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Originally posted by divegeesterNo harm, no foul... I wasn't expecting a real answer. And I wasn't accusing you of anything, if that's what you're worried about.
You think that's air you're breathing?
Originally posted by lemon limeThank you for alleviating my worries, I do get nervous when people ask me questions on the interweb
...I wasn't accusing you of anything, if that's what you're worried about.
Originally posted by Grampy BobbySome conduct themselves in an honourable way; others are selfish, greedy slobs.
Human beings are unique. Behaviour reflects breeding, timely initiatives and good decisions from a position of strength with some; with others, sadly lacking. Some conduct themselves at the table with etiquette; at public gatherings in restaurants and forums with social graces and appropriate manners; in bed, though intensely private, the same considera ...[text shortened]... wishes applies. Some conduct themselves in an honourable way; others are selfish, greedy slobs.
Originally posted by lemon lime"Human beings are unique. Behaviour reflects breeding, timely initiatives and good decisions from a position of strength with some; with others, sadly lacking. Some conduct themselves at the table with etiquette; at public gatherings in restaurants and forums with social graces and appropriate manners; in bed, though intensely private, the same considerations for a spouse's preferences and wishes applies. Some conduct themselves in an honourable way; others are selfish, greedy slobs."
[b]Some conduct themselves in an honourable way; others are selfish, greedy slobs.
I don't doubt this is true, but I'm not in a position (nor have the disire) to judge other peoples bedroom performances, any more than I'm able (or desire) to judge how they poop and wipe when on the toilet.
Aside from the wife it's no ones else's business, and I ...[text shortened]... bed is undefiled[/i]"... I don't need to consult a Bible scholar to understand what that means.[/b]
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyJust relax, both of you. Humans will use anecdotes to attempt to relate to each other. Sometimes this creates a bond, sometimes this offends one of them. Stuff happens. Turn the page and forge on.
"Human beings are unique. Behaviour reflects breeding, timely initiatives and good decisions from a position of strength with some; with others, sadly lacking. Some conduct themselves at the table with etiquette; at public gatherings in restaurants and forums with social graces and appropriate manners; in bed, though intensel ...[text shortened]...
Please recognize that my intent wasn't for anyone to personalize these findings publically.
Originally posted by SuzianneThank you, Suzi; I'm quite sure lemon lime will see your suggestion in the same way.
Just relax, both of you. Humans will use anecdotes to attempt to relate to each other. Sometimes this creates a bond, sometimes this offends one of them. Stuff happens. Turn the page and forge on.
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyPlease recognize that my intent wasn't for anyone to personalize these findings publically.
"Human beings are unique. Behaviour reflects breeding, timely initiatives and good decisions from a position of strength with some; with others, sadly lacking. Some conduct themselves at the table with etiquette; at public gatherings in restaurants and forums with social graces and appropriate manners; in bed, though intensel ...[text shortened]...
Please recognize that my intent wasn't for anyone to personalize these findings publically.
Originally posted by SuzianneYou cannot use phrases like "selfish greedy slobs" when referring to people you cannot or will not identify without challenge.
Just relax, both of you. Humans will use anecdotes to attempt to relate to each other. Sometimes this creates a bond, sometimes this offends one of them. Stuff happens. Turn the page and forge on.
Originally posted by Grampy Bobby"The online disinhibition effect is a loosening (or complete abandonment) of social restrictions and inhibitions that would otherwise be present in normal face-to-face interaction during interactions with others on the Internet. This effect is caused by many factors such as: dissociative anonymity, invisibility, asynchronicity, solipsistic introjection, dissociative imagination, and minimization of authority.[1] Contents 1 General concept 1.1 You don't know me. 1.2 You can't see me. 1.3 See you later. 1.4 It's all in my head. 1.5 It's just a game. 1.6 Your rules don't apply here.
"Human beings are unique. Behaviour reflects breeding, timely initiatives and good decisions from a position of strength with some; with others, sadly lacking. Some conduct themselves at the table with etiquette; at public gatherings in restaurants and forums with social graces and appropriate manners; in bed, though intensel ...[text shortened]...
Please recognize that my intent wasn't for anyone to personalize these findings publically.
Originally posted by kevcvs57kev, as mentioned to lemon lime... 'my intent wasn't for anyone to personalize these findings publically'.
You cannot use phrases like "selfish greedy slobs" when referring to people you cannot or will not identify without challenge.
If you go fishing with ugly bait you catch ugly fish.
Originally posted by lemon limeWould you agree that whether online or offline (in public or in private) acceptable forms of human behavior are governed by breeding; cultural mores; inculcated and acquired norms and standards; a sense of timing and of appropriateness?
[b]Please recognize that my intent wasn't for anyone to personalize these findings publically.
I understand your intent and I'm not unsympathic with your concerns, but anything posted at an internet game site public message board will be personalized. I'm aware of those moments when I've pushed the envelope, but so far I haven't actua ...[text shortened]... apparently my usual standards are a bit higher than this site requires for acceptable behavior.[/b]
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyWe cannot know the intent of any poster on these forums Bobby, lacking any contextual information based on personal knowledge of any given poster we can only gauge their intent by the language they use.
kev, as mentioned to lemon lime... 'my intent wasn't for anyone to personalize these findings publically'.
Originally posted by kevcvs57Well said. I've taken your words to heart; that particular phrasing, though paraphrased from one of the studies, was inappropriate in context. Thanks.
We cannot know the intent of any poster on these forums Bobby, lacking any contextual information based on personal knowledge of any given poster we can only gauge their intent by the language they use.
I maintain it is at best naive to think you can use phrases like "selfish greedy slobs" and get a positive reaction from your fellow posters, especially, ...[text shortened]... l knowledge concerning each others personal traits and intentions on an anonnymous public forum.
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyI think it's much simplier than that. Sorry if I'm being literal minded, but to me "acceptable behavior" simply means whatever happens to be acceptable by whatever group you happen to be with. People normally gravitate toward others who share the same standards and sensibilities. And what is considered acceptable behavior for one group might be considered offensive by another... and versa visa.
Would you agree that whether online or offline (in public or in private) acceptable forms of human behavior are governed by breeding; cultural mores; inculcated and acquired norms and standards; a sense of timing and of appropriateness?