Do people make you into a jerk on purpose?
Here is what I can’t stand.
We have a neighbor across the street that we rideshare children to school with every day. He drops them off in the morning and we pick them up at the end of school day. About once a week he is not home when we get back from school with his six year old daughter so we are forced to take her into our home until he arrives. We have spoken to him about this on several occasions and ask that if he is going to be late to please call us from his cell phone (which he does not answer on the days he is late) and let us know. It is no big deal keeping his daughter for 15 minutes if he is tied at up at work if he would just call.
The problem is that he does not call and is a jerk to my wife about it when confronted. Being the mild mannered, polite person that I am should I walk over and demand a twelve pack of beer for every time he is late without calling or be passive aggressive and beat his windshield out with a hammer?
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Originally posted by Ringtailhunter15 minutes isn't so bad, I would cut him some slack, maybe the traffic is particulary bad on the days that he is late. If he really starts taking advantage say a regular 30 minutes being late then it is probably time to find some one else to share the duties.
Do people make you into a jerk on purpose?
Here is what I can’t stand.
We have a neighbor across the street that we rideshare children to school with every day. He drops them off in the morning and we pick them up at the end of school day. About once a week he is not home when we get back from school with his six year old daughter so w ...[text shortened]... late without calling or be passive aggressive and beat his windshield out with a hammer?
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To answer you thread title question.
The only thing you can have total control over is your own behaviour/attitude, so in situations where you are acting like a jerk, its really your own fault.
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Originally posted by Jay PeateaSo it's ok that he does not call or answer his cell phone to say he is running a little late. What if his being late makes me miss an important appointment?
15 minutes isn't so bad, I would cut him some slack, maybe the traffic is particulary bad on the days that he is late. If he really starts taking advantage say a regular 30 minutes being late then it is probably time to find some one else to share the duties.
To answer you thread title question.
The only thing you can have total control over is yo ...[text shortened]... haviour/attitude, so in situations where you are acting like a jerk, its really your own fault.
I take it that you feel that your time is more important than other peoples time. It is sad that you think that 15 minuts is no big deal to hold up some one elses time because of things that are your fault. You see what irritates me is that we pick up and drop off the children at the same time each day...no exceptions. Do you know why? Because it is a something that happens at the same time Monday through Friday. Being late once or twice is one thing, after that you make sure you leave earlier or at the very least have enough respect and manners to call the person who is being affected by your poor planning. It is not my fault if someone is being late, but I am the one made to be inconvienenced not them.
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Originally posted by RingtailhunterYeah, that's just wrong. You have every right to be pissed off and take some sort of action. If he's going to be late, he should call. We get that all the time with people. Some kid comes over to play with one of our kids and the Mom says she'll pick him up at 4:00. Then she'll show up at 5:00 and act like nothing happened. There's no excuse for that kind of crap. Peoples' time is valuable. If I'm going to be late, I'll call. Suppose they had other plans? Maybe they wanted to go out to dinner, but were waiting for me to come pick up my kid? Whatever. It's just rude. I totally sympathize with you.
So it's ok that he does not call or answer his cell phone to say he is running a little late. What if his being late makes me miss an important appointment?
Originally posted by rbmorrisHere is the kicker. We pick the kids up from school get home and his truck is gone and he is not answering his cell phone or the phone at home. about 45 minutes goes by and we call the house again because the lights are on...his wife answers (my wife was on speaker phone with her and it was everything I could do to not start berating this dingbat) My wife says...oh your home? do you want your daughter? Why was your husband late? why didn't you call?
Yeah, that's just wrong. You have every right to be pissed off and take some sort of action. If he's going to be late, he should call. We get that all the time with people. Some kid comes over to play with one of our kids and the Mom says she'll pick him up at 4:00. Then she'll show up at 5:00 and act like nothing happened. There's no excuse for that ...[text shortened]... me to come pick up my kid? Whatever. It's just rude. I totally sympathize with you.
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What on earth is wrong with these mouth breathers? WHAT WHAT WHAT!
This is the same ding dong who left his 3 year old son in the car while it was running and the kid hit it into reverse and backed over my mailbox while I watched....he comes over gets in his car and drives off and never says a word about it........
Makes for great stories at parties.....
Originally posted by RingtailhunterReverse roles. Problem solved.
Here is the kicker. We pick the kids up from school get home and his truck is gone and he is not answering his cell phone or the phone at home. about 45 minutes goes by and we call the house again because the lights are on...his wife answers (my wife was on speaker phone with her and it was everything I could do to not start berating this dingbat) M ...[text shortened]... and drives off and never says a word about it........
Makes for great stories at parties.....
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Originally posted by RagnorakWe've tried that. Last fall we had a party for the neighbors at our house....bonfire, beer, food the works. The whole block shows up with thier children in tow plus half the next block as well. These knuckleheads send thier kids over ages 4,6,10 but decide to sit in there house and watch a movie. All of us kinda looked at eachother and my wife rounded up 12 kids plus thiers and walked them all accross the street and put them in thier fence. They came over after about 1/2 hour later dropped off our kids and took thiers home.
Reverse roles. Problem solved.
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Originally posted by RingtailhunterIt takes a village to raise the village idiots' children.
We've tried that. Last fall we had a party for the neighbors at our house....bonfire, beer, food the works. The whole block shows up with thier children in tow plus half the next block as well. These knuckleheads send thier kids over ages 4,6,10 but decide to sit in there house and watch a movie. All of us kinda looked at eachother and my wife rou ...[text shortened]... They came over after about 1/2 hour later dropped off our kids and took thiers home.
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You may be reading this asking why I don't cut the ties and tell these people to pound sand?
Because it is my wifes arrangement and it helps her out that he drops the kids off in the mornings. I cant do anything but complain. One of these nights I do intend to get really drunk and excersize passive agressive activities and hook my tractor to his mail box and basketball hoop and pull them down the block...
Originally posted by RingtailhunterBy reverse roles, I meant you do the morning run, and let them do the evening run.
We've tried that. Last fall we had a party for the neighbors at our house....bonfire, beer, food the works. The whole block shows up with thier children in tow plus half the next block as well. These knuckleheads send thier kids over ages 4,6,10 but decide to sit in there house and watch a movie. All of us kinda looked at eachother and my wife rou ...[text shortened]... They came over after about 1/2 hour later dropped off our kids and took thiers home.
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May not work in your particular circumstances, but hey?
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Originally posted by RagnorakMaybe an alternative. The only hook is that we pick up more kids in the afternoon than he drops off in the morning. He makes two runs, one early for his son who is in "special" classes because he is disruptive in the class (big suprise another waster of other peoples time and I have to pay for it with my taxes). He drives a pickup and doesn't have the room.
By reverse roles, I meant you do the morning run, and let them do the evening run.
May not work in your particular circumstances, but hey?
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Originally posted by FreakyKBHNow that I am worked up into a froth.....
It takes a village to raise the village idiots' children.
On the next block we have the neighbor who sets his kid outdoors early in the morning and locks the door. The kid comes over and plays for a while and we send her home for lunch...she comes back and says her door is locked and her dad wont answer. I call the house on the phone and no answer. I go over and bang on the window until he opens the door. I tell him my problem and that he cant do this because it is very cold outside in winter here in Minnesota and his kid has no where to go. Oh ya he says I wont do that again sorry about that.
This happend three times until finally I walk the kid out to the garage and give her a hammer and told her to go open a window with it.
Hasn't happened since.
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