Originally posted by EmLasker
Honestly, the reason I played chess is not because I truly enjoys it, but it is because I wanted to have a sense of accomplishment.
After playing many years of computer games, I do not feel inspired of felt the slightest hope of becoming something great in my future.
Now, here's gal that I am very attracted to (unfortunately she is the sister of some men like a real MAN.
do you think Chess will be my savior if I began to take it seriously?
Number one thing is confidence. Show her your confident in who you
are, and what you stand for. You need to get a direction, whether that
be chess, whether that be school, whatever. Establish a dream in your
life, something to work for, and a direction to go in. Once you have
that, it will be easy to stay positive, stay in a strong direction, and
you'll have unwaivering confidence. When this happens, you'll attract
the attention of not just women, but all people.
When people start looking to you with respect, because you stand so
clearly as an individual, they'll begin to become attracted to your
ation. [purposefully mispelled
Get a dream, where you want to be in 10 years, maybe 20 years.
Think of the steps that need to be done to get you there.
Then set little attainable goals.
Work towards them, remember you can't fail, because your working
towards a dream, whether you reach it or not doesn't matter, the fact is
you worked towards it, and thats fullfilling. Remember its taking small
steps all the time that works. I'm reminded of an ancient saying:
"If a man wished to bring a tree down by a whip, he could hit the
tree once each day, and someday the tree will certainly fall. Yet, even
the strongest man, could whip the tree untill his arm is dead, but the
tree will remain.
Little steps, each day, big smile, all day. Thats one of the biggest
secrets. Remember to smile. Your happy to be you, and everyone
else will be happy just to be around
It only takes the 4 d's as I like to say:
Once you establish this as part of your vertical alignment (the direction
you want to go is always up in life), you'll be working towards
something greater than you, and you'll be on your way
This impresses people. Women especially.
P.S. The computer games are a way for you to waste your time,
because you havn't found anything you need to dedicate yourself too.
So spend some time and think about it.