I'm about to attend a 275 guest, $60,000 wedding. My 30 year old sister-in-law has graciously asked us all (including my children and ex) to be in the wedding and spend $2000.00 of our own money, all told. Money has been spent, wedding is Saturday. This requires a three day stay at a hotel in the Bronx, NY, dresses, shoes, makeup, hair, jewelry, hosiery, alterations, tuxes, gas money, etc. It's been unbelieveable. It will be fabulous. We will dance the night away. Everyone will be beautiful.
Then they go to Fiji for two weeks. They haven't even bought real estate.
When I got married, I had 45 people at my wedding and it cost 12K and it was simple and elegant. I'm getting divorced and that was 11 years ago. Not that I plan on marrying again, EVER, but I still wouldn't have a GIANT wedding. But the other women of my age at that time were having luxurious weddings. They all had huge diamonds.
Is it awful to admit that my foremost thoughts are:
1. What a waste of money.
2. She's going to give up her career to have kids.
3. They will likely divorce within 12 years.
4. They will move into an enormous McMansion.
5. I am going to eat myself to bloating and then get smashed at the open bar to make up for the cost of this thing.
These big wedding extravaganza's bother me. I used to think that just the 20'somethings had these weddings, but now the 30'somethings are too. Big rings, big weddings, big food, big drinks.
Why?
Originally posted by SunburntBig weddings are crazy, I don't see the point. Luckily my wife agreed.
I'm about to attend a 275 guest, $60,000 wedding. My 30 year old sister-in-law has graciously asked us all (including my children and ex) to be in the wedding and spend $2000.00 of our own money, all told. Money has been spent, wedding is Saturday. This requires a three day stay at a hotel in the Bronx, NY, dresses, shoes, makeup, hair, jewelry, hosiery, a ...[text shortened]... ow the 30'somethings are too. Big rings, big weddings, big food, big drinks.
Why?
Our wedding was under 10 grand, which was paid by my mother-in-law.
We asked everyone to rather just give us $$$ instead of presents - Hell, after we came back from our honeymoon we still had about 30K left over...
Originally posted by SunburntI had a big wedding that cost alot of money... I take that back.. My WIFE had a big expensive wedding. That was 6 years ago and..
1.The cake is gone
2.The food and drinks are gone
3.I never look at the pictures or the video
4.The $1000 DJ that burns music for free just like I do is not around
5.Wheres that $1200 limo that I spent a whole 30 min total in?
6.I cant believe I supported the Methodist church just to have my wedding in a beautiful church
7. I spent well over $100 per person.. and a family of 5 bought be a damn $25 toaster😠
8. I dont even see or talk to 99% of the guests anymore.
9.I could have bought a hooker for a year and it still would have been cheaper than getting married.. and I wouldn't have had to keep the b*^&%.
10.Wedding planner!? I actually paid some bi^&% to boss me around😞
11 We went to Vegas afterward anyways..I could have paid $100 to get married and spent 40grand on strippers.
12 $40,000 on a wedding.. and I had to borrow $3,000 for a down payment on a house.. that was smart.
13. $800 for mariachi. STUPID. I should have let them play ..then 15 min before they were finished .. call immigration.
14. Do men really know how much flowers cost!?... anyways.. they are all dead.
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Originally posted by epic0002NOW I feel depressed..... 😞
I had a big wedding that cost alot of money... I take that back.. My WIFE had a big expensive wedding. That was 6 years ago and..
1.The cake is gone
2.The food and drinks are gone
3.I never look at the pictures or the video
4.The $1000 DJ that burns music for free just like I do is not around
5.Wheres that $1200 limo that I spent a whole 30 m ...[text shortened]...
14. Do men really know how much flowers cost!?... anyways.. they are all dead.
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Originally posted by epic0002See? See?
I had a big wedding that cost alot of money... I take that back.. My WIFE had a big expensive wedding. That was 6 years ago and..
1.The cake is gone
2.The food and drinks are gone
3.I never look at the pictures or the video
4.The $1000 DJ that burns music for free just like I do is not around
5.Wheres that $1200 limo that I spent a whole 30 m ...[text shortened]...
14. Do men really know how much flowers cost!?... anyways.. they are all dead.
..........
Originally posted by epic0002wow, as gay as it sounds i got to get into the wedding business 😛
I had a big wedding that cost alot of money... I take that back.. My WIFE had a big expensive wedding. That was 6 years ago and..
1.The cake is gone
2.The food and drinks are gone
3.I never look at the pictures or the video
4.The $1000 DJ that burns music for free just like I do is not around
5.Wheres that $1200 limo that I spent a whole 30 m ...[text shortened]...
14. Do men really know how much flowers cost!?... anyways.. they are all dead.
..........
i had other stuff to say here but forgot 😞
Originally posted by irontigranI dont know... One of my ex-girlfriends dad offered both his daughters 10,000 cash and a small wedding...or a big bash... both daughters took the big wedding.Society makes women feel cheated if they dont go all out for their wedding I guess.
the real question is, how do guys get around this? there has to be tactics to apply to not have to lose tens of thousands..
Originally posted by epic0002yeah, and that sucks..
I dont know... One of my ex-girlfriends dad offered both his daughters 10,000 cash and a small wedding...or a big bash... both daughters took the big wedding.Society makes women feel cheated if they dont go all out for their wedding I guess.
even if i was forced to be completely "wasteful" with 30k, i would at least spend it on something nice.. like, a livetime supply of dones to ever forget that im married 😛