04 Nov '12 00:12>
Originally posted by karoly aczelSome might call my way "lazy" but I prefer "quicker", as in quicker than getting taught a much harsher lesson by an oncoming car.
That's cool.
And so is your stance.
I know in my heart that I want nothing but the best for my kids.
I had a peaceful childhood. Apparently I was smacked once or twice when I was young, but it was too young for me to remember. No trauma here!
I remember my Dad as gentle and loving. My mum too.
Some might call my way "lazy" but I prefer "quicker ...[text shortened]... ht a much harsher lesson by an oncoming car.
How do you keep your 2 yr olds off the road?
How do you keep your 2 yr olds off the road?
What I posted earlier referenced that very example. You should reread it at least through the paragraph on "short-run effectiveness".
Even if it were more effective, simply calling it "quicker" rather than "lazy" seems a rationalization. From what I've seen, the majority (perhaps vast majority) of parents often opt for what is expedient, i.e., "quicker" over what's best for their child's well-being, simply because of self-centeredness. It's easy to claim "I want nothing but the best for my kids", but the reality is that there's often a pretty wide gulf between what they say they "want" and what they're willing to do. Have you ever seen the TV show "Intervention". An all to common occurance has the addict who is a parent proclaiming, "My children are the most important thing in my life". The reality is that continuing to feed their addiction is so much more important to them. It's not even close.