Originally posted by whodey
But if the man is looking for forgiveness and reconciliation, what does Budhism have to offer in this regard?
The only Buddhism that I really know is Zen. There is no god to either forgive or condemn. You can seek forgiveness and reconciliation from the ones that you’ve harmed. The guiding ethical principle is compassion, so it is not just about receiving forgiveness, but seeking to repair the harm done to other—when possible.
There is also karma, and the opportunity to repair “bad” karma acquired from wrongdoing by acts of compassion—in this life-round or another (reincarnation). TerrierJack can probably speak to this better than I can.
Basically, the man you refer to would be seeking to do better, to act more compassionately, to undo harm where possible--and the enlightenment that allows one to do so.
A really good book, that offers perspectives from people in different religions is Simon Wiesenthaler’s The Sunflower
. I remember finding Harold Kushner’s little essay in that book to be particularly helpful; but there are also contributions by the Dalai Lama, and a range of Christians.