08 Dec 07
imagine that I love a girl since let's say 5 years ago and she probably knows I'm in love with her but she says I'm his best friend but I don't really think that because she does not treat me like a best friend and I feel she just call me when she does not have anyone to hang out. I feel like second choice 🙁 also , I want to go away but she calls me and I'[m weak men I always say yes ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh any suggestions?
08 Dec 07
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I was in love with my girlfriend 2 years before I asked her to be my girlfirend. She didn't know it and later, she admited me that she tought that she was disgusting in my opinion. 😲
You will never know until you admit it to her. Is it difficult though but at least you'll know. Even if you remain friends you want have this heavy doubt in your heart.
Get some courage and good luck 😉
P. S. But also, if you become sure that she is just exploiting you, keep your dignity and stop that ! If you never talked openly, you might be far from truth, bad or good one.
08 Dec 07
Originally posted by Talem16Speaking from experience, just let it go, it will eat you up inside for years.
imagine that I love a girl since let's say 5 years ago and she probably knows I'm in love with her but she says I'm his best friend but I don't really think that because she does not treat me like a best friend and I feel she just call me when she does not have anyone to hang out. I feel like second choice 🙁 also , I want to go away but she calls me and I'[m weak men I always say yes ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh any suggestions?
08 Dec 07
Originally posted by ivan2908I really want to do that but I'm really scared! cause I don't want to be like that no more! my brain is just thinking all the time I can't even play chess like before 🙁
I hade similar situation it lasted 3 years but now I have wonderfull relationship and girl that I want on my side for the rest of my life. At least he should ask. It is better to be openly rejected then leaving this doubt. Doubt is what it's eating you, no?
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Originally posted by Talem16I was so scared to ask that I wrote a letter as a reminder for myself and left it on my desk in my room, on letter was written "ask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask her" and eventually I had the courage. When I sent an sms to her finally, I was so filled with adrenaline that I went jogging 5 miles 🙄
I really want to do that but I'm really scared! cause I don't want to be like that no more! my brain is just thinking all the time I can't even play chess like before 🙁
Love can really make you crazy.
Here is my advice, if you are scared to speak in her face, send her a message first, tell it to her. If you are scared even to send her cell phone message, go to some your friend which can fill you with courage.
I have a friend who has absolutely no problem with approaching any girl so I sent message in his presence while he was moral support for me.
On the other hand, if you will ask her to go out with you, not like friends but like couple, it could ruin your friendship, or at least make it strange for some period.
Finally, look at all pros and cons and decide, the decision is all yours.
And remember, if you ask her, you have nothing to be ashamed of ! 🙂
08 Dec 07
Originally posted by Talem16Definitely move on. Your best chance at ALL is to totally stop even hanging around with this person.
imagine that I love a girl since let's say 5 years ago and she probably knows I'm in love with her but she says I'm his best friend but I don't really think that because she does not treat me like a best friend and I feel she just call me when she does not have anyone to hang out. I feel like second choice 🙁 also , I want to go away but she calls me and I'[m weak men I always say yes ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh any suggestions?
No relationship, no love... no friendship. If they have any interest perhaps they'll start following you around... or not even care that you don't talk, hang, call anymore.
Other than that, "just friends" is "I don't like you".
Other than that, I watched a friend hold a candle for nearly 15 years... He missed out on several relationships, or perhaps he even missed out on the one true one. All because he waited and waited and waited and waited.
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08 Dec 07
Originally posted by Phlabibitjust this once Ill agree... BUT THATS IT😠
Definitely move on. Your best chance at ALL is to totally stop even hanging around with this person.
No relationship, no love... no friendship. If they have any interest perhaps they'll start following you around... or not even care that you don't talk, hang, call anymore.
Other than that, "just friends" is "I don't like you".
Other than that, ...[text shortened]... d out on the one true one. All because he waited and waited and waited and waited.
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08 Dec 07
Originally posted by ivan2908thanks! I should ask her.
I was so scared to ask that I wrote a letter as a reminder for myself and left it on my desk in my room, on letter was written "ask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask herask her, ask her" and eventually I had the courage. When I sent an sms to her finally, ...[text shortened]... decision is all yours.
And remember, if you ask her, you have nothing to be ashamed of ! 🙂
08 Dec 07
Originally posted by PhlabibitdamN!!!!!!!! that's been happening! I've been waiting and have not been in a serious relation because of her ! thanks
Other than that, "just friends" is "I don't like you".
Other than that, I watched a friend hold a candle for nearly 15 years... He missed out on several relationships, or perhaps he even missed out on the one true one. All because he waited and waited and waited and waited.
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08 Dec 07
Originally posted by Talem16Same thing happened to me, but only a year or so... and I got LUCKY! I was with her one day driving around and we ran over a raccoon. Clipped it, and I felt bad.
damN!!!!!!!! that's been happening! I've been waiting and have not been in a serious relation because of her ! thanks
She laughed, said something like... "So what, who cares?" and I never called her again and only talked to her if she talked to me... and was rather cold to her. Total loss of interest from that one telling incident.
Not a pretty person on the inside at all.
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