'Bout time someone started this thread. Thanks Aynat. 🙂
A lot of this stuff you can get from the-n. (www.the-n.com)
One thing I've noticed in the forums, is that some men treat women more like possessions and points rather than people. I've had plenty of male friends treat me like that before, and honestly, it's not fun. It made me feel like I wasn't important and that I was inferior.
Asking your date out:
It’s fine to warm up with an "I have something I want to ask you," just to avoid having to blurt the question out of nowhere. But after that, it’s better to just ask what you mean. Just ask Jon: "I walked up to this girl at lunch and just started asking her about our history project, trying to find a way to bring up this dance at our school. But there was never an easy moment to ask, so next thing I knew the bell had rung and I hadn’t said what I wanted to say. And then on the way out of the cafeteria Peter asked her and she said yes." Jon said it all: there’s never an easy moment to ask. So just get it over with because if you don't, someone else will. Try to keep an actual day and activity in mind, and include that information in your question. It can be as simple as "Do you want to go to ______ with me next ______?" If the person you’re asking is busy that day, don’t cop out with "maybe another time then." Try a back-up plan like, "well, if you're busy Friday, would you want to go Saturday?" It hurts, but listen: if the person you’re asking seems to be busy for the next 10 years of weekends, they might just be having a hard time saying no. This might have nothing to do with you at all. Maybe they don't feel ready to date anyone yet, or maybe they're not allowed. But whether you’re sensing that the answer is no, or someone tells you "no" straight up, your response should still be the same: say something simple and classy (like, "OK, well, it was worth asking" ). Then have somewhere specific to walk away towards, head held high, where you can deal with your feelings in the company of friends. Being dignified about it will score you coolness points that you just might be able to cash in with the next person you ask out.
Chicks don't dig it when you forget their name because it shows they're low on your priority list. So don't. Don't crowd girls or they'll hate you (crowding = not giving a girl any space or time on her own). At first this may seem good but eventually she'll feel like she can't breathe and resent you for it. Don't beg girls to go out with you or ask them over and over or ask why they wouldn't go out with you. It makes you seem desperate and it gets really annoying. When a girl has her arms crossed over her chest or is holding her hands it can mean back off (or it could be cold). If a girl is bored on a date she'll look around the room or pretend she's paying attention to you. Don't pressure a girl into a relationship. In fact, you can make the first move but always let her make the second. Taking things slowly is usually good in the girls eyes (it means you care about her and aren't pressuring her). It can make her feel like she's being forced to do what you want and it can make her feel really uncomfortable.
Dates: Okay, know your date. If your date has 2 broken arms try to avoid roller skating, horseback riding (thats one I'd suggest), etc. If your date is into sports, take her to a football game or something. If she loves animals, the horseback thing is a great way to bond. You don't have to buy a 5 course meal. (And don't get lobster; its really hard to eat). Always let her order her food (because it makes you seem like a control freak if you do it for her). When on a date try to stay away from garlic foods. Garlic breath is a total turn off if you want to kiss a girl. If you go to some Italian restraunt, and there's nothing but garlic on the menu, ask to lay it off a little. Also, when you're on a date with a girl, don't be rude to people around you (waiters, etc.). Makes you seem like a jerk. Just get a burger or something (unless shes a vegetarian! Be careful about that!). It’s a good sign if your date is: making lots of eye contact, or even a moment of it followed by a quick look away and a smile (shy, but still good). Sticking close by you and touching your arm or hands a lot. Laughing at your jokes. It’s a not-so-good sign if: conversations are stopping dead and not starting up again. He or she says "I don’t get it" more than 100 times. Your date becomes comatose, or never comes back from the bathroom. The tough part is figuring out the gray areas. For instance, if your date is answering "I don’t care" or "whatever" every time you ask a yes or no question, it might be a sign of boredom OR it might just be shyness. He or she may be afraid to have an opinion that differs from yours. There’s no simple way around those situations, but don’t make it harder by doing the same thing. Playing an endless game of "I dunno, where do you want to eat?" gets boring fast.
Originally posted by AynatThat's just plain nausiating!
Of course, cute is a factor but it is not the most important.....
Cute and a jerk means any girl worth having is heading the other direction....
But, cute is not everything. A guy who treats you as if you are wonderful is amazingly sexy....
Geeks have their own charm as well...my first boyfriend was a total geek. However, for my 16th birthday he plant ...[text shortened]... You are SO lucky." Several of my girlfriends put the moves on him but he was a great guy!
I generally throw up over someone, try to wipe it away (secretly groping their breasts) and say: "Fancy a shag hon? I'm great in bed!"
Originally posted by AynatThis is crap Tanya . Johnny Depp sneaking around your window planting roses is called a "romantic" , and pimple faced 130 lb geek nobody doing it is called a "stalker" . A 250 lb guy with a bad tailor acting self possessed is an arrogant SOB , a Brad Pitt look alike acting the same is "self confident".
Of course, cute is a factor but it is not the most important.....
Cute and a jerk means any girl worth having is heading the other direction....
But, cute is not everything. A guy who treats you as if you are wonderful is amazingly sexy ...[text shortened]... f my girlfriends put the moves on him but he was a great guy!
Sorry ladies , but I've found you're like cats : try to be friendly and they run away , ignore them and pretend their affections are unimportant and they rub up against your leg . Ignore them some more and they hop right up in your lap .
Edit : Do you know why women can't find men to have relationships with who are sensitive , give them flowers , talk about their feelings , put the toilet seat up , and dress fashonably ? - All of those men already have boyfriends .
Originally posted by Moldy Crowsometimes they purr in your ear as well
This is crap Tanya . Johnny Depp sneaking around your window planting roses is called a "romantic" , and pimple faced 130 lb geek nobody doing it is called a "stalker" . A 250 lb guy with a bad tailor acting self possessed is and arrogant SOB , a Brad Pitt look alike acting the same is "self confident".
Sorry ladies , but I've found you're lik ...[text shortened]... ant and they rub up against your leg . Ignore them some more and they hop right up in your lap .
Originally posted by Remora91This is excellent Remora. Gets a rec.
'Bout time someone started this thread. Thanks Aynat. 🙂
A lot of this stuff you can get from the-n. (www.the-n.com)
One thing I've noticed in the forums, is that some men treat women more like possessions and points rather than pe ...[text shortened]... s game of "I dunno, where do you want to eat?" gets boring fast.
Just ask about the garlic thing... if you both eat it you won't notice it. Enjoy the meal and relax.
I like to send my wife flowers (at her work) out of the blue for no reason.. with notes like "Can't wait til the weekend....Russell Crowe"
or "Thanks for watching the kids.. Patti S & Bruce Springsteen"
I like to ask her out of dates regularly... I know she'll turn me down flat if I haven't built up to it.. There has to be a chase! It's fun.
If we are on a date.. it's always a new one.. fresh. My wife hate descisions but loves surprises so we do things differently alot. Inc going to parties where we hardly know anyone..thats always fun and we love getting spin off invites. Moonlight Horse Treks with supper etc. or night clubing (we are 40plus so thats a riot) we like being around a younger vibrant set..it's fun.
We both love to get rowdy and love to have romantic peace & quiet times.
Men... most of you are pigs and let us all down. Shape up listen to this lady.
Ladies do men a favour.. speak up.. don't stand for it. Though I know when I'm in deep cactus when she is most quiet.. mmm.
My wife may paint this post differently... I rejoice in that.
Edit PS... My cat will never hop on Moldy's lap... lol 😛😉
nor anyone else's
Originally posted by Moldy CrowSome girls get off on men who are pigs. Some girls like it when you are a pig to only them. Some girls don't like piggish behaviour at all. Safe to say though, all girls like to feel sexy.
Men are not pigs ! (Pigs are intellegent , sensitive creatures with small eyes .)
And that's why this thread is crap. Everybody is different and there is no set way of getting a girl. Just make her laugh, look good and be sure to get her off before you finish up.