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  1. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals Thread 159283 15 May '14 16:46

    "Introduction: Every relationship between a Personality-Disordered Individual and a Non Personality-Disordered Individual is as unique as the DNA of the people involved. Nevertheless, there are some common behavior patterns.

    The list below contains descriptions of some of the more common traits of people who suffer from personality disorders, as observed by family members and partners.Examples are given of each trait, with descriptions of what it feels like to be caught in the crossfire. Please note: these descriptions are not intended for diagnosis. Refer to the DSM Criteria for Personality Disorders for clinical diagnostic criteria. No one person exhibits all of the traits and the presence of one or more of these traits is not evidence of a personality disorder. Read our disclaimer for more info.

    One common criticism of Out of the FOG is that this list of traits seems so "normal" - more like traits of an unpleasant person than traits of a mentally ill person. This is no accident. Personality disordered people are normal people. Approximately 1 in 11 people meet the diagnostic criteria for having a personality disorder. Personality-disordered people don't fit the stereotypical models for people with mental illnesses but their behaviors can be just as destructive. These descriptions are offered in the hope that non-personality-disordered family members, caregivers and loved-ones might recognize some similarities to their own situation and discover that they are not alone.

    Top 100 Traits & Behaviors of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    1. Abusive Cycle - This is the name for the ongoing rotation between destructive and constructive behavior which is typical of many dysfunctional relationships and families.

    2. Alienation - The act of cutting off or interfering with an individual's relationships with others.

    3. "Always" and "Never" Statements - "Always" and "Never" Statements are declarations containing the words "always" or "never". They are commonly used but rarely true.

    4. Anger - People who suffer from personality disorders often feel a sense of unresolved anger and a heightened or exaggerated perception that they have been wronged, invalidated, neglected or abused.

    5. Avoidance - The practice of withdrawing from relationships with other people as a defensive measure to reduce the risk of rejection, accountability, criticism or exposure." (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html

    Discuss....
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    Make an effort to come up with something original.
  3. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby (OP)
    Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals Thread 159283 15 May '14 16:46

    "Introduction: Every relationship between a Personality-Disordered Individual and a Non Personality-Disordered Individual is as unique as the DNA of the people involved. Nevertheless, there are some common behavior patterns.

    The list below c ...[text shortened]... ure." (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html

    Discuss....
    Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    6. Baiting - A provocative act used to solicit an angry, aggressive or emotional response from another individual.

    7. Belittling, Condescending and Patronizing - This kind of speech is a passive-aggressive approach to giving someone a verbal put-down while maintaining a facade of reasonableness or friendliness.

    8. Blaming - The practice of identifying a person or people responsible for creating a problem, rather than identifying ways of dealing with the problem.

    9. Bullying - Any systematic action of hurting a person from a position of relative physical, social, economic or emotional strength.

    10. Catastrophizing - The habit of automatically assuming a "worst case scenario" and inappropriately characterizing minor or moderate problems or issues as catastrophic events.

    11. Chaos Manufacture - Unnecessarily creating or maintaining an environment of risk, destruction, confusion or mess.

    12. Cheating - Sharing a romantic or intimate relationship with somebody when you are already committed to a monogamous relationship with someone else.

    13. Chronic Broken Promises - Repeatedly making and then breaking commitments and promises is a common trait among people who suffer from personality disorders.

    14. Circular Conversations - Arguments which go on almost endlessly, repeating the same patterns with no resolution.

    15. Confirmation Bias - The tendency to pay more attention to things which reinforce your beliefs than to things which contradict them.

    16. "Control-Me" Syndrome - This describes a tendency which some people have to foster relationships with people who have a controlling narcissistic, antisocial or "acting-out" nature.

    17. Cruelty to Animals - Acts of Cruelty to Animals have been statistically discovered to occur more often in people who suffer from personality disorders than in the general population." (to be continued) http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html
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    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    6. Baiting - A provocative act used to solicit an angry, aggressive or emotional response from another individual.

    7. Belittling, Condescending and Patronizing - This kind of speech is a passive-aggressive approach to giving someone a verbal put-down while maintaining a facade of reasonabl ...[text shortened]... the general population." (to be continued) http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html
    Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    18. Denial - Believing or imagining that some painful or traumatic circumstance, event or memory does not exist or did not happen.

    19. Dependency - An inappropriate and chronic reliance by an adult individual on another individual for their health, subsistence, decision making or personal and emotional well-being.

    20. Depression - When you feel sadder than you think you should, for longer than you think you should - but still can't seem to break out of it - that's depression. People who suffer from personality disorders are often also diagnosed with depression resulting from mistreatment at the hands of others, low self-worth and the results of their own poor choices.

    21. Dissociation - Dissociation is a psychological term used to describe a mental departure from reality.

    22. Domestic Theft - Consuming or taking control of a resource or asset belonging to (or shared with) a family member, partner or spouse without first obtaining their approval.

    23. Emotional Abuse - Any pattern of behavior directed at one individual by another which promotes in them a destructive sense of Fear, Obligation or Guilt (FOG).

    24. Emotional Blackmail - A system of threats and punishments used in an attempt to control someone’s behaviors.

    25. Engulfment - An unhealthy and overwhelming level of attention and dependency on another person, which comes from imagining or believing one exists only within the context of that relationship.

    26. Escape To Fantasy - Taking an imaginary excursion to a happier, more hopeful place." (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html
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    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    [b]Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    18. Denial - Believing or imagining that some painful or traumatic circumstance, event or memory does not exist or did not happen.

    19. Dependency - An inappropriate and chronic reliance by an adult individual on another individual for their health, subsistence, decision making or person ...[text shortened]... e hopeful place." (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html[/b]
    How many of these personality disorders apply to you, Bobby? Could we say 80%? 85? More?
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    Originally posted by HandyAndy
    How many of these personality disorders apply to you, Bobby? Could we say 80%? 85? More?
    All of them.

    Winner winner, chicken dinner!
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    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    [b]Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals Thread 159283 15 May '14 16:46

    "Introduction: Every relationship between a Personality-Disordered Individual and a Non Personality-Disordered Individual is as unique as the DNA of the people involved. Nevertheless, there are some common behavior patterns.

    The list below con ...[text shortened]... " (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html

    Discuss....[/b]
    I'm in trouble! 😉
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    Originally posted by HandyAndy
    How many of these personality disorders apply to you, Bobby? Could we say 80%? 85? More?
    Why don't you just worry about your own?
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    Originally posted by Seitse
    All of them.

    Winner winner, chicken dinner!
    Lost it haven't you? 😞
  10. Standard memberHandyAndy
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    Originally posted by josephw
    Why don't you just worry about your own?
    I do. Constantly.
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    Originally posted by HandyAndy
    I do. Constantly.
    I do worry about you too, but perhaps not constantly.
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    Selective Competence - Demonstrating different levels of intelligence, memory, resourcefulness, strength or competence depending on the situation or environment.

    That's me everyday at work.

    I think everyone has at least a few they can identify with. I wouldn't call them disorders, more like character traits.
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    Originally posted by KnightStalker47
    I think everyone has at least a few they can identify with. I wouldn't call them disorders, more like character traits.
    But one cannot attempt to land little forum punches on the chins of characters (or their traits) that one disapproves of if one doesn't call them "personality disorders".
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    Originally posted by FMF
    But one cannot attempt to land little forum punches on the chins of characters (or their traits) that one disapproves of if one doesn't call them "personality disorders".
    Why are you suggesting that (one) would "land little forum punches" by creating a thread about personality disorders? Oh, because it wasn't you that started the thread?

    Seems to me that the traits listed are in fact personality disorders. Do you have a better name for them? Maybe character flaws, or just minor personal foibles?
  15. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    18. Denial - Believing or imagining that some painful or traumatic circumstance, event or memory does not exist or did not happen.

    19. Dependency - An inappropriate and chronic reliance by an adult individual on another individual for their health, subsistence, decision making or personal ...[text shortened]... more hopeful place." (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html
    Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    "27. False Accusations - Patterns of unwarranted or exaggerated criticism directed towards someone else.

    28. Favoritism and Scapegoating - Systematically giving a dysfunctional amount of preferential positive or negative treatment to one individual among a family group of peers.

    29. Fear of Abandonment - An irrational belief that one is [in] imminent danger of being personally rejected, discarded or replaced.

    30. Feelings of Emptiness - An acute, chronic sense that daily life has little worth or significance, leading to an impulsive appetite for strong physical sensations and dramatic relationship experiences.

    31. Frivolous Litigation - The use of unmerited legal proceedings to hurt, harass or gain an economic advantage over an individual or organization.

    32. Gaslighting - The practice of brainwashing or convincing a mentally healthy individual that they are going insane or that their understanding of reality is mistaken or false. The term “Gaslighting” is based on the 1944 MGM movie “Gaslight”.

    33. Grooming - Grooming is the predatory act of maneuvering another individual into a position that makes them more isolated, dependent, likely to trust, and more vulnerable to abusive behavior.

    34. Harassment - Any sustained or chronic pattern of unwelcome behavior by one individual towards another.

    35. High and Low-Functioning - A High-Functioning Personality-Disordered Individual is one who is able to conceal their dysfunctional behavior in certain public settings and maintain a positive public or professional profile while exposing their negative traits to family members behind closed doors. A Low-Functioning Personality-Disordered Individual is one who is unable to conceal their dysfunctional behavior from public view or maintain a positive public or professional profile.

    36. Hoarding - Accumulating items to an extent that it becomes detrimental to quality of lifestyle, comfort, security or hygiene.

    37. Holiday Triggers - Mood Swings in Personality-Disordered individuals are often triggered or amplified by emotional events such as family holidays, significant anniversaries and events which trigger emotional memories.

    38. Hoovers & Hoovering - A Hoover is a metaphor taken from the popular brand of vacuum cleaners, to describe how an abuse victim trying to assert their own rights by leaving or limiting contact in a dysfunctional relationship, gets “sucked back in” when the perpetrator temporarily exhibits improved or desirable behavior.

    39. Hyper Vigilance - Maintaining an unhealthy level of interest in the behaviors, comments, thoughts and interests of others.

    40. Hysteria - An inappropriate over-reaction to bad news or disappointments, which diverts attention away from the real problem and towards the person who is having the reaction." (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html
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