Originally posted by Starrman
1) The desire is not borne from illusion, it is borne from the very real sense of comfort that is paralleled in a mother's arms or the smell of a dad's jumper etc.
2) I could list them all day, but here's just a few: The desire for food, the desire for quiet, the desire for companionship, the desire for understanding, the desire for safety, the desire ...[text shortened]... helter, for clothing, for love, for recognition. None of these are illusions, I could go on.
I’m having a problem here. (And this post is addressed more broadly than to just your response to ToO.) What is “needful” in order to be happy? You have listed several items, not all of which would appear on everyone’s list. Does someone who has more “needs” have greater difficulty in being happy? What about those people who are able to remain happy in dire, and painful, circumstances? (And absolutely nothing about this is to suggest that I might be able to be anything but abjectly miserable in the conditions under which some people exist—physical misery is not something I want to minimize here.)
Epicurus broke it down something like this: There are desires that are needful, and those that are not. Among those that are not, there are desires that are nevertheless natural and those that are unnatural (not in any moralistic sense). There are also desires that are easy to obtain, and those that are troublesome to attain.
In his hedonistic* calculus, one should focus on those desires that are needful, and those that are natural and relatively easy to obtain. One should also take care, lest overindulgence of even needful desires result in pain, rather than pleasure (e.g., overeating). For example, nutritious food is needful, but if steak is more troublesome to obtain than chicken, that troublesomeness may well outweigh the pleasure-difference of taste. Epicurus recommended wine (in moderate amounts) if is was easily obtainable, clean water if it was not.
For Epicurus
ataraxia (non-disturbed mind) was as much a part of being happy as sensual pleasure, or intellectual pleasure. And, quite frankly, one need not be frustrated if they find that all the steak’s gone and there’s only chicken on the menu—one can be frustrated if one chooses, or one is habituated to that kind of thing, but it really isn’t a necessary psychological response.
I’d, frankly, be more inclined to keep the word “needs” in reference to the survival level (and minimal physical comfort). I would distinguish between needs, desires and cravings.** I likely would be unhappy if survival needs (and minimal physical comfort) were not being met, or were endangered, for myself and those I love. I am generally not made unhappy by unfulfilled desires. Cravings, I try to reduce to simple desires.
This from Omar Khayyam (by way of Edward Fitzgerald) is what I might call an “extravagant” Epicurean mode—
A book of verses underneath the bough,
a loaf of bread, a jug of wine, and thou
beside me singing in the wilderness—
Ah! Wilderness were paradise enow!
Good company, basic food and drink, intellectual/aesthetic stimulation (e.g., poetry, or philosophy): that was pretty much Epicurus’ formula. He might have said however that neither wine nor wilderness were necessary for happiness: water and a pleasant garden will do.
The basic point: happiness is not entirely externally caused. It is as much a matter of the mind, and decisions of the mind. Right now, for example, I am still going through some nicotine withdrawal—physically unpleasant and a bit distracting, but not a cause for unhappiness: I can choose to groan, or I can choose to laugh. And I am aware of my choice.
This is just a kind of first-pass: there’s likely lots of contingencies (especially in terms of extreme conditions) that I haven’t thought of.
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* Epicurus’ hedonism had nothing to do with “eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow you may die”; he was actually quite ascetic.
** Cravings can be the result of unsatisfied needs—such as for lack of certain nutrients in one’s diet. They can also take the form of addiction.
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EDIT: Perhaps more to the point of this forum would be the question, "What aesthetic desires need to be fulfilled to keep one from becoming unhappy?"