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Manners for Boys: "Gentlemen" - An Endangered Species?
"10 Simple Steps to Raising a New Generation of Gentlemen!"

"One of the nicest compliments a parent can receive is, "Your son is such a gentleman!" It seems, however, that in our modern culture of media, athletics, politics, schools, and at the local grocery store, there seems to be fewer and fewer "Gentlemen" to be found.

But there is hope for this latest addition to the "endangered species" list. Despite the tiny vocal minority of angry women who yelled at men who tried to act like gentlemen during the 70's and these past few decades, there has been a renewed realization that in order for civility to survive and thrive in our nation, we must be intentional about being courteous and kind.

Simple courtesies may seem trivial and old-fashioned, but they are foundational in a civil society. Courtesies don't cost a penny, but they are priceless ways of showing respect and making others feel special and valued in what has become a selfish and self-centered culture. It has been said that "manners are the oil that lubricate society" - everything just works smoother!

All males are men, but not all men are gentlemen. Even though men and women are created equal, we are obviously different - with different roles and responsibilities, and by acting like a gentleman, boys, teens and men can show honour and respect to women.

As parents, we need to both model and teach our boys how to be a gentleman. It won't happen accidentally - we need to be intentional in teaching these foundational principles of character.

Character training starts at home. Our homes need to be our nation's "boot camp for character," as we prepare our children for life. Manners are both "caught" and "taught" as children observe mom and dad showing courtesy and expressing thankfulness to each other.

As mothers, we need to slow down and allow our husband to pull out your chair for us at dinner and wait a few extra seconds for him to walk around the car and get the door. Our sons are watching. It is often said that "the way a boy treats his mother is the way that he'll treat his wife." Let's prepare our boys to be men. Real men.

Here are 10 practical reminders to help us raise "gentlemen" in our families through their respectful attitudes, words and actions!

1. Gentlemen have respectful attitudes which lead to respectful actions and words. They greet people with a smile, nod or "hello" as they pass people. Their attitude is one of putting others first - based on The Golden Rule... to treat others the way they would like to be treated.

2. Gentlemen use respectful words: "Please" "Thank You" "You're Welcome" and "Excuse Me." Instead of "What?" and "Huh?" they say "Pardon me?" They say "Yes Ma'am" and "No Sir" respectfully. They never use cursing or cussing words. Gentlemen also have the courage to use difficult words like, "I'm Sorry" "I made a mistake" and "Will You Forgive Me?"

3. Gentlemen open doors for Ladies and allow them to pass through first, saying, "After you!" All children open the door for their elders.

4. Gentlemen walk a Lady to the car and open the car door for her.

5. A Gentleman offers his seat to a Lady. Gentlemen should offer their seat to their elders or pregnant women in crowded buses or waiting rooms. Never be seated until your mother is seated. (I was humbled and thrilled to find out that the distinguished, elderly gentleman who had offered me his seat one day in Seattle for basketball's "Final Four" tournament was the legendary UCLA Basketball Coach, John Wooden!)

6. A Gentleman helps a Lady put on her coat or sweater. He also offers to help carry heavy packages for a lady. Children offer to carry the bags for their mothers. If the lady drops something, the gentleman will pick it up for her.

7. Gentlemen stand when a Lady enters the room or when he is introduced to someone.

8. Gentlemen seat a Lady at the dinner table before they seat themselves. They rise when ladies excuse themselves and when they return. The gentleman takes care of the lady to his right.

9. The Gentleman protects a Lady from danger. He walks on the curb side of the road as a courtesy of protection and to keep the lady from getting splashed by puddles. He also stands behind a lady on an escalator going up; and in front of her going down to protect her from falling. He walks down a dark theatre aisle first and the lady will follow.

10. A Gentleman will never EVER hit or hurt a Lady. A boy must never hit or hurt a girl, but rather use his strength to protect a girl.

So next time someone says, "Your son is such a gentleman!" be encouraged knowing that you have given your child a precious gift for life - the attitude, words and actions of respect."

"Judi Vankevich, best known as "Judi The Manners Lady," has a passion to inspire excellence in character and manners in this generation and to strengthen families through her exciting, interactive concerts at schools and churches across the country and at teacher and parent training seminars. Judi has been featured on CBS This Morning, Canada AM, Focus on the Family, and The Boston Globe. She is the author of Manners Are Cool and is a recording artist of the award-winning CD, "It's Fun to Have Good Manners!" Her "Manners Club Kit" is a character-based curriculum used in public and Christian schools, churches and home schools across the US and Canada and in Europe, Africa and Asia. Parents, schools and churches can host their own "Manners Club" using the Manners Club Kit! (Includes book, materials and music!)"

http://www.googolpower.com/content/articles/manners-for-boys-gentlemen-an-endangered-species

Well, Gentlemen of Red Hot Pawn, how do we and our sons and grandsons measure up against these "10 Simple Steps to Raising a New Generation of Gentlemen!" from Judi Vankevich in a "selfish and self-centered culture" or are they sexist?

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Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
[b]Manners for Boys: "Gentlemen" - An Endangered Species?
"10 Simple Steps to Raising a New Generation of Gentlemen!"

"One of the nicest compliments a parent can receive is, "Your son is such a gentleman!" It seems, however, that in our modern culture of media, athletics, politics, schools, and at the local grocery store, there seems to ...[text shortened]... of Gentlemen!" from Judi Vankevich in a "selfish and self-centered culture" or are they sexist?[/b]
A list from the intertubes.
How original.

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Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
[b]Manners for Boys: "Gentlemen" - An Endangered Species?
"10 Simple Steps to Raising a New Generation of Gentlemen!"

"One of the nicest compliments a parent can receive is, "Your son is such a gentleman!" It seems, however, that in our modern culture of media, athletics, politics, schools, and at the local grocery store, there seems to ...[text shortened]... of Gentlemen!" from Judi Vankevich in a "selfish and self-centered culture" or are they sexist?[/b]
Some common courtesy mixed with completely outdated chauvenism here methinks.

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In my opinion, as a woman, I believe there is a distinct lack of "ladies" in society because there is a distinct lack of "gentlemen" in society.

And maybe vice versa. But not so much. Be a "gentleman" and I'm sure you'll be surprised at the number of "ladies" you run into.

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Originally posted by Suzianne
In my opinion, as a woman, I believe there is a distinct lack of "ladies" in society because there is a distinct lack of "gentlemen" in society.

And maybe vice versa. But not so much. Be a "gentleman" and I'm sure you'll be surprised at the number of "ladies" you run into.
I don't often agree with ya Suzi but I think you've hit the nail on the head. Respect begets respect.

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Originally posted by Great Big Stees
I don't often agree with ya Suzi but I think you've hit the nail on the head. Respect begets respect.
You should try it more often.

Agreeing with me, that is.

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Originally posted by Suzianne
You should try it more often.

Agreeing with me, that is.

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Being the "gentleman" that I am, I do when it's warranted.




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Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
Well, Gentlemen of Red Hot Pawn, how do we and our sons and grandsons measure up against these "10 Simple Steps to Raising a New Generation of Gentlemen!" from Judi Vankevich in a "selfish and self-centered culture" or are they sexist?
Bobby, you forgot about the pedestals. Tell them about the pedestals.

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A tip of the hat, and I always walk on the outside when walking with a lady.
I am bad about cursing, but I try to watch it in front of women and children.

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Originally posted by Suzianne
In my opinion, as a woman, I believe there is a distinct lack of "ladies" in society because there is a distinct lack of "gentlemen" in society.

And maybe vice versa. But not so much. Be a "gentleman" and I'm sure you'll be surprised at the number of "ladies" you run into.
Wholeheartedly agree. Having enjoyed living in eight different states due to career relocations and retirement, I can tell you that the East-West and North-South regional differences are significant. As in dancing, a lady follows the gentleman's lead.

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Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
i]Originally posted by Grampy Bobby[/i]
1. Gentlemen greet people with a smile, nod or "hello" as they pass people. Their attitude is one of putting others first - based on The Golden Rule... to treat others the way they would like to be treated.
What the hell is he laughing for all the time, people would say, he must be a lunatic! Did we meet each ot ...[text shortened]... y.
[b]Well if she is big as my mother-in-law he would'n dare anyway...


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more cynical way to see the matter in subject--->>>
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i]Originally posted by Grampy Bobby[/i]
1. Gentlemen greet people with a smile, nod or "hello" as they pass people. Their attitude is one of putting others first - based on The Golden Rule... to treat others the way they would like to be treated.
What the hell is he laughing for all the time, people would say, he must be a lunatic! Did we meet each other before?

2. Gentlemen use respectful words:[/b] "Please" "Thank You" "You're Welcome" and "Excuse Me." Instead of "What?" and "Huh?" they say "Pardon me?" They say "Yes Ma'am" and "No Sir" respectfully. They never use cursing or cussing words.
What a pussy/fagot! Don't tell me he is going to the opera!?

3. Gentlemen open doors for Ladies and allow them to pass through first, saying, "After you!"
The feminists will kick his ars and accuse him of sexual harrasment and putting women in "old role model"

4. Gentlemen walk a Lady to the car and open the car door for her.
And again a feminist will ask him "Do ypu think I am disabled?! That was enough I payed the bill!'"

5. A Gentleman offers his seat to a Lady.
"Do I look I can't stand? Are yoo talkin' to me, that I am old bugger!??!?!?"

6. A Gentleman helps a Lady put on her coat or sweater.
"Don't touch my thing you idiot, I am not your escort dummy girl or a model!"

7. Gentlemen stand when a Lady enters the room or when he is introduced to someone.
@What happened. Fire alarm drill?!"

9. The Gentleman protects a Lady from danger.
Not if he's a bookish type and not familiar with street fight and/or martial arts.

10. A Gentleman will never EVER hit or hurt a Lady.
Well if she is big as my mother-in-law he would'n dare anyway...

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Originally posted by vandervelde
more cynical way to see the matter in subject--->>>
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i]Originally posted by Grampy Bobby[/i]
1. Gentlemen greet people with a smile, nod or "hello" as they pass people. Their attitude is one of putting others first - based on The Golden Rule... to treat others the way they would like to be treated.
[b]What the hell is he laughing for all the time, ...[text shortened]... t a Lady.
[b]Well if she is big as my mother-in-law he would'n dare anyway...


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This is the kind of reply I had attempted to circumvent with my reply above. A real "lady" would not act this way in the presence of a real "gentleman", and unfortunately, real "ladies" are as rare as real "gentlemen" in today's world. A shame, really.

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Originally posted by Great Big Stees
Being the "gentleman" that I am, I do when it's warranted.




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I married a real lady back in 1973 and as often as I can I treat her as one.

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Originally posted by redbadger
I married a real lady back in 1973 and as often as I can I treat her as one.
I'm sure you do.

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Originally posted by Great Big Stees
I'm sure you do.
her mam took ill last night vomiting blood she was rushed to hospital 9 pm last night so me and my better half have not slept since yesterday morning she is at her mams bedside now I have popped home for a break go back at 6 and Christine can have a few hours repite.shes a proper lady too she worked in a muitians factory during the war Frank her husband a true hero and Gent took a bullet for the team they patched him up and sent him back.

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