Originally posted by lauseyyou drug pusher you!! 😉
To quote Bill Hicks:
"You see, I think drugs have done some good things for us. I really do. And if you don't believe drugs have done good things for us, do me a favour. Go home tonight. Take all your albums, all your tapes and all your CDs and burn them. 'Cause you know what, the musicians that made all that great music that's enhanced your lives througho ...[text shortened]... advocating you all to become drug addicts, just putting some things into perspective. 🙂
Originally posted by c99uxDecent reply, thanks, but I'd stand to lose over £100,000 with my inheritance going down the swanny, then with loss of pension rights and having to pay solicitor's fees, and I'd have to pay my bank debt off sooner (private deal). I'd lose my right to remarry in church, wouldn't be able to marry for at least a year anyway. It'd also make it very difficult to work abroad (although not impossible) so it'd conceivably be the end of my TEFL career too. Oh, and I don't really like her very much, it's just that free Russian lessons aren't easy to find.
Been there, done that (more than once). It worked for the wives, they got what they wanted (status). It worked for me, I'm still here (Japan).
And when my visa comes up for renewal, I'll get married again.
Does she want to live with you? Hey, will she cook for you, wash your socks and iron your shirts, look pretty on your arm down the pub, and shag you? ...[text shortened]... ivilian status (visa)?
Love grows, you might end up happy families with loads of kids...
I do the same work as you and as you know there is work anywhere in the world, and getting a visa is as easy as posing for a passport photo. I don't need to stroll down the aisle for one. I was offered work today in St Petersburg, last week in Slovakia, not long ago in Cagliari. Being tied down by some legal ball and chain is not my idea of a smart move.
And face it, she's hardly Maria Sharapova, aesthetically (IMHO the most attractive woman from outside Sardinia). If she was, my original post would have been very very different.
Originally posted by mokkoI think a guy, any guy, would be very lucky to be a part of you and your family. 😵
Not proposed to no. 🙁
But there are lots of men who put adds up for such things trying to get into Canada. Mostly from Turkey. Go figure.
I would gladly accept a marriage of convienience in order to get out of here and live somewhere warm and tropical. 😀
Unfortunately though, I'm too old and ornery to get married again. *sigh*
Originally posted by StarrmanSome people learn from their mistakes, some don't. If you don't like my posts why do you read them?
Don't call me a loser with such a grandiose stereotyping sweep of your arm. I smoke pot almost every day, I do not revel in getting high to such an extent that I have no interests: I have a full time job, I play in a band, I am currently doing a philosophy degree and expecting my first child, I play chess and debate here, I do guitar lessons on Monday even ...[text shortened]... dying around your assumptions, assumptions based on a perceptionally limited view of the world.
As far as using drugs, a person is not a loser for experimenting in life... a person is only a loser if they don't learn from their mistakes.
Cheers
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Originally posted by asromacalcioI hate this to seem like I'm picking holes in your argument, but:
Decent reply, thanks, but I'd stand to lose over £100,000 with my inheritance going down the swanny, then with loss of pension rights and having to pay solicitor's fees, and I'd have to pay my bank debt off sooner (private deal). I'd lose my right to remarry in church, wouldn't be able to marry for at least a year anyway. It'd also make it very difficul outside Sardinia). If she was, my original post would have been very very different.
There must be a lot more that you're not telling us. Why would you lose any inheritance? Pension rights (PENSION RIGHTS?????)? Solicitor's fees? What have those things got to do with you getting married? Unless, of course, Great-Granny Asromacalcio stipulated in her will that you have to marry Fionafelicity fforbes-fforbes-lewthingeray, your 3rd cousin twice removed on your auntie Bertha's side and have 6 sprogs before you're 25, and failure to do the deed means you have to leave the ancestral pile to Battersea Home for Abused Drunken Cats...
Your bank debt is between you and your bank. If your bank manager tries to tell you to pay off your overdraft or loan because you got married to some doxie, nip down to the banking Ombudsman and sue his socks of, take the millions and up your finger at him. But that ain't gonna happen, really, is it? None of his sodding business who you marry.
As long as you don't consummate the marriage (not a problem, you lead us to believe; she's not even likeable, let alone shaggable...), and it's a mutual agreement, annulment would work, so you could get married in church at a later date. There is no time limit for re-marrying after annulment.
Working abroad? What has that got to do with the price of apples? You say you've been offered work, what could possibly stop you going to those places at anytime? You don't have to connect yourself to a legal ball and chain or drag it around. I've been married more times than I care to think about, and divorced not so many times, marriages of convenience all (except maybe the first one, which was convenient for her, but it's a different story really because she was very shaggable and rich), and I'm one of the highest earning private teachers in Osaka (well, top 5%, anyway).
Free Russian lessons hard to get? Bollox, mate. You might have to shag the lass a couple of times a month, and speak to her in English half the time, but free language lessons from females (or males, if that's your fancy) who would gladly move in (or you into her place), wash your socks, dish up your grub and keep your willy warm at night, definitely not a problem anywhere (except probably your own country). Unless of course, like Mochiron, you wanna eat walrus and dolphin (but even he wouldn't really have any problems, would you Mochiron?).
Anyway, what has she offered you in return for your signature? Do tell.
EDIT: Forgot to mention... It's also probably acceptable to cheat on your spouse in this case...
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Originally posted by c99uxThere's nothing I'm not telling you as such, you obviously know about it more than I do, but these are some snags that have come to mind. There's no legal reason for any of this to happen, but don't married couples legally share everything 50 50? Including their pensions? When my parents split up mum went one way and took half of dad's pension with her. He had no choice. Aren't solicitor's fees required for divorce settlements, even simple ones? I got into a mess with the bank and we made a private deal on repayments while my circumstances are as they are. And working abroad, yes, of course I could do it but I would not like the idea of leaving somebody legally entitled to half of what I own in England pulling strings etc in my absence. OK, this may be unrealistic but I don't like the sound of it.
There must be a lot more that you're not telling us. Why would you lose any inheritance? Pension rights ([b]PENSION RIGHTS?????)? Solicitor's fees? What have those things got to do with you getting married?
Your bank debt is between you and your bank.
Working abroad? What has that got to do with the price of apples? You say you've been offered Forgot to mention... It's also probably acceptable to cheat on your spouse in this case...[/b]
And she offered me nothing for doing it.
As for the inheritance, nah, it probably wouldn't change a thing but my gran wouldn't like the idea of leaving some of her moderate estate to somebody under these circumstances.
So all in all I'm probably exaggerating, but there has to be some truth there to exaggerate in the first place.
Originally posted by asromacalciodon't married couples legally share everything 50 50?
No. Unless you die. (Is she gonna off you? Never know with these foreigners, might be a spy or something...)
Including their pensions?
Absolutely not. Unless you die, but then it's her problem. How much is your pension worth anyway?
Aren't solicitor's fees required for divorce settlements, even simple ones?
Nope.
Legal fees in Poland = nothing.
Legal fees in Japan= nothing.
Legal fees in England = nothing.
That's how much I paid for my divorces, but I didn't get them in England, although they were registered there later via the British Embassy at a cost of NOTHING.
small print...: I did make a private agreement with one wife to pay her a certain (smallish) amount, but I didn't have to...
I got into a mess with the bank and we made a private deal on repayments while my circumstances are as they are.
banks, yeah, suck the lifeblood out of you... However, a bank would only take you to court or go for bankrupcy if you don't offer them even a small token payment. Again, speaking from experience: I owe Barclays a large amount; I pay a tenner a month; I have 3 grand in a savings acount which pays more than that in interest every year. I'm making a profit out of that debt by not paying it all to them now AND THEY KNOW ABOUT IT!!!
However, I don't know what your personal circumstances are, but I'm sure that it's not an insurmountable problem.
And working abroad, yes, of course I could do it but I would not like the idea of leaving somebody legally entitled to half of what I own in England pulling strings etc in my absence. OK, this may be unrealistic but I don't like the sound of it.
Wouldn't happen, mate. It doesn't work like that unless you tell the bank that's how you want it.
And she offered me nothing for doing it.
Not poor is she? Don't take a poor one, only one that's better off than you are. Tell her it'll cost her fifty-seven grand (excluding registry office costs, reception, honeymoon in the Seuchelles, new house, etc, you know, the essentials.... Then spend her money and tell her it's half yours anyway.
Well, it works for me, anyway...
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Originally posted by c99uxInteresting comments, worth knowing but all in all it's just not something I have any interest in. Unless like I say Maria Sharapova ever wants to move that bit closer to SW15.
[b] Not poor is she? Don't take a poor one, only one that's better off than you are. Tell her it'll cost her fifty-seven grand (excluding registry office costs, reception, honeymoon in the Seuchelles, new house, etc, you know, the essentials.... Then spend her money and tell her it's half yours anyway.
Well, it works for me, anyway...
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Originally posted by c99uxc99ux, you seem to have master the openning gambit exquisitely, but what is your exit strategy? how do you get out of the door without her behaving like you have just murdered the one and only baby she is ever likely to have. how to you stop her from engaging the yaku in a hit contract with your name on it? how do you stop her male relatives from physically assaulting or financially ruining you? need I go on? you must know by now the exceedingly toxic venom of a slighted lady. or is this also part of the game that you enjoy. if you do enjoy it, you would be the most masochistic person I have ever know of. however I must admire your exceedingly well deveolped people/verbal communication skills.
Then spend her money and tell her it's half yours anyway.
Well, it works for me, anyway...