Originally posted by mokkoMy Mother raised me and my sister under similar circumstances. I've got nothing but respect for you. I can be a notary for those papers if you need one...
Thank you. I've been telling people that I'm a saint for years but they just don't seem to hear me. Mabye some paper work is well in order.
Originally posted by darvlayDo you know what the funny thing is......I've never felt that it's a struggle or a burden or that I'm suffering in any way. Most of my friends are professionals and make loads of money and raise their children, some of them single some married, and I don't deel they're any better off than I am. In fact they seem to have more to complain about. The key is to be thankfull for what you have and be willing to part with anything that doesn't contribute to your overall happiness. Could be a boyfriend/girlfriend or could be that piece of crap night stand that you always manage to stub your toe on in the middle of the night. We may live a very minamilistic lifestyle but there is never a shortage of laughter and happiness. And money can never buy that. It's all about the love. 🙂
My Mother raised me and my sister under similar circumstances. I've got nothing but respect for you. I can be a notary for those papers if you need one...
In a happy relationship and have been for a number of years.
Here are some general guidelines that I follow in ANY relationship involving a female, be it a intimate one or just a friendship.
1) Express interest in what they are saying or have to say, even if you are not that interested. If you listen, you will learn things about them, which helps to better understand each as an individual.
2) Compliment them on something when you see them - hair looks nice, you look nice today, damn you arse looks sexy in the pants. obviously use a level of compliment based on your relation with the woman - you dont want to tell you boss that her arse is sexy....
3) Prove that you are the stable guy that she wants deep down and knows that she needs.
4) This one is probably the hardest, since if you dont have it, you likely will have a hard time getting it - Have that air of "bad boy" - Not specifically a bad boy - but that air of "oh, he could be tough and dangerous." But you cannot be overt about it. It has to be an underlying thing...kind of an accent to who you are. Part of this is having a true confidence in yourself and being comfortable with who you are. Which leads to...
5) Be confident. Not cocky and arrogant. Know what you want and go after it with confidence. Women are attracted to a confident man, be he good looking or an average joe. Having confidence is also aided by knowing who you are and being comfortable with who you are.
6) Be attentive to their needs - be it chocolate, leaving the toilet seat down, taking out the garbage or even cooking and cleaning the house.
7) Be responsible - This one has a strong tie to #6.
8) Once you have established a basis for a relationship - this one is key - COMMUNICATE. Listen to her, make sure she is listening to you. Be willing to compromise. Be willing to reciprocate (not just with sex)
9) First, it is not all about the sex - that is just one piece of the puzzle.
10) Learn her buttons in bed - be VERY attentive to them. Show that you want to please her and not just yourself. Even if it requires that you give her the big O without getting one yourself. Be willing to try new things that she has interest in doing.
Edit - 11) Most importantly - Be yourself. pretending is just a short road to the end of the relationship.
Hope this helps.
Darvaly's rules for a healthy relationship (not a quick lay):
1) Don't settle for anyone who's not 100% compatible with you.
2) Be yourself. If you try and win a girl by pretending to be someone you're not, that relationship will last about as long as a fart in the wind. That includes pretending to be a cocky, bad boy when you're, in fact, a sensitive geeky type.
3) Be completely open and honest with each other. A relationship that becomes a routine of hidden feelings and insincere flattery is doomed to fail.
And that's it.
And if you don't believe me. I've been with my girlfriend for a total of two years. We have lived together for 16 months. We work and play together and we have had a total of zero fights. We have had several disagreements and differences of opinion but we have always been able to sort through any differences quickly using compromise and without resorting to shouting matches and sulking.