Originally posted by NordlysComforting. Thanks.
Go visit him. You'll regret not having done it if you wait too long. And it might mean a lot to your granddad, even if he may not be able to show it. It's very difficult to know what's going on in the head of a person with advanced dementia, but sometimes you can see glimpses of recognition, understanding or emotion that show that there is still someone in t ...[text shortened]... he bad times. Can some good moments weigh up for lots of bad ones? I really don't know.
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyThat is the most moronic thing that you ever wrote.
[b]"We can choose when and in what manner we die."
Grossly incorrect. God almighty alone selects the time, place and manner of our physical deaths. During the brief sojurn
we all have a short time to get past our arrogance and get it right, to get our our souls in order and our tickets punched.
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Originally posted by Hand of HecateI am 51 and have standing orders to apply all heroic actions necessary to keep my humble self alive. But I have had an epihany (if that's the correct word) lately. With 80% of people NOT dying peacefully at home with loved ones close by, I can only surmise that these heroic efforts aren't keeping folks alive for long enough. Therefore, I have actually changed my mind and have left instructions to NOT allow me to reach the point that you described. I shall not bankrupt my son with bills that keep me alive only to wallow in my own filth and not even recognize my family. If this app[lies to the "death panels" that were so vilified many months ago (and no I don't keep up with politics so I don't know any details), then I'm all for 'em. There are conditions worse than death. Still and all---in answer to your question, would I want to live forever? Given reasonably good health throughtout, you bet your sweet bippy!😉
I visited a nursing home the other day to see a sick friend stricken with ALS.
The smell always leaves a lasting impression. Slightly chemical, cleaners and solvents masking an almost sweet sickly odor of living death and decay.
What does despair smell like? What do hopes, dreams and fading memories feel like as they slip through your finger ...[text shortened]... right to take your own life be inalienable?
If you could live forever, would you want to?
Originally posted by PinkFloydI watched my mother pay 400 pounds (UK) PER WEEK, to see her mother cared for in a home, when her mother was in deep alzheimers. She paid for 5 years, at a cost of 100,000 quid, plus travel and the rest, daily. My mother wanted to take her mother home, but it was not accepted by the British legal system, as my mother was working. She wasn't allowed to employ a secondary home worker. My grandmother had to be kept in a nursing home. My father visited every night, to clean her up and remove the crap the nurses, who were not qualified nurses, didn't remove or even check were present! We were allowed to bring her home once a week only. She had moments of remembering, then frantic moments. With her condition, she was placed as a 'risk' to the community.
I am 51 and have standing orders to apply all heroic actions necessary to keep my humble self alive. But I have had an epihany (if that's the correct word) lately. With 80% of people NOT dying peacefully at home with loved ones close by, I can only surmise that these heroic efforts aren't keeping folks alive for long enough. Therefore, I have actually c ...[text shortened]... to live forever? Given reasonably good health throughtout, you bet your sweet bippy!😉
Your words of not wanting to leave the crap for your family are true. Fortunately, I was able to step in and help financially, before MY OWN PARENTS were on the verge of re-mortgaging their home to cover costs.
My mother said to me, "If I get like this, will you push me off a cliff, please!"
Originally posted by mikelomThanks for the window, Mike.
I watched my mother pay 400 pounds (UK) PER WEEK, to see her mother cared for in a home, when her mother was in deep alzheimers. She paid for 5 years, at a cost of 100,000 quid, plus travel and the rest, daily. My mother wanted to take her mother home, but it was not accepted by the British legal system, as my mother was working. She wasn't allowed to employ ...[text shortened]... ts.
My mother said to me, "If I get like this, will you push me off a cliff, please!"