Originally posted by StarrmanThe question is not when to draw the line, but why draw a line?
Although once in place, what's to stop two being three, becoming four etc.? Where does the line get drawn on an open relationship?
I'm still so confused, please enlighten me.
On another point though...nobody should work so many hours they're too tired to have sex. It's unnatural, unhealthy and relationship destroying.
Originally posted by shavixmirHere's a question just sent in by S from Holland: "Dear Shavi, my girlfriend thinks my willy is too small. She says I can't pleasure her properly. What should I do?"
The question is not when to draw the line, but why draw a line?
On another point though...nobody should work so many hours they're too tired to have sex. It's unnatural, unhealthy and relationship destroying.
Dear S,
Who's to say that the fact that you can't pleasure your girlfriend is due to your willy being too small? It could quite easily be that her vagina is too large.
To increase tightness of the female region is far simpler than a penile extension.
Ask your girlfriend to squat down and stand up in 3 sets of 15 a day for a month.
On the other hand, if you are smaller than 5 cm's erect, perhaps you should visit a doctor.
Here's a quick question from N from Bhutan: "Dear Shav, I...I mean... my girlfriend has decided on a natural look. I'm not too sure if unshaven thing does it for me though. Is there any standard?"
Dear N,
There is nothing wrong with the natural look. If your girlfriend doesn't want to shave and walk around looking like there's a sheep between her legs, that's fine.
There is no standard as such, but when the hair reaches from your belly button to your knees, maybe it's time to re-evaluate wearing a bikini.
Not you, your girlfriend. Obviously. 😉
Originally posted by NicolaiSDear NicolaiS,
Dear Uncle Shavi,
Every time I clean something in our apartment my girlfriends follows me around and re-do the cleaning. Its really driving me nuts and I am becoming very insecure. What should I do to stop this?
Again this is down to communication.
A quick look at where men and women come from will enlighten you a little: Think back to the millions of hunter-gatherer years we've had. Men went out hunting and women stayed home, protecting the den. This behaviour isn't going to go away just like that! We're programmed to do various things.
Now, you probably want to do a little cleaning to make it look like you're pulling your weight. And she probably wants you to do a little cleaning...but her agenda is sociable. She doesn't want you to clean, she wants you to be sociable with her. And you cleaning and her following you around achieves this goal.
You now know that the cleaning is an exercise in social behaviourisms. So, be social. Talk to her. Joke with her. Ask her things like: "Where do you want this?" and "Will I hang the washing up for you?"
She'll appreciate the social element and will probably take the hanging the washing up, out of your hands, and all you'll have to do is hand her the stuff and listen to her.
Originally posted by shavixmiruncle shav
[b If your girlfriend doesn't want to shave and walk around looking like there's a sheep between her legs, that's fine.
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i think you've been grossly misinformed about sheep. having grown up in the outer hebrides, i can tell you that a sheep's fleece is soft... yielding... almost sensual. unlike my girlfriends. and fleece doesn't get stuck in your teeth either.
A quick question from W in England: "My girlfriend can't park. She's absolutely crap at it. How can I teach her to park better and safely?"
Dear W,
Women have lesser devoloped spatial conception than men. There are two things you can do:
1. Don't let her park her car.
2. Give her a testosterone injection 30 minutes before she has to park.
If you choose option 2, don't piss her off at anytime during her parking or driving or talking. More than likely she'll land you one.
I can not believe I had to retrieve this thread from page three. Does this mean there are no men having problems with their wive/girlfriend?
Thats hard to believe. I guess I must be the only one having a girlfriend then because I am faced with domestic problem every single day. And thats not only in my current relationship, but aslo in all previous ones.
So here we go again ...
Yesterday evening my girlfriend proposed to watch a movie ( Brazil ) on television ... I had already seen this one, even own the dvd, but its a good movie so I agreed to snuggle up on the couch and watch it.
Within 15 minutes of the movie girlfriend decided to start taling to me, not about the movie, but about complete nonsense things, like work and friends and relatives.
Shavi ... what should I do ... She proposed to watch the movie, I agreed and then she wont let me watch it by constantly interupting my concentration. Should I just ignore her? Confront her with her behaviour? Beat her? I am at a loss her ... could you please help me.
Originally posted by NicolaiSForget Shav, I'm gonna tell you right now you're a dunce. She did not want to watch the stupid movie! She wanted you to unleash the beast you dolt. Chatting and killing time untill you ravished her like a posesses demon thirsty for only her sweet nectar. God men just don't have a clue. 😞
So here we go again ...
Yesterday evening my girlfriend proposed to watch a movie ( Brazil ) on television ... I had already seen this one, even own the dvd, but its a good movie so I agreed to snuggle up on the couch and watch it.
Within 15 minutes of the movie girlfriend decided to start taling to me, not about the movie, but about complete nonsen ...[text shortened]... her? Confront her with her behaviour? Beat her? I am at a loss her ... could you please help me.
Originally posted by NicolaiSDear NicolaiS,
I can not believe I had to retrieve this thread from page three. Does this mean there are no men having problems with their wive/girlfriend?
Thats hard to believe. I guess I must be the only one having a girlfriend then because I am faced with domestic problem every single day. And thats not only in my current relationship, but aslo in all previous ones ...[text shortened]... her? Confront her with her behaviour? Beat her? I am at a loss her ... could you please help me.
The female brain can multi-task (men's brains can't).
She can follow the film and talk at the same time (absolutely true).
The film is just a social engagement to a female (in general) and that's why she talks all the way through it.
It's best to watch a film you've seen before, when watching it, outside a cinema, with a female. That way you don't miss plots and things! You are on the right track!