evey,
I do believe that there is something after death. I believe that the soul lives on. One book that led me to believe this is Forever Ours: Real Stories of Immortality and Living from a Forensic Pathologist by Janis Amatuzio.
Time will help you more than anything. Keep moving on. Peace will come eventually, perhaps slowly, but it will come.
I do believe that there is some form of life after death.....but I'd rather not live my live waiting to see what that is.
Best advise...live your life to the fullest, try to live it as how you think your maker would want you to live it, and mourn those who have passed before you, wishing them a good transition into the afterlife, while keeping only the good memories with you for comfort.
It will get easier over time.
