Originally posted by no1marauder
You are not required to post a photo on LinkedIn. If Ms. Proudman was so concerned that she might be "objectified" because of her physical appearance, perhaps she could have foregone posting a photo.
In truth, it has been shown in numerous studies that an attractive physical appearance enhances positive responses in business environments. This is prob ...[text shortened]... s. Proudman wants to have her cake and eat it too though the comment was probably inappropriate.
While I have generally approved of Charlotte Proudman's statements against sexism,
I have made it clear that I would have handled this particular incident differently.
I don't how many similar comments about her photo she may already have received.
In order to reduce the baneful influence of racism, sexism, or 'looksism' in general,
perhaps LinkedIn should prohibit all members from posting photos of themselves.
"In truth, it has been shown in numerous studies that an attractive physical appearance
enhances positive responses in business environments."
My parents already told me that (and much more).
On one occasion, a lawyer (much older and taller) approached me in the library.
Our conversation was sufficiently interesting for him (after about thirty minutes) to invite
me to dinner that evening. Assuming that I also was a lawyer (or at least an aspiring one)--
he said that he considered me very intelligent, articulate, and skilled in argument--he
claimed that he was well-connected in the legal establishment and could help my career.
He also said that he had some important friends and contacts in the academic establishment.
While I believed that he was genuinely impressed by my mind, I suspected that another
reason why he was so eager 'to get to know me better' was that he really liked my looks.
And he seemed nice enough for me to be intrigued enough to accept his offer.
My intuition said that he seemed old-fashioned and a bit awkward, but he did not seem dangerous.
I thought "You only live once, so why not try to get to know some more diverse people?"
Afterward, a rather paranoid woman in my family attempted to dissuade me from going
out with him, expressing her fears of me becoming entangled in some lurid scenarios.
So I promised to phone her (with a secret 'safe word' ) at a specific time, just in case.
As far as I can recall it, dinner went moderately well. Our conversation soon showed
that, notwithstanding some common cultural interests, he and I were politically far apart.
I told him (honestly) that I was unaccustomed to drinking much, and he responded by
encouraging me to drink as much wine as possible. I recall increasingly less of what
happened as time went on, though I did know enough to stop drinking at one point.
He kindly suggested that if I was not feeling quite like myself, I would be welcome to spend
the night at his place nearby. I declined and managed to get home without incident.
Later, he asked me if I would be interested in getting paid to write for his political party.
Looking back on it now, I would not say my evening was dreadful, just disappointing,
and I might have been naive to expect it to have gone any better.