Originally posted by adje
Please answer the topic question, or don't answer at all.
All those personal 'wars' in the forums are really tiring to read and totally unnecessary.
adje, I apologise to you, for making a point to somebody who has recently blasted me for providing help in a manner which they didn't approve of. Apparently, providing useful information to the help thread originator (who thanked me for helping him) isn't good enough. Thread 52925
, I would have liked nothing more than to have answered the kids question with a simple "Rating is only considered on tournament entry and not on tournament start", but I was afraid of the backlash that such a response would precipitate from impatient.
impatient, I apologise to you for not providing help in a manner that is to your satisfaction. I now know that providing accurate, useful information (which the recipient thanked me for) in what little time I had available at the time is just not good enough and I promise to try harder in future. If I don't have time to query as to the help seeker's cat/dog/family while providing the information, then I shall be sure to not provide any help at all.
In the meantime, I'd like to refine the way in which I give help, so that it is to your satisfaction. Could you please provide an acceptable answer to the following questions, remembering to be "kind, supportive and helpful", unlike my pitiful attempt, whereby I merely recommended the chess newcomer (quoted below) to read the FAQ, learn the rules of chess, and learn chess notation to make his life easier. I'm not sure if namecalling is also required (Ignarak? That's genius), so please clarify that in your answer.
"Can anyone please answer a couple of questions for me as I am new to chess. If a pawn initially has two moves, then why can I not take an opponent's piece with the pawn, ie opponent's bishop atB5 my pawn at A7 I thought first move one square to A6 then diagonal toB5 to take the bishop. Why would this move not be allowed.
Secondly, if my opponent makes a move on on the list of game moves the move appears as 0-0 instead of say BF1-D3 what does this mean. Many thanks, Ian Game 2535233"
I would also like to thank you, impatient for the lovely PMs you sent me, to ensure I read your ultra valuable life lesson...
Date: Oct 04 19:15
If you see no middle ground between dry, blunt statements (i.e. you saying only "go read FAQs" and "flowery" (your word -not mine), you may want to consider manners/personality class. There is something called simply being pleasant or nice. Its not flowery. Thousands of examples throughout the forums - do some reading. You must have a job where no basic people skills are required. You are obviously still injured by my criticism - I would advise you to consider the constructive aspect of this and then moving on rather than dwelling of the fact that someone dared to criticise you.
In the meantime - dont feel compelled to chime in on any of my posts if you dont have anything helpful or positive to say. Your sarcasm is useless and lost on the rest of RHP."
I really appreciate the criticism you gave me for helping people in a manner which you don't approve of. Of course I know it is all constructive, so I welcome your harrassing messages which judge me and my personal abilities based on some help (much appreciated help, I must repeat) I quickly gave to somebody on an internet chess site.
And I especially appreciated this PM...
"From: impatient Active
Date: Oct 05 00:03
the responses to your pointless post in the Help forum:
"Please answer the topic question, or don't answer at all." It was a "reply and quote' to your post. Another poster agreed. Might want to take their advice. Noone wants to read your dirtly laundry - keep it to yourself."
Some might call them gloating ("Oooh, look at me, I have support from some random strangers in whatever gripe I have against this guy who gives too-concise help. I better send him some PMs, so he definitely sees it" ), unsolicited and harrassing, but not me... I really appreciate them for what they are...kind, supportive and helpful.
I'd also like to apologise to the originators of the following threads, and I can only hope that i didn't run them off the site with my concise, accurate help...
etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc....
PS: Don't look now, impatient... Thread 43564
Anyway, thanks for the wonderful help, impatient. I now feel that I have learned enough, and am willing to go it alone. I'm placing you on my Ignore List (You have the privilege of being the first), just in case you try to "help" me out with some more PMs.