Originally posted by FMF
That might work as an encouragement or rebuke to someone else for their behaviour, but explain how it would govern your own beahviour. Perhaps I am missing some aspect of what you are getting at here.
It’s simple, really: Would I wish me upon myself (based on how I actually treat others)? Why or why not, to what degree? And can that thought inform my future behavior?
Yes, it can certainly be taken as a rebuke (and, in the original, more sharply specific form in which I first came across it, it was just that). But I intend it more as a sharp personalization—for whomever reads it—in the face of facile recitations of this or that version of “the golden rule”. And this version struck me as one that seems to embody a certain “karmic” justice. That seems to me to be something of a twist on the way that many people seem to think of it.
I personally have always favored Hillel’s version: “What you do not like done to yourself, do not do unto others.”
But who can really object to it? “However you treat others, I only wish you upon yourself.” Seems pretty straightforward. And you (that’s the general “you” ) can decide for yourself about what is treating others “well or badly”. If you don’t wish to have you wished upon yourself—then change, so that you would be fine with it. [Again, the general “you”, there.] Or don’t.
It also stands against attempts at deflection: I’ll worry about me—it’s only you
that I wish upon you, not myself with my judgments.
Now, that stands as the kind of long-winded explanation that I was not going to do—but, with you (the personal “you” here: FMF), I take it as an honest question that may address something that seems missing. On the other hand, I think that there are any number of such questions that can be prized out of that simple statement—if people are actually willing to consider it seriously—without my explanations.
And so, I will not myself wander further afield—
Whether you treat others well or badly,
I only wish you upon yourself.
EDIT: Maybe one could assume, for argument's sake, that my wishes are, in just this case, efficacious.