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08 Nov '13 21:0514. Go to forum and piss off people.
08 Nov '13 21:35Originally posted by SuzianneGoing to bed with someone without a contract is like buying a new or used car without a contract. Married couples are usually able to adjust to each others idiosyncrasies. We never thought of each other as partners, it would have been demeaning and insulting to refer to each other by that word. But I do know why that word is used today.. the word partners is used to include any two people (or person and beast) who want to "get it on".
There is, indeed, a set of social graces, as you say, or etiquette, in the bedroom, especially when you are a young adult, not yet married. You want to do everything you can to prevent looking like a snoring, mouth-open pig in bed (I guess what you do at home in your own bed is your own business), so that your partner doesn't rue the day they met you. I g ...[text shortened]... ontract, so this slowly becomes less and less important, probably by mutual, unspoken agreement.
08 Nov '13 21:42Originally posted by lemon limeI read this as a B movie detective voice over.
I wasn't always a prude, but for me playing it fast and loose grew old and debilitating very quickly. I didn't have to experience the dark side of human behavior and deceit before understanding why I shouldn't go there, but I did.
08 Nov '13 21:43Originally posted by lemon limeHuman beings are unique. Behaviour reflects breeding, timely initiatives and good decisions from a position of strength with some; with others, sadly lacking. Some conduct themselves at the table with etiquette; at public gatherings in restaurants and forums with social graces and appropriate manners; in bed, though intensely private, the same considerations for a spouse's preferences and wishes applies. Some conduct themselves in an honourable way; others are selfish, greedy slobs.
I don't recall there ever being food fights or getting stabbed by a fork at the dinner table when I was a kid. And when I had kids of my own we were all busy shoving food into our mouths, and laughing at the baby because he would smear most of it over his face... and in his hair... and pretty much on anything he could reach. But I've never heard of [i]soc ...[text shortened]... eir own beds... and what happens in mommy and daddies room, stays in mommy and daddies and room.
08 Nov '13 21:531 editOriginally posted by SuzianneGood point: the convenience of no repercussions online anonymity often serves as an excuse to push the limits of civility and to behave badly. Issue isn't the temptation but capitulating to it. A few will still stand upright while other swim in the gutter.
Online public forums, though, have a unique aspect of anonymity, so at the basic level, some people just don't care what others think of them, so etiquette is not the highest order of the day, as it usually is in face-to-face encounters.
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