Originally posted by jimmacI didn´t see or saw this danger so far but will try my utmost if we get together to avoid this and will question and doublecheck my statements towards her prior to saying them.
openness is good. The problem is that she will ALLWAYS know what you think and it may allways hurt. People with low self_esteem may ( often ) feel that they can do no better and therefore take 2nd best. You may simply be reinforcing her own opinion of herself. You are probably going to hurt her no matter how honest you are. you do not appear caring in these ...[text shortened]... t is not something that you use without taking a part of someone else. I feel you WILL hurt her.
Thank you for this thought.
I only once hurted someone willingly and I don´t want to hurt her.
I am caring but only if you knew me or in privacy.
Concerning my open language. Hamburg City, Reeperbahn, Party up and ho´s in the street, SXX Cinemas and shops at every corner of the street as well as bars, pubs and clubs. Im used to that and I am well more open minded as the southern or mid germans.
Sorry for offending anybody.
I am just sooo excited and fearful.
Last two were really monsters (no neck) and I was fleeing.
Maybe fate grants me a chance with the third. Please keep fingers crossed.
If you are open then she does have only herself to blame. The problem there is, as I have said, that she may be self destructive in her approach to relationships.Using anyone can hurt. Be nice here as well as to her.i.e act here as you would to her face.Nice thoughts generate nice actions, vulgar thoughts generate vulgar actions. Act/talk as though you want her.
Originally posted by RochadeHot monkey love is one flip of a light switch away. Everybody is good looking in the dark.
I frankly asked her if she is a monster. She replied no.
Then I spoke about my fear to be not attracted by her and she has the same thing vice versa (she´s afraid that she´s not attracted by my outer appearance) which might be so.
Problem is: we love our minds.
But she would not want to be with me if she finds me repulsive and so do I.
And to f ...[text shortened]... out a problem with an open minded language is okay.
But she doesn´t read chess sites anyway.
Originally posted by sjegIf he does not want her then why has he posted here. have you not been paying attention. He wants to want her. you do not talk about anyone in the manner posted here. It hurts many people. Your right to free speech should not over-ride others right to be treated respectably.
Have you not been paying attention?
She's a big fat beasty and no one wants her!
Originally posted by jimmacAh, you earn respect anyway, it's not your God-given right. He's found a bird who might well be a fatty, and he's worried about it. How is that disrespectful, anyway. That's a normal worry. A sexual relationship is founded upon sexual attraction. It's fairly obvious. Don't imply he's shallow for thinking it. And she's not reading this, I assume, so he's harming no one. He just wanted some advice.
If he does not want her then why has he posted here. have you not been paying attention. He wants to want her. you do not talk about anyone in the manner posted here. It hurts many people. Your right to free speech should not over-ride others right to be treated respectably.
Don't imply he's shallow for thinking it. And she's not reading this, I assume, so he's harming no one. He just wanted some advice.[/b]There are others that will read these posts that will be hurt. He may not be shallow but posting in the manner he has is uncaring or unaware. It is ok (or should I say normal) to have these fears but he posts as though it is a bit of a joke.
Originally posted by jimmacYeah, I find Life is too hard to have no humor.
There are others that will read these posts that will be hurt. He may not be shallow but posting in the manner he has is uncaring or unaware. It is ok (or should I say normal) to have these fears but he posts as though it is a bit of a joke.
And laughing keeps me from crying.
And its just hillarious: Two grown up people like the others mind and both are hoping that they don´t have to meet with Godzilla.
That is just err pathetic ?
To end the heated discussions I would like to admit that I have learned that there are mainly two types of human beeings:
a) The one that say mind over matter and are able to fall in love with a physically more or less unattractive person due to this beautiful mind.
b) The others who need to be physically attracted from their partner no matter how sweet the character may be.
She has red hair, glowing green eyes and a smile like drawn by Michelangelo. Her voice sounds like angels sweet talk to me and if she is beautiful enough and loves me I will thank everybody with might for making me a man and presenting me with such a women.
WOMEN can´t live with or without you (gross now I have those Queen tune in my ear for the rest of the day:
I can´t live with you
but I can´t live without you.
I can´t let you stay
but I will die as you go away.
All I know is: I CAHAAAN´T LIVE WITH YOU.
:-)
Originally posted by RochadeWhat about 'Fat-bottomed girls, they make the rockin' world go round'?
To end the heated discussions I would like to admit that I have learned that there are mainly two types of human beeings:
a) The one that say mind over matter and are able to fall in love with a physically more or less unattractive person due to this beautiful mind.
b) The others who need to be physically attracted from their partner no matter how sw ...[text shortened]... let you stay
but I will die as you go away.
All I know is: I CAHAAAN´T LIVE WITH YOU.
:-)