Originally posted by howardgee
A friend of mine recently lost her baby (miscarried).
Being religious, she is now racked by guilt, convinced that she has been punished by God for something she has done wrong.
I have tried in vain to convince her that miscarriages before 3 months are simply natural and random events without blame or causes.
A person suffering such emotional los ...[text shortened]... is. Why must religion punish them further with the notion of guilt and judgement from on high?
What type of religion are we talking about?
The one I remember doesn't advocate punishment of any sort because of a miscarriage... It is not a way for God to "punish" His people. JC got rid of this notion long ago in the NT. One direct example would be when He heals a blind person and then tells the crowd around him that the man wasn't punished for his parents' sins (nor his own). [He says this because at the time, the popular belief was that if someone was blind, he were being punished for his parents' sins.] The point is, it's all hogwash. It is my belief, that if God exists, only He alone knows why this event occured, and making ourselves feel guilty about it will accomplish nothing; if anything, it will only make us feel more depressed than we already are. We can't guess for what purpose something happened the way it did, since we have no idea of why it occurred in the first place. I feel bad that she had a miscarriage, but the fact is that she will only make herself feel worse if she feels that this is some kind of punishment. And if this person who you are talking about is Christian, then I seriously doubt whether the Church/services she attends are good for her. I sympathize with anyone who loses a child, and making them feel guilty about it will certainly make it worse.
By the way, I don't want to seem presumptuous, so if you are not referring to the Christian faith, then what religion ARE you talking about?