Originally posted by SunburntI've been to my share of enormous extravagant weddings. Honestly, most have been pretty forgettable. Same food, DJ/band, same cake...nothing really special at all except the price tag. And the same wedding will probably happen again in the same banquet room next weekend.
I'm about to attend a 275 guest, $60,000 wedding. My 30 year old sister-in-law has graciously asked us all (including my children and ex) to be in the wedding and spend $2000.00 of our own money, all told. Money has been spent, wedding is Saturday. This requires a three day stay at a hotel in the Bronx, NY, dresses, shoes, makeup, hair, jewelry, hosiery, a ...[text shortened]... ow the 30'somethings are too. Big rings, big weddings, big food, big drinks.
Why?
My wife and I eloped. I wouldn't change a thing.
I also think it's very inconsiderate to make people pay a ton of money to participate in their ego trip.
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Originally posted by SunburntWisest decision at any age is a modest wedding (which is primarily for the mother of the bride anyway, in part, so that she can secure her
I'm about to attend a 275 guest, $60,000 wedding. My 30 year old sister-in-law has graciously asked us all (including my children and ex) to be in the wedding and spend $2000.00 of our own money, all told. Money has been spent, wedding is Saturday. This requires a three day stay at a hotel in the Bronx, NY, dresses, shoes, makeup, hair, jewelry, hosiery, a ow the 30'somethings are too. Big rings, big weddings, big food, big drinks.
Why?
social standing and remedy her own previous disappoints) ceremony and a world class wedding trip. Believe older ladies who overkill their
nuptials do it mostly for competitive conspicuous consumption or show. In no way cynical about these choices but see them in this light.
Am I wrong?
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Originally posted by SunburntWhy?????
I'm about to attend a 275 guest, $60,000 wedding. My 30 year old sister-in-law has graciously asked us all (including my children and ex) to be in the wedding and spend $2000.00 of our own money, all told. Money has been spent, wedding is Saturday. This requires a three day stay at a hotel in the Bronx, NY, dresses, shoes, makeup, hair, jewelry, hosiery, a ...[text shortened]... ow the 30'somethings are too. Big rings, big weddings, big food, big drinks.
Why?
I think what you have to remember is that old saying"To each his own". Although I agree that spending thousands on a wedding isn't my "cup of tea" either that's my choice. As for you attending and spending $2,000 to do so remember that's a choice YOU make and it doesn't sound like you want to go so don't.
Originally posted by SunburntDon't you feel really put out having to spend all that money because they say so. It feels like extortion to make them feel important. I've quit doing weddings I'm so disgusted with them being hijacked by egos. I found the way out. I started asking couple to show me the receipt for things like the dress or what dollar amount they thoughtthe honeymoon would be. Tehn I asked them to go get some marriage counseling to equal that amount. You could usually hear the tires squealling to get out of there. Funerals are more my pace. They still cost too much though and the food isn't as good.
It's true. It will be fabulous and everyone will be beautiful.
It's just sad to spend so much money like that. 60K would be excellent on a house but they chose this way.
Which reminds me: they will likely get a big chunk of their money back from monetary gifts. My friend had a 48K wedding ten years ago and got 42K back that night. She is Italian and this is customary.
Originally posted by ChronicLeakyEspecially if they expect you to pay $2000 yourself! That's just crazy! Luckily none of my siblings had such inclinations. They all had very nice, but rather inexpensive weddings. The things I remember most are things that cost no or very little money - the songs we wrote, music we played, sketches, poems etc.
Are you serious? You have every right to those five numbered statements and more. If someone, even someone in my immediate family, invited me to such a thing, I don't think I'd go.
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Originally posted by NordlysI get nervous at pre-meeting introductions, can't imagine forking out thousands to display myself, can't imagine paying thousands to attend a wedding either. Money better spent on a house, than a fairytale day-long event.
Especially if they expect you to pay $2000 yourself! That's just crazy! Luckily none of my siblings had such inclinations. They all had very nice, but rather inexpensive weddings. The things I remember most are things that cost no or very little money - the songs we wrote, music we played, sketches, poems etc.
Might pay some serious cash for a Bridesmaid's dress though, Sunburnt, wink, wink.
Originally posted by Sunburntget loaded and boink one of the groomsnen in the coat room, that'll even things out for ya😉
I'm about to attend a 275 guest, $60,000 wedding. My 30 year old sister-in-law has graciously asked us all (including my children and ex) to be in the wedding and spend $2000.00 of our own money, all told. Money has been spent, wedding is Saturday. This requires a three day stay at a hotel in the Bronx, NY, dresses, shoes, makeup, hair, jewelry, hosiery, a ...[text shortened]... ow the 30'somethings are too. Big rings, big weddings, big food, big drinks.
Why?
Originally posted by rbmorrisGood for you. That's what I wanted to do, romantic, just for you (the two of you). Instead we had a wedding in our town just the way our families wanted.
My wife and I eloped. I wouldn't change a thing.
I also think it's very inconsiderate to make people pay a ton of money to participate in their ego trip.
When I look back I'm glad so many where there to celebrate with us, but it dosen't 'feel' like it was our day. So good for you, if any day in our lives surelly our wedding day is the day that should feel like it went our way. I don't regret it, though. We would never have heard the end of it!!
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Originally posted by SunburntLook on the positive side, you'll likely get blind drunk, hook up with one of the grromsmen and have rough anonymous sex in the coat room of the reception hall. Seems worth it to me.
I'm about to attend a 275 guest, $60,000 wedding. My 30 year old sister-in-law has graciously asked us all (including my children and ex) to be in the wedding and spend $2000.00 of our own money, all told. Money has been spent, wedding is Saturday. This requires a three day stay at a hotel in the Bronx, NY, dresses, shoes, makeup, hair, jewelry, hosiery, a ow the 30'somethings are too. Big rings, big weddings, big food, big drinks.
Why?
Edit: Try not to reflect on this whole circus being a reflection of your own fading youth and broken dreams. Its perfectly natural for you to harbour ill will towards your sister-in-law for having the perfect life while you pick through the shattered remains of yours.
Originally posted by Hand of HecateShut up, stupid.
Look on the positive side, you'll likely get blind drunk, hook up with one of the grromsmen and have rough anonymous sex in the coat room of the reception hall. Seems worth it to me.
Edit: Try not to reflect on this whole circus being a reflection of your own fading youth and broken dreams. Its perfectly natural for you to harbour ill will toward ...[text shortened]... ister-in-law for having the perfect life while you pick through the shattered remains of yours.