Originally posted by whodey
No, not really because I have heard you say this over and over again, not only to me, but to others on this forum. Therefore, it is I who owe you an apology for telling you what I think despite this fact.
You say and believe a lot of things despite the facts.
And I'm a bad student of the Buddha for not finding forgiveness for your evangelical crap. You are simply misled and may in time grow out of this.
It is close to the first anniversary of my son's death, so I'm more than a little out of sorts and on edge.
I'll be better later on.
In the meantime, best keep out of my way. When I go next week to unveil his tombstone there will be no prayers -- well, that's not even true.
I actually agreed with my wife who suggested asking her sister in law, who is quite religious and a true believer, to say the Jewish prayer for the dead. And we did that because we love her, not because my son needs the words spoken or would even approve. He'd make that crooked grin and imitate perfectly some TV evangelist and tell us to go read our scripture and go to church -- all that did not make him angry, it simply made him laugh.
When my father told me not to waste money on funeral arrangements for him because it wouldn't matter to him, he wasn't thinking clearly. All those arrangements were for his widow, not for him. Although we both were quite satisfied in our unconfirmed belief that he would not be present at the ceremony in any case we were wrong there, too. For I found that he never really left me.
There is a scene towards the end of that most wonderful movie For Whom the Bell Tolls where Gary Cooper tells Ingrid Bergman that she must go, she must flee before the enemy comes and leave Cooper, her lover, behind to face them and die holding them back to make good her escape. He tells her that all the life that he will have from that moment on is with and inside her. She carries him with her, he is a part of her and so she must go to "save our life."
I think that captures it very well.