Originally posted by Suzianne to Ghost of a Duke
So you do not think that if chance had stepped the other way, that you two might have met somewhere else, under other circumstances? It is thought by some that 'soulmates' somehow find each other, even through several past lives. What do you think of this idea?
I think that many people like to rationalize favourable coincidences as being touched
by the hand of fate. I also think it's easier for people to believe that God's taking a
benign interest in their lives rather than that God's working maliciously to thwart them.
I already have shared this story (which did not originate with me), but here it goes again:
GM Alexander Morozevich (reportedly) has a mystical outlook on life. He supposedly
does not believe in making an appointment to meet a woman at a specific time for a
date because he feels that if she's destined to become his 'soulmate', she will find a
way to show up in his life anyway. It seems like he feels that falling in love is a matter
of destiny or karma or something predetermined by God.
(Future GM) Irina Krush was, by her own account, a 'loner' in her American high school.
She was determined to become a professional chess player, which made her different
from other American girls. She has said that she had no friends and presumably never
went out on any dates in high school. Instead, Irina Krush (a native Russian speaker)
began a passionate internet chess relationship (which turned to romance) with the older
Alexander Morozevich (in Moscow), whom she apparently never had met in person.
After several months of such 'courtship', despite her parents' objections, Irina Krush
packed her bags and went to live with Alexander Morozevich in Moscow. It may have
been the first serious romance for both of them. Unaccustomed to having to satisfy
the needs of a young woman, Alexander Morozevich felt distracted and was unhappy
to find that his chess rating was rapidly decreasing. Whether or not it was fair for him
to blame Irina's presence for it, Alexander Morozevich decided that she had to leave.
And so Irina Krush returned to the USA as a presumably sadder yet wiser young woman.