02 Dec '11 20:19>
I was surprised and disappointed by the support for caning/spanking on this forum.
IF YOU CAN STAY ON TOPIC please contribute your opinion and rationale.
IF YOU CAN STAY ON TOPIC please contribute your opinion and rationale.
Originally posted by wolfgang59Firstly i cannot find any support for caning among the posters of the forum, never
I was surprised and disappointed by the support for caning/spanking on this forum.
IF YOU CAN STAY ON TOPIC please contribute your opinion and rationale.
Originally posted by robbie carrobieI wonder what else you were learning as your mouth was washed with soap and water? If punishment really worked wouldnt there be a systematic approach in schools and society?
Firstly i cannot find any support for caning among the posters of the forum, never
the less, it brings up the point of appropriate punishment. When i was a child, I
uttered some profanity, having been warned that if i did it again, i would have my
mouth washed out with soap, naturally i ignored the sentiments and proceeded to
utter more prof ...[text shortened]... ld as is excessive brow beating and draconian
punishment both of which are counter productive.
Originally posted by wolfgang59With respect to misbehaviour of (young) children three reactions spring to mind (there may be more):
I was surprised and disappointed by the support for caning/spanking on this forum.
IF YOU CAN STAY ON TOPIC please contribute your opinion and rationale.
Originally posted by wolfgang59Everything works with kids, but there is a time and place for it.
I was surprised and disappointed by the support for caning/spanking on this forum.
IF YOU CAN STAY ON TOPIC please contribute your opinion and rationale.
Originally posted by wolfgang59I learned that their are limits of tolerance and behaviour that is acceptable and
I wonder what else you were learning as your mouth was washed with soap and water? If punishment really worked wouldnt there be a systematic approach in schools and society?
My 10yr old foster son came from a home of violence and bad language. He has a "Police Record" in that his mother had to call the police 3 times when he was violent to her and his ...[text shortened]... s.
My partner and I do not swear. We are not violent.
Guess what?
Neither is the boy now.
Originally posted by Agergan excellent post, you have actually found a use for the evolutionary hypothesis! It
With respect to misbehaviour of (young) children three reactions spring to mind (there may be more):
[b]Try to reason with the child
The problem with this is that young children, in general, haven't yet developed the capacity to understand the physical, societal, financial, ... consequences of their actions (even if spelt out by the figure of authority, imisation (in a local sense)?
I am pessimistic on this one - very pessimistic.[/b]
Originally posted by Rajk999Your rationale?
Everything works with kids, but there is a time and place for it.
Talk to them
Show them love and affection
Play with them
Teach them
Give them chores
Give them Play time
Make them read and study and learn
Teach them the Bible
Laugh with them
Cry with them
Correct them
Spank them
Be firm with them
Be lenient with them
Parenting requires a ...[text shortened]... n not to.
As for modern educational psychologists .. DONT WANT THEM NEAR MY KIDS .. thanks.
Originally posted by wolfgang59Read to them and teach them how to read
Your rationale?
Particularly
Make them read and study and learn (how? I'm sure every teacher would be fascinated by how you make a child read!)
Teach them the Bible (Why?)
Spank them (at last on topic .... but why?)
Originally posted by AgergReasoning with children using appropriate language is very effective - I'm not sure at what age it becomes effective but it is surprisingly young and does work for all school children.
With respect to misbehaviour of (young) children three reactions spring to mind (there may be more):
[b]Try to reason with the child
The problem with this is that young children, in general, haven't yet developed the capacity to understand the physical, societal, financial, ... consequences of their actions (even if spelt out by the figure of authority, ...[text shortened]... imisation (in a local sense)?
I am pessimistic on this one - very pessimistic.[/b]
Originally posted by wolfgang59But having the pain administered by an adult whom hopefully they look up to is
Reasoning with children using appropriate language is very effective - I'm not sure at what age it becomes effective but it is surprisingly young and does work for all school children.
A "naughty step" or "naughty chair" does work but I would only use this as a last resort - i would actually blame myself for not having dealt with the behaviour better o ...[text shortened]... y look up to is barbaric! It builds animosity and resentment as well as condoning violence.
Originally posted by Rajk999I more or less agree with your appraisal.
Everything works with kids, but there is a time and place for it.
Talk to them
Show them love and affection
Play with them
Teach them
Give them chores
Give them Play time
Make them read and study and learn
Teach them the Bible
Laugh with them
Cry with them
Correct them
Spank them
Be firm with them
Be lenient with them
Parenting requires a ...[text shortened]... n not to.
As for modern educational psychologists .. DONT WANT THEM NEAR MY KIDS .. thanks.
Originally posted by Rajk9991. Originally you said "make them read" not read to them or teach!
1. Read to them and teach them how to read
2. The Bible is the word of God
3. It works.