Originally posted by badmoonWell Said!
Don't act so shallow. Of course there is a moral. When you are down and have a sense of self pity, take a look around and you will see others in even worse shape. It's a way to not become so self obsessed. But you don't get it so why bother? How in the heck did you ever become so callous and smug?
Man, I get sick of these sarcastic comments that that toss away any attempt by someone to express an awakening or positive outlook.
Originally posted by PhlabibitNot necessarily so. Maybe it's just the words of someone who has a positive attitude towards things. Yeah sure, when someone you lve dies it hurts, but you can't spend every living day from then on worrying and fretting about, feeling sorry for yourself. People live and people die, number one fact of life. It's how you look at it that counts.
These are the words of someone who's [b]never had anything bad happen to them.
When it does finally all goes down, they will find no comfort in a couple from a poor country that lost their son. This goes for anyone... and I hope you never find this out first hand.
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And don't say that I've never had any real grief because I have, I just don't want to spend the rest of my life being miserable.
Originally posted by jimslyp69Well share you misery... perhaps I can think of you when I burn the toast.
Not necessarily so. Maybe it's just the words of someone who has a positive attitude towards things. Yeah sure, when someone you lve dies it hurts, but you can't spend every living day from then on worrying and fretting about, feeling sorry for yourself. People live and people die, number one fact of life. It's how you look at it that counts.
And don't sa ...[text shortened]... real grief because I have, I just don't want to spend the rest of my life being miserable.
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What I find much more impressive and what give me hope and strength when worrying about stuff (anything really) is that a the vast majority of people who have really bad stuff happen to them cope in some way or other. I think for a lot of people the worry that they would not be able to cope with something bad happening, rather than the actual event.
But lots of people who have bad stuff happen to them certainly get on with their lives (at least outwardly)
Originally posted by jimslyp69Yeah, Phlab's is always complaining how bad he's got it in the forums... you'd think his dog died every day with that guy.
I'll leave that to you mate. I try not to drag others down around me with my own personal grief.
My problem with this thread is that this is fine for little things that happen, but if you find any comfort in thinking about someone else's trouble when YOU have a problem... chances are you didn't really have a problem at all in the first place.
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Originally posted by PhlabibitSorry but I disagree. You will just have to accept that I see things differently than you. And if you have a problem with the way that I look at life then it is your problem and not mine.
Yeah, Phlab's is always complaining how bad he's got it in the forums... you'd think his dog died every day with that guy.
My problem with this thread is that this is fine for little things that happen, but if you find any comfort in thinking about someone else's trouble when YOU have a problem... chances are you didn't really have a problem at all in the first place.
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Originally posted by jimslyp69So, you're holding your best friend's head in your lap... they tell you they don't want to die... you know they're going to die... and they do die... and there isn't a thing you can do about it.
Sorry but I disagree. You will just have to accept that I see things differently than you. And if you have a problem with the way that I look at life then it is your problem and not mine.
So you just think about strangers in another country that have it worse than you. All is well.
Cool, lucky you.
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Originally posted by PhlabibitAre you okay, Phlabby? 😕
So, you're holding your best friend's head in your lap... they tell you they don't want to die... you know they're going to die... and they do die... and there isn't a thing you can do about it.
So you just think about strangers in another country that have it worse than you. All is well.
Cool, lucky you.
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Originally posted by PhlabibitWell are you going to spend the rest of your life dwelling on that one moment as horrible as it might have been? Are you going to carry on feeling sorry for yourself because of that?
So, you're holding your best friend's head in your lap... they tell you they don't want to die... you know they're going to die... and they do die... and there isn't a thing you can do about it.
So you just think about strangers in another country that have it worse than you. All is well.
Cool, lucky you.
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As I've said before, I've had my fair share of the thick brown stuff hitting the fan, and I'm not going to let it drag me down.
I'm going to keep on fighting to keep this smile on my face until the day I die because I've still got my health, my folks, a job, food on the table and a roof over my head. Some things that a great deal of the people in this world haven't. And I really pity you because you obviously haven't got any of these things that I treasure, otherwise you wouldn't be speaking as you are!
Originally posted by jimslyp69My point is this.
Well are you going to spend the rest of your life dwelling on that one moment as horrible as it might have been? Are you going to carry on feeling sorry for yourself because of that?
As I've said before, I've had my fair share of the thick brown stuff hitting the fan, and I'm not going to let it drag me down.
I'm going to keep on fighting to keep this s ...[text shortened]... got any of these things that I treasure, otherwise you wouldn't be speaking as you are!
When those very bad things did happen to you... would thinking of someone else have helped?
Your answer is no.
This thread might help if you burn the toast, but it's not going to help when something bad does happen.
My problem is with the thread's message... I'm not dwelling on things that heppened nearly 2 decades ago. You're making it sound like I'm some kind of negative person who's always complaining me me me... you know that's not me.
Again, if this tactic works... you really didn't have a problem in the first place.
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Originally posted by PhlabibitYes, thinking about what I did have, pulled me through. Changing my train of thought from 'Oh no look what I've lost' to 'But yes I still have all this to live for' significantly changed my perception of a crisis from despair to hope.
My point is this.
When those very bad things did happen to you... would thinking of someone else have helped?
Your answer is no.
This thread might help if you burn the toast, but it's not going to help when something bad does happen.
My problem is with the thread's message... I'm not dwelling on things that heppened nearly 2 decades ago. You ...[text shortened]... ain, if this tactic works... you really didn't have a problem in the first place.
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I'm sorry if you can't grasp this. In fact I'm not even asking you to grasp this principle. It's just how I am and the way I try to look at the world.