Topic: What Are You Doing Here?
Many people try to find a purpose for their life. Well, I am here to tell you of the purpose that I have found to not only be the most rewarding, but also one that should be applied to every adult who has made the choice to be a husband and father, or wife and mother: to be the best parent that we possibly can be. For me, this means that I need to protect my children from whatever may threaten them physically, emotionally or spiritually, even if it means to shelter or refuse them something that they desire. I have already done this many times on many different levels for my son Austin, and even for my unborn child that I am carrying right now. One of the ways that I have protected them is to forbid my husband’s mother and stepfather to be in my children’s lives. It is a long story, but in short, my in-laws are wicked, perverse, cold, and controlling in a way that literally threatens to ruin their “victims” lives. Though they have threatened to disrupt my life in ways that only my immediate family can know, I still took the chance that my life could fall apart in order to keep my children from ever knowing those people. The situation is far more serious than I can say, but proves my point that I would do anything to ensure the safety of those that I have been blessed to be Mother to.
Maybe part of the reason that I feel this incredible need to protect and love my offspring is because I was raised with that same love and devotion. But there’s more to it than that. I actually feel this unstoppable, unwavering sense of mothering that can only be described as embedded by God. The extent that I will protect my children would go beyond just death…if I had the choice; I would bare eternal damnation for them. I believe that God has instilled this into not only me, but every mother and father out there. If we let Him, God can use us to guide, train and impact our children in ways that no other person can or SHOULD do. We have the power to raise our children to live happy, successful lives...and furthermore, we have the power to raise them to HAVE A PURPOSE; whether their purpose is to be a wife and mother or husband and father, or for them to become preachers or to have a positive effect on society. For many men and women, their purpose is to be BOTH a husband/father AND a preacher, or a wife/mother AND Godly influence in other’s lives, etc.
But as for me, my most compelling purpose here is to first love my husband unconditionally and exclusively, and then to raise my children to love God and choose Him as their only Savior. It is absolutely necessary that my husband is first on my priority list because if our relationship is safe and secure, then – and only then – can our home be safe and secure to raise children as well. It is a purpose that I would beseech all mothers and fathers to have.
3 Jo 1:4 I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.
Originally posted by SharpeMotherJust out of curiousity, have you ever spoken to you inlaws about how you percieve their behaviour?
Topic: What Are You Doing Here?
Many people try to find a purpose for their life. Well, I am here to tell you of the purpose that I have found to not only be the most rewarding, but also one that should be applied to every adult who has made the choice to be a husband and father, or wife and mother: to be the best parent that we possibly can be. For ...[text shortened]... fathers to have.
3 Jo 1:4 I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.
But as for me, my most compelling purpose here is to first love my husband unconditionally and exclusively, and then to raise my children to love God and choose Him as their only Savior. It is absolutely necessary that my husband is first on my priority list because if our relationship is safe and secure, then – and only then – can our home be safe and secure to raise children as well. It is a pur ...[text shortened]... fathers to have.My goodness! The bravery, faith and self sacrifice is compelling but can I ask a question? Where do you fit in here? Here's hoping that you are first on the priority list (although that is difficult at 19 y/o, I know) and you just didn't say so. My belief is that children don't benefit when mom is the martyr. Neither does mom after a decade or two of being one.
3 Jo 1:4 I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.[/b]
Correct me if I'm wrong. 🙂
Originally posted by Hand of HecateOh yes, and they responded in a threatening, insulting manner that ended the relationship permanently. They hold to a belief that causes them to judge natural life situations harshly. For instance, if someone was to have a miscarriage they would literally write them a letter saying that they were in sin and that was their punishment, etc.
Just out of curiousity, have you ever spoken to you inlaws about how you percieve their behaviour?
Originally posted by SunburntLol, don't worry, my husband is first on my priority list, but I am first on his too, so we both get what we need. He spoils me…I am no martyr. 🙂
My goodness! The bravery, faith and self sacrifice is compelling but can I ask a question? Where do you fit in here? Here's hoping that you are first on the priority list (although that is difficult at 19 y/o, I know) and you just didn't say so. My belief is that children don't benefit when mom is the martyr. Neither does mom after a decade or two of being one.
Correct me if I'm wrong. 🙂
Originally posted by SharpeMotherThat is soooo sad. You should write them a letter back quoting 1 Corinthians 13 with something to the effect that without love, you are nothing. Even if I had all faith and all knowledge but have not love I am nothing more than something that makes noise. Or you could write, "He who is without sin, cast the first letter!" 😛
Oh yes, and they responded in a threatening, insulting manner that ended the relationship permanently. They hold to a belief that causes them to judge natural life situations harshly. For instance, if someone was to have a miscarriage they would literally write them a letter saying that they were in sin and that was their punishment, etc.
Originally posted by whodeyWhich do you think would be more effective, that or about 5 years of psychotherapy?
That is soooo sad. You should write them a letter back quoting 1 Corinthians 13 with something to the effect that without love, you are nothing. Even if I had all faith and all knowledge but have not love I am nothing more than something that makes noise. Or you could write, "He who is without sin, cast the first letter!" 😛
Originally posted by kirksey957Arguing with religious fanatics is very therapeutic. I think a series of letters would be a great idea... and hilarious if done with flair. I will, free of charge, offer my services to thuggerize the inlaws with an appropriate letter. Perhaps this should be the next installment of the sermon competition.
Which do you think would be more effective, that or about 5 years of psychotherapy?
Originally posted by Hand of HecateI'm going to steal the word "thuggerize"
Arguing with religious fanatics is very therapeutic. I think a series of letters would be a great idea... and hilarious if done with flair. I will, free of charge, offer my services to thuggerize the inlaws with an appropriate letter. Perhaps this should be the next installment of the sermon competition.
And if there is a letter writing service as the next installment I might have to participate!
😉
Originally posted by SharpeMotherDon't get me wrong, the intention would never be to work out your differences, rather to pervert and twist their beliefs and verbally eviscerate the riff raff you've married into.
Hahaha, trust me, I've tried all that too. We were writing letters and emails back and forth trying to work on all of our differences, but to no use.
Originally posted by Hand of HecateHAHAHA, that is EXACTLY what they were doing to me. My husband warned me to not confront them on anything but I am stubborn.
Don't get me wrong, the intention would never be to work out your differences, rather to pervert and twist their beliefs and verbally eviscerate the riff raff you've married into.
Anyway, now that I've finally submitted my sermon I am finding it hard to be patient for the evaluations next weekend!