So here it is in a nutshell. My youngest daughter broke her ankle in 2 places, Above and below the growth plate. So I go to do what any parent worth being called a parent would do? I took her to the emergency room to get treated.
Now what makes this a noteworthy scenario. I am divorced from her mother. Have been for several years now. So you would think that the biggest response from her mother when I told her what was going on would be " what hospital" or " is she ok", something that would get her information on what happened. But not her. Instead she wanted to criticize every liitle thing I did to get her treated.
I took her first to a local hospital that my sister works at. It fairly close to my house with only 1 hosptial closer, but only by a couple miles, and my sister's has a better reputation to it.
After they did their initial look at her ankle it was determined that she go to All Children's. A local hospital that has been given a multitude of awards and accolades for service and care. They really made my daughter feel special and better.
Her mother on the other hand just kept calling and complaing about every step I took to get here taken care of. Then questioned whether or not I cared about my own child. Still not asking for a way to get to the hospital, where it is at, or anything, just jumping my case for no better reason.
When I finally got her home, with a fear of her needing to get a pin placed into her ankle to promote proper healing. The swelling was to great to operate just yet, I got ripped into again because there was no definative answer.
When I finally asked why she wasn't there she had no answer, but rather kept attacking. At no time asking about her own daughter.
Sorry this was more to vent than anything else.
Originally posted by KJCavalierher ripping into you has less to do with how you handled it, and more to do with her own fear and anxiety. She is feeling powerless to help her daughter, and redirects that into negative energy towards you. Don't take it personal, and don't dignify her critisism with a response
So here it is in a nutshell. My youngest daughter broke her ankle in 2 places, Above and below the growth plate. So I go to do what any parent worth being called a parent would do? I took her to the emergency room to get treated.
Now what makes this a noteworthy scenario. I am divorced from her mother. Have been for several years now. So you would thin ...[text shortened]... time asking about her own daughter.
Sorry this was more to vent than anything else.
If you did the right thing you wouldn't care what your ex thought.
If you did the wrong thing you would be too remorseful to mention it here.
But instead you have Jerry Springer syndrome.......prostitute your emotions on a public forum.....just for some kind of self gratification.....sickening really.
Originally posted by moctenretnihe said that he was doing it to vent! sheesh!😕
If you did the right thing you wouldn't care what your ex thought.
If you did the wrong thing you would be too remorseful to mention it here.
But instead you have Jerry Springer syndrome.......prostitute your emotions on a public forum.....just for some kind of self gratification.....sickening really.
Originally posted by moctenretniIt wasn't about what she thought but about her behavior. Of course he did the right thing. That wasn't the point. If you're new here then you may have missed the occasional moments of compassion we exhibit.
Sorry I got confused.......I wasn't sure if that was venting...or gushing
I have no doubt about your propensity for compassion or empathy…..my newness not withstanding…….but if this was a private message to long standing and sympathetic members then some kind of personal correspondence might have been more appropriate.
As it stands…well…..it’s distasteful……unless of course his ex is here to defend herself. Even then it seems a little flagrant
Originally posted by moctenretniLook Shakespeare...you can break out your thesaurus all you want to and try to sound like that your intelligence level is above that of kitty litter but it does not take from the fact that the OP has over 100,000 moves here and is most likely known by many.
I have no doubt about your propensity for compassion or empathy…..my newness not withstanding…….but if this was a private message to long standing and sympathetic members then some kind of personal correspondence might have been more appropriate.
As it stands…well…..it’s distasteful……unless of course his ex is here to defend herself. Even then it seems a little flagrant
His post was a vent...he needed to get it off his chest...and frankly I do not blame him.
But for you to even try and constitute your actions after making a "Jerry Springer" reference is beyond appalling.
If he posted this in the "Chess Only" forum even then i do not think your diatribe would be welcome.
I have said it once and will say it again...This place sure has changed.
Dave
Originally posted by KJCavalierI am sorry all that happened. Being a parent can be a nightmare at times. I think you did as well as you knew to do under the circumstance. Try not to blame each other, I know emotions can make it tough. It will get better with time. It sounds like it will be a healing process for everyone. Good luck.
So here it is in a nutshell. My youngest daughter broke her ankle in 2 places, Above and below the growth plate. So I go to do what any parent worth being called a parent would do? I took her to the emergency room to get treated.
Now what makes this a noteworthy scenario. I am divorced from her mother. Have been for several years now. So you would thin ...[text shortened]... time asking about her own daughter.
Sorry this was more to vent than anything else.
sometimes women really ARE awful (put your own word in here, i know you're thinking it). the daughter was with you. she broke her ankle. guess what. the way she "attacked" you had a lot more to do with everything else in the world that was wrong with you two when you were together and almost nothing to do with your daughter's broken ankle. the ankle made it perfect for her to go on the attack and have the higher ground, because the ankle got broke while you were in charge of her. what would really be helpful, i think, are some helpful comments. here's my thoughts:
1. you did everything right and nothing wrong (except for expecting to find intelligent and sympathetic responses from RHP? Have you never read the forum postings before?)
2. your ex behaved like an ex with a daughter who had a serious injury and who felt a lot of guilt for not being there for her at the time. no better, no worse. give her a break too (just not a bone break type break)
3. take some time to pause and think it all over before you do or say anything else. the reason is that you probably feel pretty bad about the ankle and everything else. your feeling are probably all too jumbled up to think it through real clear right from the start.
4. hug your daughter and tell her you love her.
5. tell your ex that you did everything that you could the best way that you could but apologize for any way that you messed things up (she'll criticize you even more. apologize for that too. the criticisms don't mean anything. just take away her steam. she'll even get mad and demand to know why you are apologizing and then apologize for apologizing. eventually it will occur to both of you that there's nothing to be upset about, except for your daughter's pain, and you only have to hope that she gets all better and walks without a limp and looks good in a swimsuit and can dance nice at her wedding.)
Originally posted by nmdavidbRighteous! Let's give KJ our support. Anything less would just be egregious. He's a good man who did the right thing and was treated terribly.
Look Shakespeare...you can break out your thesaurus all you want to and try to sound like that your intelligence level is above that of kitty litter but it does not take from the fact that the OP has over 100,000 moves here and is most likely known by many.
His post was a vent...he needed to get it off his chest...and frankly I do not blame him.
But f ...[text shortened]... welcome.
I have said it once and will say it again...This place sure has changed.
Dave
Originally posted by nmdavidbHe has more posts than moves, that's always a sign mate.
Look Shakespeare...you can break out your thesaurus all you want to and try to sound like that your intelligence level is above that of kitty litter but it does not take from the fact that the OP has over 100,000 moves here and is most likely known by many.
His post was a vent...he needed to get it off his chest...and frankly I do not blame him.
But f ...[text shortened]... welcome.
I have said it once and will say it again...This place sure has changed.
Dave