Originally posted by asromacalcioI can and do, and it doesn't bother me. I wouldn't want to live with sex.
Could, or do, you live without sex?
I have for a very long time, so long I won't even post it in the forum.
And does / did it bother you? Did your standards go down or did you get even fussier?
And have you lost the belief that anybody will ever want you again?
Just curious.
Originally posted by NordlysI've lost interest for the sake of my sanity. Learned to be strong. What stops me is that I cannot believe people like me in that way, and I give it off strongly in my energy. Some people have magentic sex appeal, even if they're not very attractive. I'm the total opposite (and also not very attractive to top it all). But every nice woman you see you wonder if it's worth trying, but this gets in the way of normal social contact because your face has 'desperate' written all over it and it makes them feel uncomfortable. Then you get defensive and it makes it worse.
I can and do, and it doesn't bother me. I wouldn't want to live with sex.
One woman I know brings out the best in me, but she rejected me. Now I'm leaving Italy and going to teach in Central Asia she hasn't spoken to me since.
Originally posted by asromacalcioIf you are attracted to nice women, then you've pretty much answered your original question.
I've lost interest for the sake of my sanity. Learned to be strong. [...] But every nice woman you see you wonder if it's worth trying, but this gets in the way of normal social contact[...].
There's no point in forcing yourself to lose interest "for the sake of your sanity". Wouldn't that be even worse? Just go with the flow and do what it seems right at the time, be it sexually ravaging a central asian, playing some chess with her or have a nice chat. The beauty of it is that everything is possible.
Originally posted by asromacalcioI have chosen not to have sex since the breakup of my last relationship. (Been awhile!) I normally like to put a couple years between relationships as it assures the healing of old wounds and limits any baggage coming into something new.
Could, or do, you live without sex?
I have for a very long time, so long I won't even post it in the forum.
And does / did it bother you? Did your standards go down or did you get even fussier?
And have you lost the belief that anybody will ever want you again?
Just curious.
It doesn't bother me in the least and I think my standards have become more rigid in who I decide to spend my time with. The longer I go without having sex the more choosier I become about who it will be with.
When a woman holds out and becomes more selective then men will put alot more effort into gaining her attention. The ones who don't only want sex and will quickly move on. Those who are truly interested will spend a great amount of time and energy proving his worth.
You don't miss what you don't have.
Originally posted by asromacalcioBeing a celibate means you purposly don't have sex. Just becuase you can't get any it doesn't mean you're celibate.
Could, or do, you live without sex?
I have for a very long time, so long I won't even post it in the forum.
And does / did it bother you? Did your standards go down or did you get even fussier?
And have you lost the belief that anybody will ever want you again?
Just curious.
Originally posted by mokkoBut you've got a dildo though?
I have chosen not to have sex since the breakup of my last relationship. (Been awhile!) I normally like to put a couple years between relationships as it assures the healing of old wounds and limits any baggage coming into something new.
It doesn't bother me in the least and I think my standards have become more rigid in who I decide to spend my time with. ...[text shortened]... a great amount of time and energy proving his worth.
You don't miss what you don't have.
Originally posted by NordlysThat's because anyone who designed an online encyclopedia or spends hours of their time posting on there, clearly hasn't had sex in a long time and wanted to make themselves feel better by claiming it was celibacy, when really they just can't get any.
That's what I thought, too, but according to Wikipedia, celebacy can be voluntary or involuntary.