Originally posted by Azeri guywait a minute.
Jonny, for me : the chick with no brains, arrogant and rude attitude can never by pretty! I am serious : no matter how beautiful the girl is I would never be able to like her!
She may be arrogant and rude but thats all in her head. She doesnt go over to people and treat them bad. She just doesnt like ugly people. She doesnt like them but she also doesnt treat them bad. Get it?
Nobody can tell you what to think or what not.
And I´d bet you´d like her.
She isnt stupid neither.
Originally posted by Jonny d
wait a minute.
She may be arrogant and rude but thats all in her head. She doesnt go over to people and treat them bad. She just doesnt like ugly people. She doesnt like them but she also doesnt treat them bad. Get it?
Nobody can tell you what to think or what not.
And I´d bet you´d like her.
She isnt stupid neither.
I could reply that I do not like people who do not like ugly people. That would make me just as prejudice as your girlfriend.
Originally posted by Jonny dIf she dislikes people who are ugly, then she isn't exactly bright.
wait a minute.
She may be arrogant and rude but thats all in her head. She doesnt go over to people and treat them bad. She just doesnt like ugly people. She doesnt like them but she also doesnt treat them bad. Get it?
Nobody can tell you what to think or what not.
And I´d bet you´d like her.
She isnt stupid neither.
Originally posted by Azeri guyYeah, but being pretty is about physical appearance.
Jonny, for me : the chick with no brains, arrogant and rude attitude can never by pretty! I am serious : no matter how beautiful the girl is I would never be able to like her!
Imagine you saw a photo of some chick and you thought she was gorgeous, then you found out she was a stupid, airhead, nasty piece of work. Would that make her not pretty? What if you never found that out?
Originally posted by VargA photo of someone or something two-dimensional would not be enough for me to determine that a person is beautiful.
Yeah, but being pretty is about physical appearance.
Imagine you saw a photo of some chick and you thought she was gorgeous, then you found out she was a stupid, airhead, nasty piece of work. Would that make her not pretty? What if you never found that out?
It has happened to me that I have fancied someone only to discover when I talked to them that they are self-obsessed, self-indulgent, princess types and what happens? ...
... I start to notice things about their appearance that I don't like, maybe something strange about their nose -- silly things really. When I don't like a person, I think everybody does this, my mind's eye begins to re- sculpt their features. As cream does in full fat milk, that ugliness that lurks within that wasn't obvious, gradually seeps through and becomes apparent.
Conversely, there are girls I have originally thought plain who have been so engaging once I have talked to them. It could be because of an honesty they possess, an intelligence, a sense of humour, an insight and all of a sudden I find myself finding them attractive.
I don't think that this is as uncommon as we might think.
Originally posted by demonseedSo you have never met someone (or seen on TV, etc.) and thought "She is good-looking, shame she's such a bitch", or something along those lines?
A photo of someone or something two-dimensional would not be enough for me to determine that a person is beautiful.
It has happened to me that I have fancied someone only to discover when I talked to them that they are self-obsessed, self-indulgent, princess types and what happens? ...
... I start to notice things about their appearance that I don't ...[text shortened]... nd myself finding them attractive.
I don't think that this is as uncommon as we might think.
Anyway, I think you're right when youo say about finding somebody attractive once you get to know them. But finding somebody attractive, and finding them physically beautiful, or pretty or whatever are different things.
Originally posted by VargNo it definately was not my behaviour, As I said I was well known for being a bit crazy. That's what attracted most people to me at the time. It has never been in my nature to be predictable. It has also never been in my nature to treat anyone badly. I believe you get what you give. It was at a time of teenage insecurities and pressures to fit in, I've just never been the type to adhere to pressure tactics. This was nothing new to anyone who knew me.
Are you sure it was your appearance they objected to, and not your behaviour i.e. shaving your head.
There is a distinction - perhaps they thought you were a nice, stable predictable person and doing crazy things like shaving your head was just too weird for them?
But how can you make a judgment on wether or not you like someone soley based on their appearance? What do looks have to do with personality? Hygiene mabey but personality never.
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I am rarely told by anyone that I look like so-and-so famous person. But today I was doing some work-related research at a public facility, and a female employee who was helping me with the microfiche machine says to me, "You know, you look just like that horror, um..."
Well, I thought she was going to name somebody like Herman Munster, you know? But then she says, "Uh, Stephen Spiel-- I mean, Stephen King."
I just looked up King on the Net, and I have to admit there is some similarity. So anyway, I hope King doesn't fall into the ugly category. 😛