Originally posted by leisurelyslothI think the southern US skews those figures a tad.
Well meaning advice I'm sure, but if your wife is over 30 as well, then it's probably a blunder. The odds of complications in pregnancy will go up dramatically the longer you wait. If you're going to go for it, then don't dillydally.
Originally posted by Hand of HecateIsn't there enough Hecate in the world. 😛 😞
My wife and I have been talking about having a child. Quite honsetly I've spent my life trying [b]not to knock anyone up and while I think I'll make a decent Dad I'm intimidated by the whole concept.
I think too many people go blindly into having a child with no forethought and preparation. However, perhaps I'm overthinking this. I waited un ...[text shortened]... d I'm financially secure. Still having a child is a huge responsibility.
Any thoughts?[/b]
Originally posted by Hand of HecateSo, the conversation isn't "should we ever have a kid?", it's "is now the right time?" (I'm assuming it's the latter.) I say as long as you're over 30 and relatively secure financially, you should go for it. I have 2 and I wouldn't change a thing. You're going to have one eventually, right? Which would you like to be, an old parent, or a young parent? Do you want to see your kid grow up, get married, have kids of his own...etc? Besides that, the sooner you do it, the better it is for the baby (as far as health risks are concerned).
My wife and I have been talking about having a child.
Got any names in mind?
Originally posted by Hand of Hecateits just one of those things ...you know when you're ready. if you're not sure, then i would say theres no harm in waiting until you definately know its the right time. personally, i think if you're intimidated by becoming a father then its probably a good idea to wait for a little while.
My wife and I have been talking about having a child. Quite honsetly I've spent my life trying [b]not to knock anyone up and while I think I'll make a decent Dad I'm intimidated by the whole concept.
I think too many people go blindly into having a child with no forethought and preparation. However, perhaps I'm overthinking this. I waited un ...[text shortened]... d I'm financially secure. Still having a child is a huge responsibility.
Any thoughts?[/b]
Originally posted by Hand of HecateJust to throw a different angle into this. I did rush into having my children and they are the best mistakes I ever made.
My wife and I have been talking about having a child. Quite honsetly I've spent my life trying [b]not to knock anyone up and while I think I'll make a decent Dad I'm intimidated by the whole concept.
I think too many people go blindly into having a child with no forethought and preparation. However, perhaps I'm overthinking this. I waited un ...[text shortened]... d I'm financially secure. Still having a child is a huge responsibility.
Any thoughts?[/b]
You are secure in your job, financially sound and love your wife.
Time for the kid, and may yours be blessed.
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Originally posted by MoldyThe sentiment that Peachy expresses is very similar to what is taught in lemming school 😉
If you and the missus are happy and your relationship is solid then go for it. But babies make bad glue for relationships that are coming apart.
Originally posted by Peachy
Since you asked our opinions on the topic... whichever way you decide. Just keep one thought in mind though, if you don't do it, you will always wonder what it would have been like to be a father.
No pressure. 😉
😕If you don't take that leap off the cliff you'll never know what it might be like to fly.
Unfortunately, amongst the many tests we have devised to attempt too control our various behaviours... there is no test for acceptability as a parent. 😳 This is really very, very lamentable :'(:'(
Although babies make bad glue for relationships that are coming apart very few of us seem to consider that these badly glued babies can grow up to become serial killers, dictators and even presidents and first ministers of large countries with vast arsenals of weapons and soldiers to deploy.
😀 A stable long-term relationship is probably the preferred environment for the healthy growth of children. But it's even more challenging keeping a long-term relationship together without kids.
Originally posted by General PutzerWhat utter nonsense. I pity you if your life is so meaningless that having children is the most important aspect of it.
I can't believe some of the things I've read on this thread. If you never have children, you'll lead a barren pointless existence and your life will have signified nothing when you die.
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Originally posted by General PutzerNot to get too philosophical but life is pointless if we fail to give it meaning. Sometimes even then... 😉
I can't believe some of the things I've read on this thread. If you never have children, you'll lead a barren pointless existence and your life will have signified nothing when you die.
😀 One of largest common deceits is believing that our life has some significance while we're alive. 🙄
😛 Thankfully, imho, once we die we are immediately relieved of the burden of meaninglessness.
Dogs pee on trees because their urine is one of the few ways they have of leaving a mark... 🙄