Originally posted by mokko
I would like to pray for this person but they take pleasure in my pain, I would rather pray for vengance, yet I know this is suppose to be wrong. I truly wish harm on this person and it's tearing me up to do so. I've tried to focus my thoughts elsewhere but it's proving more difficult than I thought. Does anyone know of any helpfull passages I could read to regain perspective?
1. Read Simon Wiesenthal’s The Sunflower
; pay especial attention to Rabbi Harold Kushner’s contribution to the commentary.
2. Realize that “forgiveness” (an English translation word that does not necessarily capture the full range of meaning in Hebrew, or Greek, words—assuming a western Judeo-Christian background here) means freedom
first of all: freedom for you from bondage to the other; freedom for the other from your desire for revenge. Forgiveness does not
mean reconciliation or continued social “commerce.” It certainly does not mean re-entering an abusive relationship of any kind, nor submission to any kind of ill-treatment!
Both the NT Greek words, for example, translated as “forgiveness” (aphiemi
) mean to release, to set free, to let go
, even (in other Greek writings) to divorce.
I urge you to read Wiesenthal’s book. And to choose to be well and whole and free.