Originally posted by FMF
Well the me-and-the-yakuza thing was a joke, as you well know, so does that mean you losing count of how many homeless people's lives you've saved with CPR was a joke too?
Just so everyone here can see what kind of scumbag, cheap-shot used-car-salesman loser you are to people like me, who
dare to disagree with you on nearly an everyday basis, here's the post I made, replying to Ghost of a Duke, that you have jumped on repeatedly, merely because somehow you think it showcases my motivations when it was an "off-the-cuff" comment talking about something completely different. And still you wonder why I do disagree with you on nearly everything. This was a discussion thread about whether people should give money to the poor or homeless or try to help them in other ways. It was a good thread, too, until you jumped in and started denigrating this post I made and ending up making the discussion all about you, as usual. Nearly five months ago now, and you
still can't let it go.
27 Sep '16 04:01
Originally posted by Ghost of a Duke
I have on occasion asked such individuals if I can get them anything from the bakery. (A sandwich or such). Although I agree with you to some extent that it is their responsibility how they spend the money (if you elect to give it to them) but by buying something for them I retain control of what that money is used for. (Perhaps this is for my own peace of mind that i am not helping to fuel a drug habit or the like).
Has it ever occurred to you that in asserting your control over what they spend it on, this disrespects their humanity? You control their spending, and so you retain authority over them. I'm sure that a lot of them might reject your help because of the strings that come with it. Why can't we just treat people like people, regardless what their social status is?? A man is already ashamed of being reduced to begging for help, but for people to exert their authority over him by providing conditions on their gift (I sometimes call it a loan, so we can both pretend that they'll pay me back), it reduces the man to less than a man (women seem to have less of a problem with it, men especially chafe at ceding control to another). These people have self-respect, too. They aren't usually in their situation because they want to be. I deal with homeless people nearly every day, and I can see the thankfulness in their eyes when I go beyond how most people treat them and treat them like actual human beings. It is indeed the least we can do for them. I ask their name and call them by their name. I don't patronize them by calling them 'sir' or 'ma'am' unless they're significantly older than me. I can't count how many I've had to drag into my car and take them to the hospital. I've had to give some CPR. Some make it, some don't. But I treat them all with respect. And when I do give someone money to buy food, I don't treat them like a child who can't be trusted with the money.