Originally posted by twhitehead I was always told, that in a marriage, where binding together despite differences is critical, lying is more often the policy.
I thought it was,
... "where lying together despite differences is critical, binding is more often the policy..."
(quoted by S.M. Watt)
Originally posted by divegeester 2nd time actually and the first time I answered with a question to try and give some perspective.
My answer to you is that honesty is not a policy; so no, I'm not saying honest is the best policy.
Now will you answer my question to you which was:
[b]"are you saying [suggesting by your question] there is some merit in being dishonest"[/b]
I think your answer that honesty is not a policy, is evasive. You might as well say in response to the question, "That's a nice puppy over there."
In answer to your question: Sometimes dishonesty is called for, such as the Nazi at the door scenario, who asks the question you have to answer is, "Are there any Jews here?" There are all kinds of rationalizations about how to protect the Jews you are harboring while not being dishonest, but the fact is, we do have dilemmas in life where we have to choose between options neither of which we would choose by itself. Anybody who can get through life without facing this dilemma is living a miraculously charmed life.