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  1. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    "Introduction:
    Every relationship between a Personality-Disordered Individual and a Non Personality-Disordered Individual is as unique as the DNA of the people involved. Nevertheless, there are some common behavior patterns.

    The list below contains descriptions of some of the more common traits of people who suffer from personality disorders, as observed by family members and partners.Examples are given of each trait, with descriptions of what it feels like to be caught in the crossfire. Please note: these descriptions are not intended for diagnosis. Refer to the DSM Criteria for Personality Disorders for clinical diagnostic criteria. No one person exhibits all of the traits and the presence of one or more of these traits is not evidence of a personality disorder. Read our disclaimer for more info.

    One common criticism of Out of the FOG is that this list of traits seems so "normal" - more like traits of an unpleasant person than traits of a mentally ill person. This is no accident. Personality disordered people are normal people. Approximately 1 in 11 people meet the diagnostic criteria for having a personality disorder. Personality-disordered people don't fit the stereotypical models for people with mental illnesses but their behaviors can be just as destructive. These descriptions are offered in the hope that non-personality-disordered family members, caregivers and loved-ones might recognize some similarities to their own situation and discover that they are not alone.

    Top 100 Traits & Behaviors of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    1. Abusive Cycle -
    This is the name for the ongoing rotation between destructive and constructive behavior which is typical of many dysfunctional relationships and families.

    2. Alienation - The act of cutting off or interfering with an individual's relationships with others.

    3. "Always" and "Never" Statements - "Always" and "Never" Statements are declarations containing the words "always" or "never". They are commonly used but rarely true.

    4. Anger - People who suffer from personality disorders often feel a sense of unresolved anger and a heightened or exaggerated perception that they have been wronged, invalidated, neglected or abused.

    5. Avoidance - The practice of withdrawing from relationships with other people as a defensive measure to reduce the risk of rejection, accountability, criticism or exposure." (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html

    Discuss....
  2. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    6. Baiting -
    A provocative act used to solicit an angry, aggressive or emotional response from another individual.

    7. Belittling, Condescending and Patronizing - This kind of speech is a passive-aggressive approach to giving someone a verbal put-down while maintaining a facade of reasonableness or friendliness.

    8. Blaming - The practice of identifying a person or people responsible for creating a problem, rather than identifying ways of dealing with the problem.

    9. Bullying - Any systematic action of hurting a person from a position of relative physical, social, economic or emotional strength.

    10. Catastrophizing - The habit of automatically assuming a "worst case scenario" and inappropriately characterizing minor or moderate problems or issues as catastrophic events.

    11. Chaos Manufacture - Unnecessarily creating or maintaining an environment of risk, destruction, confusion or mess.

    12. Cheating - Sharing a romantic or intimate relationship with somebody when you are already committed to a monogamous relationship with someone else.

    13. Chronic Broken Promises - Repeatedly making and then breaking commitments and promises is a common trait among people who suffer from personality disorders.

    14. Circular Conversations - Arguments which go on almost endlessly, repeating the same patterns with no resolution.

    15. Confirmation Bias - The tendency to pay more attention to things which reinforce your beliefs than to things which contradict them.

    16. "Control-Me" Syndrome - This describes a tendency which some people have to foster relationships with people who have a controlling narcissistic, antisocial or "acting-out" nature.

    17. Cruelty to Animals - Acts of Cruelty to Animals have been statistically discovered to occur more often in people who suffer from personality disorders than in the general population." (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html
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    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    [b]Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    "Introduction:
    Every relationship between a Personality-Disordered Individual and a Non Personality-Disordered Individual is as unique as the DNA of the people involved. Nevertheless, there are some common behavior patterns.

    [i]The list below contains descriptions of some of the more comm ...[text shortened]... ." (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html

    Discuss....[/b]
    It is important for dabblers in psychiatry to recognize that to earn the designation "disorder", a trait or behavior must seriously degrade a person's mental health. In other words it must disable one of the markers of mental health. We can toss around the terminology and label each other all we want, but it's likely that we are wrong to label anyone as disordered on the basis of limited information and no training in psychiatry.

    http://www.cdc.gov/mentalhealth/basics.htm

    "Mental health is “a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community.”1 It is estimated that only about 17% of U.S adults are considered to be in a state of optimal mental health.2 There is emerging evidence that positive mental health is associated with improved health outcomes."
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    omfg
  5. SubscriberSuzianne
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    Originally posted by Sicilian Sausage
    omfg
    Are you thinking what I'm thinking?

    Lol.

    😀
  6. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    15 May '14 23:31
    Originally posted by JS357
    It is important for dabblers in psychiatry to recognize that to earn the designation "disorder", a trait or behavior must seriously degrade a person's mental health. In other words it must disable one of the markers of mental health. We can toss around the terminology and label each other all we want, but it's likely that we are wrong to label anyone as ...[text shortened]... e is emerging evidence that positive mental health is associated with improved health outcomes."
    Home Page: Welcome to Out of the FOG!!

    "Out of the FOG is an information site and support group offering help to family members and loved-ones of people who suffer from personality disorders.

    Out of the FOG was written and developed by people who have experienced a relationship with a family member, spouse or partner who suffers from a Personality Disorder.

    Personality Disorders are serious mental-health conditions which affect millions of people and are often misunderstood and undiagnosed.

    Personality Disorders negatively affect the quality of life not only of the people who suffer from them, but also their family members, spouses, partners, friends, colleagues and acquaintances.

    The emphasis of Out of the FOG is on describing Personality Disorders from a Non-Personality-Disordered individual’s point of view. In other words; what is it like to live with a person with NPD or BPD? Where can you find help when you have a parent with a Histrionic or Dependent Personality Disorder? How do you cope when confronted with the prospect of caring for someone with Obsessive-Compulsive or Avoidant Personality Disorder?

    The descriptions of Personality Disorders given here are based on both the clinical criteria used for formal diagnosis, and on the experiences of people who have cared for someone who suffers from a Personality Disorder - what it feels like, what works and what doesn’t.

    We often think of people in simple terms such as ‘good and bad’, ‘friends and enemies’, ‘loving and hateful’. Personality Disorders are not so simple. People who suffer from them may exhibit behaviors which are sometimes constructive and other times destructive. Over time, this can generate feelings of Fear, Obligation and Guilt (or FOG) in those who come into contact with them.

    It is our goal to inform and support family members, spouses, partners, friends and caregivers as they try to work their way out of the confusion, out of the chaos and out of the FOG."

    http://outofthefog.net/index.html
  7. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    18. Denial -
    Believing or imagining that some painful or traumatic circumstance, event or memory does not exist or did not happen.

    19. Dependency - An inappropriate and chronic reliance by an adult individual on another individual for their health, subsistence, decision making or personal and emotional well-being.

    20. Depression - When you feel sadder than you think you should, for longer than you think you should - but still can't seem to break out of it - that's depression. People who suffer from personality disorders are often also diagnosed with depression resulting from mistreatment at the hands of others, low self-worth and the results of their own poor choices.

    21. Dissociation - Dissociation is a psychological term used to describe a mental departure from reality.

    22. Domestic Theft - Consuming or taking control of a resource or asset belonging to (or shared with) a family member, partner or spouse without first obtaining their approval.

    23. Emotional Abuse - Any pattern of behavior directed at one individual by another which promotes in them a destructive sense of Fear, Obligation or Guilt (FOG).

    24. Emotional Blackmail - A system of threats and punishments used in an attempt to control someone’s behaviors.

    25. Engulfment - An unhealthy and overwhelming level of attention and dependency on another person, which comes from imagining or believing one exists only within the context of that relationship.

    26. Escape To Fantasy - Taking an imaginary excursion to a happier, more hopeful place." (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html
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    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    [b]Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    18. Denial -
    Believing or imagining that some painful or traumatic circumstance, event or memory does not exist or did not happen.

    19. Dependency - An inappropriate and chronic reliance by an adult individual on another individual for their health, subsistence, decision making or ...[text shortened]... re hopeful place." (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html[/b]
    21, 7 and 9 please. Oh, and the prawn toast starter.
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    15 May '14 23:45
    54 if it comes with rice
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    Originally posted by wolfgang59
    54 if it comes with rice
    I'm wondering if this is actually the evening buffet and we get all of them gratis.
  11. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    15 May '14 23:57
    Originally posted by NoEarthlyReason
    21, 7 and 9 please. Oh, and the prawn toast starter.
    Greetings, NER. Do you recognize "21, 7 and 9" from the vantage point of professional experience with patients?
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    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    [b]Home Page: Welcome to Out of the FOG!!

    "Out of the FOG is an information site and support group offering help to family members and loved-ones of people who suffer from personality disorders.

    Out of the FOG was written and developed by people who have experienced a relationship with a family member, spouse or partner who suffers from a Per ...[text shortened]... ut of the confusion, out of the chaos and out of the FOG."

    http://outofthefog.net/index.html[/b]
    Seems reputable enough.

    Edit: Upon a few minutes research, no scandals or fraud or abuse by OOTF discovered.
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    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    Greetings, NER. Do you recognize "21, 7 and 9" from the vantage point of professional experience with patients?
    I'm not a medical professional, and if I were, I probably wouldn't pay that much close attention to the numeric utterances of patients. But I would eat prawn toast more often.
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    Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals

    27. False Accusations -
    Patterns of unwarranted or exaggerated criticism directed towards someone else.

    28. Favoritism and Scapegoating - Systematically giving a dysfunctional amount of preferential positive or negative treatment to one individual among a family group of peers.

    29. Fear of Abandonment - An irrational belief that one is imminent danger of being personally rejected, discarded or replaced.

    30. Feelings of Emptiness - An acute, chronic sense that daily life has little worth or significance, leading to an impulsive appetite for strong physical sensations and dramatic relationship experiences.

    31. Frivolous Litigation - The use of unmerited legal proceedings to hurt, harass or gain an economic advantage over an individual or organization.

    32. Gaslighting - The practice of brainwashing or convincing a mentally healthy individual that they are going insane or that their understanding of reality is mistaken or false. The term “Gaslighting” is based on the 1944 MGM movie “Gaslight”.

    33. Grooming - Grooming is the predatory act of maneuvering another individual into a position that makes them more isolated, dependent, likely to trust, and more vulnerable to abusive behavior.

    34. Harassment - Any sustained or chronic pattern of unwelcome behavior by one individual towards another.

    35. High and Low-Functioning - A High-Functioning Personality-Disordered Individual is one who is able to conceal their dysfunctional behavior in certain public settings and maintain a positive public or professional profile while exposing their negative traits to family members behind closed doors. A Low-Functioning Personality-Disordered Individual is one who is unable to conceal their dysfunctional behavior from public view or maintain a positive public or professional profile.

    36. Hoarding - Accumulating items to an extent that it becomes detrimental to quality of lifestyle, comfort, security or hygiene.

    37. Holiday Triggers - Mood Swings in Personality-Disordered individuals are often triggered or amplified by emotional events such as family holidays, significant anniversaries and events which trigger emotional memories.

    38. Hoovers & Hoovering - A Hoover is a metaphor taken from the popular brand of vacuum cleaners, to describe how an abuse victim trying to assert their own rights by leaving or limiting contact in a dysfunctional relationship, gets “sucked back in” when the perpetrator temporarily exhibits improved or desirable behavior.

    39. Hyper Vigilance - Maintaining an unhealthy level of interest in the behaviors, comments, thoughts and interests of others.

    40. Hysteria - An inappropriate over-reaction to bad news or disappointments, which diverts attention away from the real problem and towards the person who is having the reaction." (to be continued)

    http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html
  15. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    16 May '14 00:081 edit
    Originally posted by JS357
    Seems reputable enough.

    Edit: Upon a few minutes research, no scandals or fraud or abuse by OOTF discovered.
    JS, thanks for your objectivity and diligence regarding an unusually subtle, serious and pervasive condition.
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